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06 Aug 2011, 8:44 am

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Why is dating considerably easier after 40.


is it? 8O


Since when? I think it got harder. Expectations of maturity level increases and I don't feel or act my age, no matter how hard I may try to it just didn't work. So gave up on trying and that doesn't work either.


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...and it wasn't exactly easy to begin with.



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06 Aug 2011, 9:34 am

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I find this statement incredulous as well...


Then you're right, because I'm a...

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...what I really meant was:

"I can't believe that no-one wants to be with you."

Is this right?!

A-hem.



lol. Funny boys.



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06 Aug 2011, 12:04 pm

I think it's easier for guys over 40 because lots of women tend to go for older guys & the older women have fewer options sense there are fewer older guys to go around so they are more wiling to compromise & try to make things work smoothly sense they have fewer options


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06 Aug 2011, 3:38 pm

nick007 wrote:
I think it's easier for guys over 40 because lots of women tend to go for older guys


This I can kinda agree with.

nick007 wrote:
& the older women have fewer options sense there are fewer older guys to go around so they are more wiling to compromise & try to make things work smoothly sense they have fewer options


Or in some cases, the women may have all of a sudden had the vomit in back of throat response when they realised they are as old as the mother of the guy they are 'seeing'. But that might only happened if the mother points it out over a family dinner.
So the 40ish females start looking at the older guys more.

(and another name I recognise.. wish I could remember mine)



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06 Aug 2011, 5:26 pm

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I've already tried sex-based relationships and believe it or not, I prefer being single. I find them soul-destroying...


W00T! W00T! One more pro to being soulless.

Let's see, the pro's so far are:

Be as rich as Bill Gates.
Be as powerful as George Bush was.
Enjoy sex as much and as often as Hugh Hefner does.

Why wouldn't someone be soulless? :lol:



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06 Aug 2011, 5:31 pm

InsomniacDreams wrote:
aspi-rant wrote:
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Why is dating considerably easier after 40.


is it? 8O


Since when? I think it got harder. Expectations of maturity level increases and I don't feel or act my age, no matter how hard I may try to it just didn't work. So gave up on trying and that doesn't work either.


Personally, I think it's ridiculous things become far easier at some relatively arbitrary age. After a person's birthday, that person remains themselves for some reason.



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06 Aug 2011, 5:40 pm

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So gave up on trying and that doesn't work either.


Giving up on expecting does the trick. :wink:



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06 Aug 2011, 5:44 pm

I was going to come in here the other day and say (insert number here) minutes until Grisha posts, but he had already posted!! :evil:

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06 Aug 2011, 5:47 pm

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I was going to come in here the other day and say (insert number here) minutes until Grisha posts, but he had already posted!! :evil:

:P


Only Emlion is faster, my dear. 8)



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06 Aug 2011, 8:09 pm

swbluto wrote:
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So gave up on trying and that doesn't work either.


Giving up on expecting does the trick. :wink:


Ok, so then how do we get the 'normal' people to do that? To 'give up on expecting' everyone to act 'normal'.



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06 Aug 2011, 8:18 pm

InsomniacDreams wrote:
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So gave up on trying and that doesn't work either.


Giving up on expecting does the trick. :wink:


Ok, so then how do we get the 'normal' people to do that? To 'give up on expecting' everyone to act 'normal'.


You don't, you just give up on expecting "normal people" to give up their expectations.



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06 Aug 2011, 8:23 pm

Oh I agree with that, but still frustrating when you get evaluated on presentations and your response(s) don't fit their nice, neat, little boxes.



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06 Aug 2011, 8:30 pm

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Oh I agree with that, but still frustrating when you get evaluated on presentations and your response(s) don't fit their nice, neat, little boxes.


I can imagine. Work seems to be fundamentally a social hierarchy with economic motivations, and so interacting with NTs who dominate the work force can be frustrating. Personally, I'm trying to short-circuit the typical social hierarchy by constructing my own, so I hopefully won't have to deal with that crap. I still interact with NTs, but not in a way where my employment is threatened (Either by stagnation, demotion or firing as decided by someone else.).



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06 Aug 2011, 8:56 pm

swbluto wrote:
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Oh I agree with that, but still frustrating when you get evaluated on presentations and your response(s) don't fit their nice, neat, little boxes.


I can imagine. Work seems to be fundamentally a social hierarchy with economic motivations, and so interacting with NTs who dominate the work force can be frustrating. Personally, I'm trying to short-circuit the typical social hierarchy by constructing my own, so I hopefully won't have to deal with that crap. I still interact with NTs, but not in a way where my employment is threatened (Either by stagnation, demotion or firing as decided by someone else.).


Speaking from experience, you are definitely on the right track.

It's easier said than done, but the benefits are enormous - not the least of which is the leverage to seek compensation for your skills at their true value rather than what some NT
manager decides to pay you...



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06 Aug 2011, 9:09 pm

Grisha wrote:
swbluto wrote:
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Oh I agree with that, but still frustrating when you get evaluated on presentations and your response(s) don't fit their nice, neat, little boxes.


I can imagine. Work seems to be fundamentally a social hierarchy with economic motivations, and so interacting with NTs who dominate the work force can be frustrating. Personally, I'm trying to short-circuit the typical social hierarchy by constructing my own, so I hopefully won't have to deal with that crap. I still interact with NTs, but not in a way where my employment is threatened (Either by stagnation, demotion or firing as decided by someone else.).


Speaking from experience, you are definitely on the right track.

It's easier said than done, but the benefits are enormous - not the least of which is the leverage to seek compensation for your skills at their true value rather than what some NT
manager decides to pay you...


For me it is not work that it is happening at. I am a 'mature' student studying in Wales, but I am from Canada, so I am also trying to learn the social interactions here. Which are different in many ways, yet similar.

Anyway, we kinda slipped away from dating. But it still has to do with general topic, I think anyway.



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09 Aug 2011, 7:14 pm

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I don't think there are many younger men willing to form a relationship with an older single mother. (I'm 43). Yes, they'd be happy to have sex with me (and really, who wouldn't? :wink: :wink: ), but that's not what I'm looking for. Plus, and I hate myself for saying this, I don't find many younger men to be ... respectworthy. They're almost "too young" to me, in attitudes and maturity, etc. And yet I can't bring myself to date older men, either. It's my own fault, really.


I might be interested in forming a relationship with an older woman - that part wouldn't bother me. The single mum part would though.

And yes I probably would be up for sexytimes. ;)


Why? I'm just curious.


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