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15 Aug 2011, 11:42 pm

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She pretended to like me, just like she pretends to care about other people. She doesn't.

No, she didn't take money from me (though I'm sure we would've had we met in real life), but I've had plenty of other women do that.

it sounds like she was nice to you and eventually didn't want to date you when you asked. that doesn't make her a bad person in the slightest. she didn't do anything wrong at all. if she wasn't interested in you, that doesn't turn her into a user and abuser.


Nice try straw man argument, but I guess that's what the sisterhood has to resort to. I didn't ask her out...she lives in another part of the country. I just wanted to be friends (and she PMed me FIRST), but she wouldn't be friends once she saw how ugly I was. Yes, that does make her emotionally abusive.

it's a bit odd that you sent her a picture. i've made friends with many people on here and didn't send them pictures.

it's not a sisterhood - it's the fact she has been nothing but a decent person on here to so many people. i don't believe for a second that she would have ever done anything wrong to you, just based on both the public and private support she has given on here.

EDIT: this is better left to a PM between you and her, or you can talk to mods if you have a problem. but attempting character assassination is underhanded and futile. it only makes YOU look bad.


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16 Aug 2011, 2:51 am

...the feeling one gets when they dip their biscuit into milk for too long and the biscuit breaks off into the milk...I have that feeling now after reading this thread :(



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16 Aug 2011, 3:17 am

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...the feeling one gets when they dip their biscuit into milk for too long and the biscuit breaks off into the milk...I have that feeling now after reading this thread :(


Oh yeah. I hate it when that happens :lol:

Back OT: Don't go looking for love in general, look for the right person.



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16 Aug 2011, 5:20 am

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I wrote to you trappedinhell.

stilldays there is hope.


Still using and abusing men, huh?

Trappedinhell and stilldays, run like hell.


I don't see how wishing someone well constitutes abusing men.

I consider this to be a personal attack. Don't do it again.

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16 Aug 2011, 11:50 am

I am not manipulative. When I message people on here I do it with friendly intent. I am sorry if this has ever been misunderstood but I am quite clear in my boundaries.

I am going through a really rough time and frankly cannot take being attacked using misinformation. I apologize to the OP whose thread has been derailed.



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16 Aug 2011, 12:49 pm

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Yeah, I'm the one spreading the misinformation, yet you can't specify what misinformation I gave.

I gave you the courtesy of not mentioning you in he other thread, but no more. You don't deserve privacy protection.

If I were you I´d be carefull, considering that you just received a warning and the next thing is a ban.

As for the cut in your communication you have to accept that sh*t happens and sometimes things dont go as well as we expected them to go and its normal that a relationship ends. Perhaps you deserve some sort of explanation I´d have given you that but the way you attacked her on this thread shows that you dont deserve one, at least right now.

Ive been on the same spot and its hard seeing a member you tried to get in touch with getting in touch with other people and "move on". On my experience a kind message about how much you miss talking to the other person is far more helpfull than attacking the other person publicaly.
I understand that a public attack can be quite tempting at certain times but imo it doesnt help that much(you may feel better for sometime but you just put an end to things yourself whereas you could have asked the other person to give you another chance after sometime.)

I hope that someday you are able to "forgive"her(bolded to avoid possible misunderstandings) and perhaps try to start another friendship once you understand that the other person hasnt made a lifetime commitment of exchanging pms and things can end abruptly for reasons unrelated to the sender/receiver and their appearance.


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16 Aug 2011, 12:56 pm

Spongy, you're a voice of reason in an unreasonable world.


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16 Aug 2011, 12:58 pm

So ban me. I don't care anymore.



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17 Aug 2011, 2:57 am

Moog wrote:
Spongy, you're a voice of reason in an unreasonable world.


At 161 years old he most likely has a lot of wisdom to share :P



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18 Aug 2011, 6:11 pm

SadAspy wrote:
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She pretended to like me, just like she pretends to care about other people. She doesn't.

No, she didn't take money from me (though I'm sure we would've had we met in real life), but I've had plenty of other women do that.

it sounds like she was nice to you and eventually didn't want to date you when you asked. that doesn't make her a bad person in the slightest. she didn't do anything wrong at all. if she wasn't interested in you, that doesn't turn her into a user and abuser.


Nice try straw man argument, but I guess that's what the sisterhood has to resort to. I didn't ask her out...she lives in another part of the country. I just wanted to be friends (and she PMed me FIRST), but she wouldn't be friends once she saw how ugly I was. Yes, that does make her emotionally abusive.


Are you sure it was that? I wouldn't be friends with you based on your toxic attitude no matter what you looked like. It's not always about looks.



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19 Aug 2011, 1:21 am

hale_bopp wrote:
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She pretended to like me, just like she pretends to care about other people. She doesn't.

No, she didn't take money from me (though I'm sure we would've had we met in real life), but I've had plenty of other women do that.

it sounds like she was nice to you and eventually didn't want to date you when you asked. that doesn't make her a bad person in the slightest. she didn't do anything wrong at all. if she wasn't interested in you, that doesn't turn her into a user and abuser.


Nice try straw man argument, but I guess that's what the sisterhood has to resort to. I didn't ask her out...she lives in another part of the country. I just wanted to be friends (and she PMed me FIRST), but she wouldn't be friends once she saw how ugly I was. Yes, that does make her emotionally abusive.


Are you sure it was that? I wouldn't be friends with you based on your toxic attitude no matter what you looked like. It's not always about looks.


And if it wasn't my "toxic attitude," you'd find some other excuse like every woman has.



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19 Aug 2011, 4:07 am

SadAspy wrote:
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SadAspy wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
SadAspy wrote:
She pretended to like me, just like she pretends to care about other people. She doesn't.

No, she didn't take money from me (though I'm sure we would've had we met in real life), but I've had plenty of other women do that.

it sounds like she was nice to you and eventually didn't want to date you when you asked. that doesn't make her a bad person in the slightest. she didn't do anything wrong at all. if she wasn't interested in you, that doesn't turn her into a user and abuser.


Nice try straw man argument, but I guess that's what the sisterhood has to resort to. I didn't ask her out...she lives in another part of the country. I just wanted to be friends (and she PMed me FIRST), but she wouldn't be friends once she saw how ugly I was. Yes, that does make her emotionally abusive.


Are you sure it was that? I wouldn't be friends with you based on your toxic attitude no matter what you looked like. It's not always about looks.


And if it wasn't my "toxic attitude," you'd find some other excuse like every woman has.


Why are you saying it was because of your picture?



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19 Aug 2011, 4:57 am

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