Boyfriend left me at the mall by myself

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I met up with my boyfriend at the mall and we had fun but his friend decided to pick him up because he wanted to hang out so my boyfriend walked with me to the food crout of the mall and went in the car with his friend and he left me alone at the mall. There was alot of people there because it was saturday and I was alone in crowds of people and I was walking there to find my mom because she was there to and I was walking to meet up with her but there was to many people every where and I got angry and I started to run. So I was running through mall like a crazy person because the noice and amounts of the people made me angry. And then this cop yelled at me for running wich only made me run faster. Until I ended up in the parking garadge. I found my mom she was waiting for me in her car and I got in the car and started crying. That whole thing isnt conciderd a meltdown though is it? And does any one else hate the mall on saturdays?

I hate malls anytime. Thank God for Amazon.

I never cared much for crowds, and I'm an NT. At best they are...annoying. At times they've been unnerving.

1. I do not want to critizise your boyfriend, but I consider what he did is rude. He was with you. It was not nice leaving you there to go out with someone else who "wanted to hang out with him". You do not do that, and less to your girlfriend.

2. Yes, I think you had a meltdown.

3. My husband hate the malls any day of the week. We just avoid malls as much as possible.

That sounds like a meltdown to me.
*Awkward aspie hug*

You were fine with the crowds and noise when your boyfriend was there so why was it so difficult after he left?

If you stopped and sat on a bench in the middle of it you would have realized, it's just noise and commotion and won't hurt you.

If it a meltdown why does this seem like the frist one I can rember? I have had meltdowns before but not since I was a litle kid. Why do I sudenly have one in my teenage years?

This sounds very familiar to me, and although it's shameful to admit, I ran out of a mall or two leaving my then girlfriend wondering where I'd gone. How I didnt get a slap for that I'll never know.

In my case it usually feels like I'm shrinking away from my skin and then the adrenaline kicks in. Bright lights, people moving around with no apparent rules as to when they can stop or what side of the walkway to stay on, having to choose on the fly what you want to do... retail therapy, yeah right.

If I could muster up the self awareness to notice it happening before it got too bad, I'd go somewhere I felt safer. Usually a music or bookshop or some out of the way bench. Sometimes it escalated too fast and a few occasions I've ended up a mile or so away with no recollection of how I got there. I don't really know a definition of a meltdown, but that lack of control seems to meet what most people I've seen call them.

This made me lol.

Your so-called "boyfriend" is a jerk! If you are hanging out with someone and then suddenly switch plans like that, they are not worth keeping around. No wonder you had a meltdown I'm so sorry!

I'm so sorry that happened and don't blame you for being upset. I hope you let him know that ditching someone like that, especially his girlfriend, is not okay.

That guy pretending to be your boyfriend sucks!

*awkward side hug*

The least he could have done was make sure you were with your mum before he took off. Try talking to him and explaining that what he did hurt you. Perhaps he didn't realise that you'd react the way you did once he had left.