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04 Oct 2011, 12:57 pm

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Even if I'm willing to try some of these, they cost money (in some cases, it may only be gas and wear and tear on my car, but that's still SOMETHING).


I'm sure there's plenty of stuff that's free. Youth groups? Young adult groups? Can't you see people from that aspie group you go to outside of the group?

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Then why do you bother lecturing me?


Because I'm trying to make you help yourself. I can't so I may as well not bother.

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And I owe nothing to it. Hopefully, this horrible world will get what's coming to it.


That won't happen until we start moving out of the dark ages.

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You just bring out a strong reaction in me. You represent everything that is wrong with women.


Not sure what you mean, but it can't be anything good. What's wrong with women again, that I am? I'm not a gold digger, and I'm not look driven. What else is wrong with women?

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I haven't seen many pics. Can you name the ones that are worse-looking and/or poorer than me?


No, because I don't know what you look like, like I said several times in other threads. And the only person I know of who ISN'T poor seems to be Grisha.

You just said that the people on WP who have GFs are better looking than you. How do you know if you have not seen their pics?



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04 Oct 2011, 1:16 pm

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I'm sure there's plenty of stuff that's free. Youth groups? Young adult groups?


Again, there's still transportation costs. Anyway, I generally don't like to leave the house...so that means I deserve to be alone for the rest of my life?

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Can't you see people from that aspie group you go to outside of the group?


I do some, but they are all guys.

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Not sure what you mean, but it can't be anything good. What's wrong with women again, that I am? I'm not a gold digger, and I'm not look driven. What else is wrong with women?


You're very picky, and you seem to resent kind, chivalrous men. And you think a man is supposed to do all the work in relationships.

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You just said that the people on WP who have GFs are better looking than you. How do you know if you have not seen their pics?


It's speculation, just like it's speculation with you thinking the opposite.



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04 Oct 2011, 1:25 pm

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Again, there's still transportation costs. Anyway, I generally don't like to leave the house...so that means I deserve to be alone for the rest of my life?


No, it just means you will have much less of a chance than others because you choose not to do anything.

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I do some, but they are all guys.


Does this matter? Can't you do things with them where girls are, like ten pin bowling, hobby clubs or stuff?

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You're very picky,


Should I choose to be miserable just so people can have a girlfriend? Sorry buddy, but no-one in their right mind is going to choose that.

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you seem to resent kind, chivalrous men.


WTF, no I don't. For the record, you're not kind. You just said I represent every woman who has ever done anything scummy.

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And you think a man is supposed to do all the work in relationships.


Now you're just making things up. That has no basis on anything I've ever said, ever.



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04 Oct 2011, 2:17 pm

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And before you say looks, not every aspie here is "hot" or whatever, but somehow still manage to get GF's? It's not looks.


Everyone can get a girlfriend because there is someone out there for everyone. He just cannot get the woman of his dreams or the one that he feels an irresistable attraction to.

Personally I don't see the point of getting a girlfriend just for the sake of it.



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04 Oct 2011, 2:21 pm

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And before you say looks, not every aspie here is "hot" or whatever, but somehow still manage to get GF's? It's not looks.


Everyone can get a girlfriend because there is someone out there for everyone. He just cannot get the woman of his dreams or the one that he feels an irresistable attraction to.


I agree with the first part, but I don't think he wants the woman of his dreams, just someone to give him a chance. And the reason he's not getting this is he's not putting himself out there.

If he used WP as a place to have fun and socialise instead of b***h and moan, he might have more luck in meeting a girl here.

Edit: Actually You are right. I remember him saying he only wants a white woman.

Plenty of women in the philipenes and Thailand would love to have him. Those cultures bestow a lot of value on white men.



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04 Oct 2011, 3:53 pm

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No, it just means you will have much less of a chance than others because you choose not to do anything.


Just because I don't do anything now doesn't mean that's always been the case. I went out quite a bit when I was in grad school....guess what? I GOT REJECTED BY WOMEN 100% OF THE TIME.

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Does this matter? Can't you do things with them where girls are, like ten pin bowling, hobby clubs or stuff?


I've gone bowling...where are these supposed girls?

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Should I choose to be miserable just so people can have a girlfriend? Sorry buddy, but no-one in their right mind is going to choose that.


No, you should recognize that you're not perfect and as such, aren't entitled to a perfect partner.

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WTF, no I don't. For the record, you're not kind.


You said I had ulterior motives in holding a door open for a woman. Seriously, this type of attitude is what irritates me to no end. That's like saying that people who donate to charity are just doing it enhance their reputation or alleviate their guilt. So friggin' what? It really doesn't matter why someone does a good deed. Did Oskar Schindler's desire to make money change the fact that he saved lives? NO!

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You just said I represent every woman who has ever done anything scummy.


Calling it as I see it.

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Now you're just making things up. That has no basis on anything I've ever said, ever.


Have you ever approached a guy? Taken the initiative in a relationship?

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If he used WP as a place to have fun and socialise instead of b***h and moan, he might have more luck in meeting a girl here.


LOL....I've tried talking to girls here in a fun and sociable way, and they've driven me to cutting and suicidal thoughts. Again, no different from women in real life.

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Actually You are right. I remember him saying he only wants a white woman.


Uh....considering there are tens of millions of white women out there, that's not being very picky.



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04 Oct 2011, 4:30 pm

lol you could always try the website Ok.cupid......that can help with the meeting people part. Just put some info about yourself on the profile and if someone likes what they see they'll probably talk to you. I recommend looking for people near you though that you can actually go meet up with in person as I think online relationships are kind of stupid.

I'm not gonna lie it worked for me...and I even put that I have depression, anxiety and other issues and no real direction in my life right now cause I figured i better mention my potential turn offs up front so guys who have an issue with those things would not talk to me.



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04 Oct 2011, 4:42 pm

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lol you could always try the website Ok.cupid......that can help with the meeting people part. Just put some info about yourself on the profile and if someone likes what they see they'll probably talk to you. I recommend looking for people near you though that you can actually go meet up with in person as I think online relationships are kind of stupid.

I'm not gonna lie it worked for me...and I even put that I have depression, anxiety and other issues and no real direction in my life right now cause I figured i better mention my potential turn offs up front so guys who have an issue with those things would not talk to me.


Uh....men have it much harder on a dating site than women...mainly because the male-female ratio is worse than a Star Trek convention.

Believe me, I've spent lots of money on dating sites and only ever got one response that was a rejection.



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04 Oct 2011, 5:06 pm

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lol you could always try the website Ok.cupid......that can help with the meeting people part. Just put some info about yourself on the profile and if someone likes what they see they'll probably talk to you. I recommend looking for people near you though that you can actually go meet up with in person as I think online relationships are kind of stupid.

I'm not gonna lie it worked for me...and I even put that I have depression, anxiety and other issues and no real direction in my life right now cause I figured i better mention my potential turn offs up front so guys who have an issue with those things would not talk to me.


Uh....men have it much harder on a dating site than women...mainly because the male-female ratio is worse than a Star Trek convention.

Believe me, I've spent lots of money on dating sites and only ever got one response that was a rejection.


Well that ones free......otherwise I would have never bothered with it. Why pay for something that does not garantee anything.



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05 Oct 2011, 2:43 am

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Just because I don't do anything now doesn't mean that's always been the case. I went out quite a bit when I was in grad school....guess what? I GOT REJECTED BY WOMEN 100% OF THE TIME.


Did you actually know these people? How high are your standards?

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No, you should recognize that you're not perfect and as such, aren't entitled to a perfect partner.


I don't expect a perfect partner. All the men I've dated are far from perfect. What I do expect though is a partner I'm attracted to.

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You said I had ulterior motives in holding a door open for a woman. Seriously, this type of attitude is what irritates me to no end. That's like saying that people who donate to charity are just doing it enhance their reputation or alleviate their guilt. So friggin' what? It really doesn't matter why someone does a good deed. Did Oskar Schindler's desire to make money change the fact that he saved lives? NO!


You do. You wanted some sort of positive gratification from the woman for doing it. You got pissed off because you did not get that.

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Have you ever approached a guy? Taken the initiative in a relationship?


Um yes, if you'd read any of my other posts, you'd know this. I've approached every guy I've ever dated and made my feelings clear.

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Uh....considering there are tens of millions of white women out there, that's not being very picky.


Have you asked out obese women with no friends? Or women with 3 kids? I doubt it.



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06 Oct 2011, 6:53 pm

I do hope this member get his depression in order and as I can speak from experiences you''ll find the things that apparently matter , once treated are not important the GF , friends (yes I chased these things as a depressive and yes it was a pathetic and pitiful look) material success etc etc .







So much untapped potential around here :cry: sadly in large part due to aspie life experiences I spent nearly a 1/3 of my life on disability due to these experiences due to this torment/stupidity of others (DR) so I now know to stay well away from people all they do is cause collateral damage even in my time of need my family though it was appropriate to go on the attack according to my GP I developed the "refugee mentality" ie believed what was said about me that I was a charlatan/slacker and did not deserve disability and I believed it 8O I became terrified that they would cut me off , even after being repeatedly told by my GP it ain't going to happen.







His a conservative Catholic and thinks I should give them the flick what does that tell you? hopefully when you get on the meds you'll have some one their to help you along as apposed to get stuck in to you.







Health,pets, :D affordable special interests :) (well not so special though special enough) what more could aspie want ?


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06 Oct 2011, 6:58 pm

I'm sorry, but animefan is a serious MOPE addict. You have a job, and you have money - you need to speculate to ejaculate, as it were.

Things cost money - hell, the web connection that you're moaning on costs money. The Coke you drink costs money. The food you scarf down costs money. Everything costs a little money. Some hobbies are just a little more expensive than others.

Sometimes, you just have to go do something with your life.

Where do you live, animefan? Do you like doing anything other than moaning? I mean, I'm a moaning, depressive, obese, uncoordinated, lazy, bigoted, greedy, ignorant, tired scrote who isn't working but even I have interests. Think about it and what you want to do.



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06 Oct 2011, 6:58 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
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The ones I know in real life have few interests.


Really. That doesn't mean it's not possible. I know a lot of boring people but also HEAPS of interesting aspies, too.

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Yet you can't even name one.


cooking
baking
skydiving
rock climbing
going to the gym
painting
drawing
crafts
cake decorating
boxing
book clubs
UFO conventions
(insert just about anything in the world here) fan clubs
toast masters
photography
astronomical society
Card games clubs
role playing clubs
Animal shelters
Fundraising for a good cause
feed the homeless
plants and nature
gardening clubs
Youth groups
Young professional social groups
ten pin bowling
boats
building things
business as a hobby
sewing
yoga
spirituality groups

For god sake, if my reasonably small town has over 400 up and coming events (http://www.eventfinder.co.nz/), you can't honestly tell me there is nothing you can do or find.

It's not my job to find something for you, it's yours. I don't know what you're willing to try.

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It is others' fault. I did everything society expected of me....followed the rules, was polite to people, and got an education....what's my reward? I'm broke, alone, and living in my parents' house. This society SUCKS!


You seem to think society owes you something. It doesn't. If you want proof of that look at the people just struggling to stay alive every day. If your degree is worthless, train in something that isn't worthless. No-one is in control except you.

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I'm on medication.


Well it doesn't seem to work.

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I never said it was entirely the fault of Aspergers. The guys here who have GF's are better-looking and/or have money.


lol really. Can you name them please? Bet you can't.


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06 Oct 2011, 7:00 pm

If you like politics (and you can at least tangentially get along with people), try doing that - helping back office. I did that for a little while.



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06 Oct 2011, 7:39 pm

Well the op is right about cost ,most activities women like especially so at his age are poision to most of us.



Lets face it most aspie men just want to sit on the #$%e drinking their $2.75 750 ml bottles of homebrew while playing video games. :D

Most women are not interested in these sort of activities, they would probably find it pitiful and pathetic, I don't why would I want to make myself less pitiful and go out and make myself interesting to people while I slug down $9 pints of inferior beer (next to my homebrew all beers are inferior :cry: apart from Chimay and it's ilk.)

Why do you have a money pit ? (car)


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06 Oct 2011, 8:10 pm

Can you make a good, strong, very coffeeish, roasted porter/stout, at around 6%? Wow, I have a new best friend!

Send five 750ml bottles over for tonight's consumption, please. ;-)