The truth about love and dating

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TheWingman
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05 Oct 2011, 7:14 am

As beautiful as love looks like, it's just a natural process of selection. It's just a way to take the individual unworhty to reproduce out of the gene pool.



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05 Oct 2011, 7:58 am

If that were true, it seems like there wouldn't be any ugly people around, wouldn't it?


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05 Oct 2011, 8:43 am

ugly people have sex with ugly people because its better to have an ugly partner to help you pass along your genes then no partner at all.



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05 Oct 2011, 10:02 am

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ugly people have sex with ugly people because its better to have an ugly partner to help you pass along your genes then no partner at all.

there are many couples where on partner seems quite a lot better looking than the other. this is because looks aren't the most important criteria to everyone.


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05 Oct 2011, 10:43 am

It doesn't have to be about looks. It could be smarts, talents and skills, wealthiness, social skills, etc

The people born w/o those things are pretty much destined to be lonely forever.


I know it isn't fair, and I know people here don't want to believe because it clashes with their "optimism" but it's true.



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05 Oct 2011, 10:45 am

"Oh, darling," she whispered in his ear, "your broad shoulders and your and 6'3 height makes you so imposing that I subconsciously feel safe with you against predators, and your income level is such that you can provide me with a comfortable environment to bear children. Kiss me!"

Lance kissed his new acquisition long and hard, then looked deep into her naturally blue eyes, whose unusual hue set her apart from the sea of brown eyed wenches and ensured her continued reproduction. "And I, my lovely," he said in a deep baritone voice which marked his masculinity in an easily identifiable way, "love your symmetrical facial features which indicate genetic superiority and large breasts which I subconsciously know will provide milk for our offspring. let us drive in my expensive car to my enormous house and engage in coitus over and over again."


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05 Oct 2011, 10:48 am

hyperlexian wrote:
thedaywalker wrote:
ugly people have sex with ugly people because its better to have an ugly partner to help you pass along your genes then no partner at all.

there are many couples where on partner seems quite a lot better looking than the other. this is because looks aren't the most important criteria to everyone.


This is true.
Males tend to focus on looks when assessing a potential mate, whereas women tend to focus on power, status, wealth, ability to take care of the family etc.
Of course, a lot of these things are happening unconsciously. But the funny thing is that a lot of guys (men) are really frank about them preferring looks over other attributes.



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05 Oct 2011, 10:53 am

MR20 wrote:
The people born w/o those things are pretty much destined to be lonely forever.

I know it isn't fair, and I know people here don't want to believe because it clashes with their "optimism" but it's true.


I think that what you just wrote here is like politely saying: "There is no God".



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05 Oct 2011, 11:02 am

MR20 wrote:
It doesn't have to be about looks. It could be smarts, talents and skills, wealthiness, social skills, etc

The people born w/o those things are pretty much destined to be lonely forever
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I know it isn't fair, and I know people here don't want to believe because it clashes with their "optimism" but it's true.


Bollox. These are all things that can be cultivated, they are not genetically predisposed :roll:


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05 Oct 2011, 11:02 am

Afr0 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
thedaywalker wrote:
ugly people have sex with ugly people because its better to have an ugly partner to help you pass along your genes then no partner at all.

there are many couples where on partner seems quite a lot better looking than the other. this is because looks aren't the most important criteria to everyone.


This is true.
Males tend to focus on looks when assessing a potential mate, whereas women tend to focus on power, status, wealth, ability to take care of the family etc.
Of course, a lot of these things are happening unconsciously. But the funny thing is that a lot of guys (men) are really frank about them preferring looks over other attributes.

it's really not universal for men, because you see women who are less typically good-looking than their partners. so maybe those men are not as interested in appearance, or else they may have atypical tastes. honestly i think most people care about looks to some degree, but individual tastes vary a lot.

and women are not universally focused on wealth or status or power either. women have become quite capable of making their own money and gaining their own power. most people are not interested in dating someone who has no money at all, whether that person is male or female.


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05 Oct 2011, 11:08 am

hyperlexian wrote:
Afr0 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
thedaywalker wrote:
ugly people have sex with ugly people because its better to have an ugly partner to help you pass along your genes then no partner at all.

there are many couples where on partner seems quite a lot better looking than the other. this is because looks aren't the most important criteria to everyone.


This is true.
Males tend to focus on looks when assessing a potential mate, whereas women tend to focus on power, status, wealth, ability to take care of the family etc.
Of course, a lot of these things are happening unconsciously. But the funny thing is that a lot of guys (men) are really frank about them preferring looks over other attributes.

it's really not universal for men, because you see women who are less typically good-looking than their partners. so maybe those men are not as interested in appearance, or else they may have atypical tastes. honestly i think most people care about looks to some degree, but individual tastes vary a lot.

and women are not universally focused on wealth or status or power either. women have become quite capable of making their own money and gaining their own power. most people are not interested in dating someone who has no money at all, whether that person is male or female.


I agree, I would at least like to be sexually attracted to a woman if I am going to date her, but I think that men have different things they find attractive when it comes to looks, rather than looks not mattering, just there are a broad spectrum. I like big girls and skinny girls (not too extreme though).

Women are not necessarily interested in wealth or status or power, but at the same time they do not want someone who "lacks ambition". Some women believe having a job means having ambition, which is annoying, as I don't really want to be employed, I want to find a way to make money without doing that.


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05 Oct 2011, 11:13 am

MountZion wrote:
MR20 wrote:
It doesn't have to be about looks. It could be smarts, talents and skills, wealthiness, social skills, etc

The people born w/o those things are pretty much destined to be lonely forever
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I know it isn't fair, and I know people here don't want to believe because it clashes with their "optimism" but it's true.


Bollox. These are all things that can be cultivated, they are not genetically predisposed :roll:


You could be born ugly, like me. You could be born slow and stupid, like me.

You could be born poor, like me.

You could be born with low functioning aspergers, like me.

You could also be born w/o any impressive or useful talents/skills, of course like me.



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05 Oct 2011, 11:13 am

MountZion wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Afr0 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
thedaywalker wrote:
ugly people have sex with ugly people because its better to have an ugly partner to help you pass along your genes then no partner at all.

there are many couples where on partner seems quite a lot better looking than the other. this is because looks aren't the most important criteria to everyone.


This is true.
Males tend to focus on looks when assessing a potential mate, whereas women tend to focus on power, status, wealth, ability to take care of the family etc.
Of course, a lot of these things are happening unconsciously. But the funny thing is that a lot of guys (men) are really frank about them preferring looks over other attributes.

it's really not universal for men, because you see women who are less typically good-looking than their partners. so maybe those men are not as interested in appearance, or else they may have atypical tastes. honestly i think most people care about looks to some degree, but individual tastes vary a lot.

and women are not universally focused on wealth or status or power either. women have become quite capable of making their own money and gaining their own power. most people are not interested in dating someone who has no money at all, whether that person is male or female.


rather than looks not mattering


I never said looks didn't matter? In fact, I pretty much said the exact opposite.



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05 Oct 2011, 11:18 am

Afr0 wrote:
I never said looks didn't matter? In fact, I pretty much said the exact opposite.

it was one of the two options i suggested, so he was replying to that.


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05 Oct 2011, 11:18 am

MR20 wrote:
MountZion wrote:
MR20 wrote:
It doesn't have to be about looks. It could be smarts, talents and skills, wealthiness, social skills, etc

The people born w/o those things are pretty much destined to be lonely forever
.


I know it isn't fair, and I know people here don't want to believe because it clashes with their "optimism" but it's true.


Bollox. These are all things that can be cultivated, they are not genetically predisposed :roll:


You could be born ugly, like me. You could be born slow and stupid, like me.

You could be born poor, like me.

You could be born with low functioning aspergers, like me.

You could also be born w/o any impressive or useful talents/skills, of course like me.


good lord :roll: give it up man, how can you be so miserable. I pity you :(


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05 Oct 2011, 12:01 pm

Biology and genetics are wonderful interests but don't explain anything at all because we have sex FOR FUN!

Smart people know how to use contraception which even prolongs the fun side of it since no brats and alimony can disturb the pleasure.