Meeting single women

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Forget about all the social awkwardness. My problem is that I can never meet a woman who isn't already taken.
Dating sites are garbage. I've never had any success on any of them.
In my personal life, I never meet women anywhere that aren't already taken. Every woman I meet at work, or at school, or at Wal-Mart already has a boyfriend.

I am giving you this advice because you are male - I would not be giving the same advice to a woman and I'll explain why....

Try community college/community center workshops and courses. Woman very often outnumber men at these things.

There is a trick though - take courses that you are genuinely interested in and don't start hitting on women straight away. Participate in the course and be cordial/friendly to everyone - male or female, young or old. Learn the stuff being taught - whether it is sushi making, auto mechanics or basic drawing.

The very worse that will happen - you will learn something interesting. You will get a chance to connect with some like minded people (even if it is just for the duration of the course/workshop) and you might make a few friends. At very best - you might meet someone who you would be interested in pursuing further.

Don't ask anyone out on a date while the course is on - don't attach yourself to someone that you are attracted to (just in case the feeling is not mutual and you make her feel uncomfortable). Try to be easy going and friendly with everyone. If there is someone that you particularly fancy - offer her your contact information (facebook information and ask that she "friend" you or your phone number). This will give HER the opportunity to contact you for further communication in the future. Because you will have taken my advice and been nice to EVERYONE - you will come across as sincere and an all round good person - which she might find quite attractive. If she finds she is mutually interested - great. If she is not interested - she certainly will feel flattered and certainly not have anything bad to say about you.

The reason I don't offer this advice to women is that they already pretty much outnumber the guys 10 to 1 at best. A woman should only take a community college/community center workshop to learn stuff or meet new women friends.

I hope this might be helpful.

CR

^^ This is one of the reasons why I've practically given up on dating and intimate relationship with women. I think that I practically have no chance of ever being happy.

It's because I know that I'm practically wasting my time and have no chance of getting the woman I strongly desire.

Just to throw that out there: Sometimes women say "I have a boyfriend" when they really mean "I'm not interested."

There is something like 1.05:1 or so male to female birth ratio. You can't fix this by improving the dating skills of all the males any more than you can fix unemployment by improving everyone's interviewing skills. The real problem in both cases is that are simply more keys than slots. Good and effective advice given to one individual will soon be followed by all, and then you're back to the same problem again.

The main point is to improve overall social skills and put oneself into places where one is most likely to meet potentially single people who share similar demographics and interests.

I remember being 20 years old and doing some volunteer work at a Girl Scout troupe. I enjoyed working with the young girls, but my own mum mentioned to me (very single and not having a big female friend social circle) that I might try volunteering where I would meet more people my own age. At the troupe - I was meeting 12 year old girls and their parents. Although I enjoyed helping with this troupe, my mum was correct - I was not meeting my own needs at this time. I would have been better off volunteering at a community garden or at a political event where there would have been more people my age and who share my interests and then I could have developed friendships and (possibly) something more.

I also noted another respondent who quoted the birth ratio of males to females. Regardless of the overall stats of men to women - again, the point is to increase ones odds. Sitting alone in ones room playing video games will not increase ones odds. Developing social skills, interests, and putting oneself into social scenes where there is likely to be people (including available members of the opposite sex) will certainly increase one's odds. In any event - even if one doesn't meet a romantic partner - they will still be enjoying their interests and meeting people who share these interests. Not a bad consolation prize ....

1 - Don't bother wasting your time on dating websites. They're bogus. The only women who make themselves available are the really fat and ugly ones, and all the pretty ones are just looking for a male-model.

2 - Walmart? Come on, you can do better than that. Walmart is a place to get DVD's, Cheese Balls, and shower curtains. Not women.

3 - Do what CanadianRose said. I had no luck meeting women when i went to community college, but when i transferred to a fine arts school, I started meeting more and more women every day. And don't even worry about whether or not you're going to date them or hook up with them. It's more important that you have an active social life with lots of women, even if they're just friends. Because it will snowball - You'll meet more and more girls, and they're not ALL going to put you in the friend-zone. You just need to hang out with "cliques", go to parties with them and whatnot. Be part of their crowd, ya know?

If you're a cute girl who's in a social clique, chances are you're not going to look at the quiet, awkward kid in class and say "He's cute, I'm going to date him". And why? Because that quiet, awkward kid isn't doing anything to make himself desirable. Try making friends in class, and then see if they'll let you tag along with them when they go do something fun.

If you're like me and like the odd toke every now and then, get some weed and invite a girl to come smoke with you. Most girls in college like to smoke weed. Just don't get so stoned that you get nervous and cant think of anything to say.

Do stuff that's not work, school or Walmart then.

It's how anyone else meets people.

If some guy tried to pick me up in Walmart I'd think there was something wrong with him. I'd stop that straight away unless a girl shows a sign of interest there first.

Well when you're right, you're right. If a girl is even remotely attractive, she will get TONS of messages on a dating site.

I always give the advice to find something that aligns with your interests.

I live live music, especially bands in small clubs. And live music brings the single girls out in force.

I have no intention of going to community college to meet single women because I already have a Bachelor's degree from a 4-year university. So can any of you guys suggest any places (other than at work) where I might meet single women in person? At my work, all the ladies have boyfriends, fiances, and husbands.

Dance classes are said to be predominantly females, try joining a book club(not too sure about this one), or try to look for an activity that attracts females and sounds like it could be a fun experience(Remember that the main idea is to enjoy whatever you are doing and if you meet someone then awesome but if not you should have a great time doing this activity even though you didnt meet a girl).

Salsa dance classes tend to be great for this if you're comfortable and coordinated. Nightclubs tend to be a no no for aspies, they are more dependent on body language and and tend to be an annoyance if you have sensory issues. The best bet is to go to a group that shares a similar interest as you or meet women in parks, libraries or in relaxed environments, it will give you a chance to practice your social skills and build comfort.

i am in an introductory hip-hop dance class. i suck at it, but it doesn't matter as it is good fun and good exercise. anyways something i noticed is that it is 100% women in the class. if there was a man in the class he would be surrounded by women ranging in age from 19 to 50, with half of them single. ballroom dance classes never have enough male partners either. i'd say a dance class of any sort is an awesome idea.

Gender ratios don't matter if you're unattractive.

I've been to universities where there were more women, classes where there were more women, events where there were more women....did no good whatsoever.

Excuse me but Im average/below average on looks and Ive had my fair share of success, it all depends on finding the right activity.

Last march I was the only male at a book signing with hundreds of females and I met quite a few amazing ones(didnt feel like looking for a relationship at the time but I was approached by quite a few of them asking me if I had actually read the book and surprised that I wasnt just a poser). I didnt go there because I knew it was an all female event(the author had to stop its speech about 5 times because he kept referring to the audience as girls and I kept telling him I didnt mind), I went there because I had read about how the author had started selfpublishing his work online and how he got famous by word of mouth so I figured that it could be an interesting read(even though the book cover was filled with hearts)and I gave him a chance, ended up being impressed by his work.

University classes are full of people and most of the people on "one gender"studies try to look for partners on other fields(Im studying to become an IT none of my classmates want to date the few females in my class even though they are quite good looking because they are trying to get over the whole I need to find a girl that shares all my interests and it wouldnt surprise me that the same thing happened at your university.)