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Doesn't seem so dismal to me:

- It sounds like you don't have to worry about having a roof over your head and food to eat - that's a hell of a lot more than I started out with.

- You are definitely not illiterate - your written communication skills are very good, I imagine your other basic skills, at least to the level required for basic employment are also good.

Anything you earn is "upside" - you don't have to worry about meeting your basic needs, you really don't seem to understand what a huge advantage that is.

You've also got some "low-hanging fruit" to harvest - how difficult is it to make a commitment to bathe daily?

Like I said before, who gives a f*ck whether or not it will result in friends/girlfriends? There's an excellent chance that it won't (it didn't for me) , but once you understand that that isn't the point you've won half the battle.

I climbed out of the trailer park with less than you have right now, so don't tell me I don't know what I'm talking about or that you can't do it too.

My dad only finished primary school. His family was so poor some days he just had one meal a day. He could not continue studying because he had to work to support his family. But he enjoyed reading. He is one of the most knowledged persons I know. I started reading because of him. Following his example. My mom did not finish HS, either. My dad worked as carpenter and my mom stayed home. We were poor. But we all studied and got nice jobs. I think all depends on what you want to do with your life. You can coose to be a failure and blame others dor it, but yo can also choose diferently and tryto do something possitive with your life.

You said it yourself. You don't use drugs. That alone is a huge step forward.

Nobody is "special". The only difference between a successful person and a loser is their willingness to grab opportunities when they present themselves. True, rich people have way more opportunities than poor people, but that only means you'll have to work harder to find yours. Unfortunately, your unwillingness to improve yourself is actually driving those opportunities away. No one is going to knock at your door offering you a job, friends, a girlfriend and a diploma: you'll have to hunt for them.

By the way, none of my parents and grandparents graduated either. And yet, just like your grandmother, they always told me that studying is very important if I want to ensure my future. Also, I have some close relatives with schizophrenia (one of them was also an alcoholic; isn't anymore) and another one who was drug-addicted and alcoholic (he was treated 10 years ago, isn't addicted anymore and only drinks socially).

What I'm trying to say is: as much as your relatives erred, it's not enough to justify you following the same path. You are still young: there's much you can do to improve not only your life, but your grandmother's and sister's too.

I knew someone who was poor at 25 and who later became a billionaire. Optimism and effort can pay off. That's a fact.

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I will never be a billionaire, not even a millionaire. You need to be quite healthy and able-bodied in order to make money. I don't even have enough money to see a doctor.

I am in too much health trouble to be wealthy. I have diabetes and liver failure problems. I cannot even wake up in the morning without feeling sick and vomiting. And I vomit a lot which really prevents me from functioning in society.

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One of my dear female friends is quadraplegic, overweight, and has a nurse that attends to her throughout the day (puts her to bed at night, gets her out of bed in the morning) -- but she lives in her own apartment, is a rising political speaker and advocate for those in need of medical help. She's got a bachelors degree and a masters. She'll be visiting Washington D.C. to speak personally with Senators and congressional Representatives, and even has a meeting scheduled with the President.

Yes. Various people in various walks of life have difficulties. But people ARE able to overcome their difficulties and persevere.

EDIT: also, I should add that I'm not trying to diminish anyone's difficulties. I'm not saying 'buck up and do it'. What I am providing, I hope, is an example of courage and hope via my friend. She is a huge inspiration to me.

Sorry to hear it. I wasn't forecasting billionaire status and happy endings for all. My point was narrower. The Great Oz has spoken.

That seems a bit insane, bordering on something out of Jackass.[/quote]

Um . . . but suicide isn't insane?

Sorry, I just don't see why you should let a good death go to waste. Why just expire when you could do something astonishing?

I'm not blaming anyone else. I'm blaming myself because of how pathetically inadequate I am.

What makes you people think I can do any of the stuff you claim I can? I was born a ret*d failure and that's what I am today. I haven't accomplished anything worthwhile in my life; I failed at school, keeping friends, dating, getting a job, driving, etc. People don't call you slow and stupid for no reason. I have no talents or skills that help me stick out. At age 25, I can barely take care of myself as I have my grandma run most of my errands.

So I'm supposed to change dramatically into a different person? Please. There is no hope for me.

You can always get a GED, and work on a lot of stuff, but it doesn't necessarily mean completely changing who you are.

I would f**k you if you where bisexual

Joker, you are awesome. just saying.

Thank you that made me night so much better that means a lot

I'd politely recline. Even if I was "Bi" or whatever.

I think you meant "decline", but if not, this is a hilarious joke!

You're not blaming yourself. You're blaming genetics or fate or circumstances.


Some of us have been where you are, to a greater or lesser extent. We have done the things we claim help and noticed that they helped.


No, you're supposed to try.

You've been given some really excellent advice, why don't you try some of it out?