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if someone asked me to write out 10 things about myself i'd put
1. I'm inconsistent, I've had 4 jobs in the last 2 years.
2. I once, in my adult life, claimed residency in 4 different states of the US in the span of 12 months. Though just earlier this year I bought my first place so have likely settled down.
3. I recently toured europe with a musician friend as her driver. 3 awesome months visiting tons of great places, none of the usual tourist traps.
4. Suburban life is for me. I love the city, but it's too busy and noisy to live there but I like to stay close enough to be only a quick train ride away to be able to enjoy what it offers on a regular basis.
5. The word 'marriage' to me seems like a silly title. I'm looking for someone who isn't looking to get 'married' but is looking for someone to wake up next to every morning and still smile when they do even after 40 years.
6. Have spent an abnormally large amount of my free time in the last ~year watching documentaries. I enjoy most movies but lately all I want to watch are documentaries. I'm about 2/3rds through Morgan Spurlock's 50 documentaries to watch before you die.
7. People who just meet me would say i seem very quiet and observant yet people who have known me for a while would say I never shut up.
8. I don't subscribe to the whole gtl thing, I dont think I could ever justify even paying for a gym membership when just doing something outside is so much more fun. I'm not a runner or jogger, but I enjoy taking my dog for walks and with him it is power walking or nothing lol, it's kind of my regular thing, in the morning when I wake up and at night to wind down after a long day. My most recent thing is roller hockey, play in the city league and have been keeping up with that, getting my roller-blading skills back to where they were at when I was a teenager.
9. I own my own company. Not just a little something on the side. I'm incorporated and have been doing it as a second job for nearly a decade now, though I only incorporated about 3.5 years ago when I finally got to the point where I was making an amount that it was best for tax reasons. I hope one day it could support me as a full time job (though that kind of break in it's field is very unlikely =/)
10. I'm a devout believer in what makes you happy. If you are catholic, buddhist, muslim or an atheist it's all good as long as you are happy with it. (though i do say 'happy' because i find 4 out of 5 people aren't and I like to challenge that and talk about it a lot)





Is this seriously the line of thought people are taking? That if you are not some international playboy millionaire you are average? To me something this incredibly simple minded and stupid almost seems insulting.





Tim, what i'm saying is people tend to notice people who are fake and/or trying to be something they are not (in most cases anyways =P some fall for that guy trying so hard to be mr. cool or the creeper trying to not be one and some make a living out of it lol.)
And yes, everything you put in that list is accurate and describes you but it's not describing who you are. If that's what you go around trying to present to people you will come off as fake because that's not you. You may be able to write an endless list of characteristics that can be defined as normal but they don't, and shouldn't, define you. You're here posting on wrong planet, that instantly makes you not normal. And that's good! You're a member for life of a social click of nerdy geeks that an entire generation of people have spent billions trying to imitate, with technology and 'hipster' appeal and entertainment and any number of other social norms. Embrace that! Look for feedback on those characteristics about yourself.

Willa.....

ohh....

You made me so wet.

you asked

but it was too much.....

my pants.....

I think you have me confused with someone else- I haven't been to PPR in ages.

We don't really argue, although we have terrific debates sometimes.

It's hard, where I'm from, finding a leftist.

Try dating, a Independent, they are really easy to find.

I am wanting to know if there are any other things I need to improve about myself in order to be an excellent partner.

Hi Tim. You sound like the kind of guy many women are looking for, especially women your age. The fact that you seem to strongly identify as Christian and conservative should be helpful in finding an appropriate match; many people, especially today, strongly relate their personal identity to political/religious viewpoints.
Are you looking for advice on improving a singles ad, or advice on improving yourself?
if it's the ad description you want to improve, I think others have already pointed out that it doesn't have much depth. We get your basic stats, but no sense of your personality. I'd like to know what your quirks are, maybe something peculiar you do when you're completely alone, etc

If you're honestly asking us to give advice in how to be a better/more interesting person, I guess:begin with introspection. Sit down and daydream about where you've been, where you are, where you'd like to go, and then bring all of the best and worst of those feelings together, and plan to minimize the bad and accentuate the good,

What exactly would constitute a quirk?

"quirks" in this context probably means "oddities". As examples, some of my known ones:

- I'm described as "twitchy" - if I don't concentrate very carefully, there's always a part of my body that's moving in a way that's visible: wiggling toes, tapping a finger, eye movements that don't quite coordinate, unexpected changes of posture when speaking. When I concentrate carefully I'm unnaturally still. I generally don't look relaxed even when I feel I am.
- My native language these days is English, but I didn't speak a word until I was five. I've already had social situations where I'm tired and by reflex I'm counting things (cards, spaces on a board game, etc.) in another language. For whatever reason this occasionally spooks people.
- I mumble when speaking English, except when I'm drinking. Evidently I enunciate clearly but my voice doesn't seem to carry.

Each of these traits, quirks if you will, handicap me in social situations.

Tim-Tex,

Your attitude and openness, your willingness to get feedback on 'yourself' are what make the difference between a Boy and a Grown Man. With a heartfelt attitude like yours, you are bound to be successful at projecting and magnetizing and harmonizing with the cosmos on this.

One thing I would add, in agreement with a previous poster, is to pay a bit of attention to having some current fashions... I mean, jeans and shirts cut in the style of the last 5-7 years. You can have a preferred personal style (metrosexual, mod, rocker, western dude), or mix it up by wearing lots of plain, hip black t-shirts with whatever pants.

I cannot say enough about the importance of plain black t-shirts for men.

I cannot say enough about the importance of dudes chucking printed t-shirts and there meaningless chatter out of their closets.

And, of course, no stinky men's cologne products that are a dime a dozen. Smell good with natural plant bodycare stuff from the health food store, a drop of pine or sandalwood essential oil. Be the one and only YOU, not a commercial.

Live your life.

I don't even know what the current fashion trends are.

Thanks for commenting on my attitude and openness. I have noticed that quite a lot of people consider being a Christian or a Republican to be a major dealbreaker, because they think we're all a bunch of intolerant pricks. That's what worries me the most. Being a Democrat is not a dealbreaker with me.

Well, what I do to keep fashion-hip is to rely on the fitted classic black tee with jeans or dark grey heather fitted shirt or tee with jeans, and basic black or brown shoes (comfy loafers or mules).

To get current jeans stylin', just go to your nearest good department store and look around the young men's department (the mature men's departments often don't stock the modern fits, sometimes you have to go to an actuals men's store. In a higher-end sotre, such as Nordstroms or Dillard's Men's, usually the people that work there are genuinely happy to help someone update their style, and are knowledgeable. You can always have a look at GQ or Esquire too, which are fashion-forward.

It's the style AND the fit that matter. No good wearing a style that doesn't cover you right, or doesn't move with you (a small bit of spandex is now found in most current menswear, which makes jeans much more comfy).

Boys with bellies need to wear looser fitting shirts, to emphasize shoulders and not accent the preggers look, but they can still wear non-westernwear jeans.

Slim leg trousers are back in style... sort of a 60s look (you can always rent videos of the 1964 TV show "The Mod Squad" for great style education, along with a stellar jazz soundtrack). Warm tan trousers look great with a burgundy/dark red shirt (especially tucked in with a dark belt), and warm brown or dark red pants look great with dark grey shirts (again, tucked in with a dark belt). Good style in America is no longer relegated only to some gay males, but it doesn't men you have to change your whole warddrobe. Just a few pieces will get you on track.

If in doubt, just wear some good blue jeans with grey or black or navy shirt for starters.

For a stylin' modern jacket, go for understated, classic, and modern cut. You can find some nice corduroy sports jackets and euro-style sweaters at the Blairs website (along with some horrifying bad 1980s fashion remnants) or just opt for a basic euro-messenger sort of black jacket that goes with everything (more Kenneth Cole).

Have fun with it, Tim Tex, Rome wasn't built in a day.

P.S.

Glad you are one of those Christian Republicans who is open minded. Christ himself was very humanitarian. Reading his words retranslated out of greek and back from the original aramaic can be very illuminating.

As for the pricks out there, of any religion, they are not noble, spiritual men - that's the bottom line.

Being left of Democrat and very Green myself, I often feel disgusted at the politics of the power-elite, but I try to practice compassion and "presence" on a daily basis with whomever, especially those who I don't like or who I feel are not helping/serving our real society rather than the interests of the large corporations and elite wealthy. I have known some progressive or compassionate Republicans - ya'll are definitely around!

There are couples out there who are extremely different in political views, but I think they are often merged based on wealth-power, or fame-power (Shriver and Schwarzneggar come to mind), and sometimes quite dishonest from the beginning (S and S again), because they are sky-high on the thrill of the opposite. The authentic and lasting partnerships I've observed share similar values and mutual goals - a worthy topic by itself.

Say this, exactly this. Not only is it relevant info, it's interesting and would pique the average person's curiosity.