My current situation

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Well, basically there's this girl in my class who I've been flirting with. She knows that I'm extremely quiet and hard to get to know, yet still shows interest. We unfortunately have only two more days left in class together, and then I might never see her again since she goes to a different school (she's only at my school for two classes).

The problem is that we have not yet even spoken to each other, even though we've been able to communicate a lot about ourselves through nonverbal and indirect communication. Therefore I'm not so sure that I want to jump into a relationship purely based off of that.

Do you guys think she would be upset if I only asked her for her screen name and/or phone number?

I think she's expecting me to just ask her out, so I feel like she might be disappointed to have to wait even longer.


Also: one last thing... Any ideas on what exactly I should say? I'll be pretty nervous so I want to keep it kind of short.

I don't see why she'd be upset if you ask for her number. All she has to do is say "yes" or "no."

Don't act nervous at all. Act like you just want to get to know her better but that you're not worrying that she'll say no.

To be honest, I think it would have been more effective if you had asked her out earlier, however.

I think you should go for it. But what Alex said, try to be casual about it.

If I though she wanted me to ask her out I'd ask her out. It's just that I never feel that message.

In both of my previous relationships, and in all the casual dates I've been on, it was the woman who initiated--so I would be lost in this situation.

Tim

Any ideas on what exactly to say? I don't want to sound like an idiot.

Mate.

at this point.

I'd give up.

While it may seem worth its while.

It isn't.

You don't actually know anything about the girl, never have talked to her.

Are you sure you want the pain?

I'm just playing Devil's Advocate. I support lovers one hundred + percent.

Like what Gamester said, you do not actually know this girl right?
Is it worth the stress to allow her to place you in the rounds?
Even though it seems worthwhile to go through, if you see her outside of school, avoid her at all costs!

Wait, what do you guys mean?

Although I haven't spoken directly to her, it's not like I know nothing about her. For example, I know that we both have an interest in independent film and film music. We have communicated a lot about ourselves to each other during class, just not directly.

Sine.

mate.

You're going off what you've seen in class.

That mate is a bad idea.

Neah.

Trust me. As the res psych/councilor/advisor person on the boards, this stuff that I dealt with a lot in high school and school in general, and people listened to me when I said waht I said.

Ignore Gamester. Come on guys, really, don't kick someone else because you've been hurt in the past.

Rejection is part of life and part of dating, but if you don't try, you'll never learn and you'll never know what could have been.

Sine,

I would say something like "hey, I think you're really cool, I was wondering if we could stay in touch after class? Do you have a screen name?" Its very simple. If she's interested, she'll smile and give you her screen name, if she's not, she won't give you her screen name.


But I do think you should get to know her personally before asking her out officially. If she gives you her screen name, that's a perfect way to start.

Good luck and don't let the others get you down.

Veronica.

I hate to break it to you.

But I'm extremly knowledgeable in situations like this.

I do advise for this.

Buy her flowers, but don't let her know it was from you. send it to her. with a not from anonomous.

are you extremely knowledgable or are you just upset that you're alone and want to rain on someone else's parade? Telling people to "give up" is pretty much the worst advice you can give. Just because you've had bad experiences does not mean that everyone will. I've had bad and good experiences from approaching people, it's really a gamble, but if you don't take it, you will never meet anyone, you'll never get into relationships, and well, you'll never stop being alone.

Also, flowers? what is this, the 50's? In modern times, anonymous bundles of flowers cause way more confusion than admiration. That happened to me a few times and I threw them away. I still don't know who any of those flowers were from and its pretty annoying.

I know its really hard, I'm one of the biggest fools on the planet when it comes to randomly approaching people, but saying something simple like "hey, what's up?" usually works, even if for friendship.

I'm knowledgable. I enjoy being single. I'm dealing right now with an ex girlfriend who may be jealous of me for some reason. I'm not sure. but I'm not lonely. Females are my specility and figuring them out is one thing I'll never be able to do.

I offer advice to people all the time. just a couple of nights ago, a friend who is a hot shot type person imed me asking for advice on his situation. I gave him my opinion then talked to him a day or so later. apparently I'm right with what I said.


Flowers. they may be 50's, but it still works. I use it occasonaly

Dude...

This thread is filled with the man's oppression rays.