Am I ugly?

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1. Look up public transportation in your area. Having a car is a mere luxury that many enjoy. It really doesn't matter if you own one. As I always say if someone cares THAT much about what you do and don't have ...they don't matter. Plus, there are plenty of people that utilize public transportation on an everyday basis. No big deal.

2. Personal hygiene is extremely important. This has nothing to do with your "natural" look. Moisturizers, acne cleansers, deodorants, and colognes are here for a reason. However, if you are gonna sit at home all day and feel sorry for yourself I guess there is no reason to care about any of these things.

3. You don't have to be a genius to be good at something. Ok, so you cant do fractions and time tables....what can you do?! Concentrate on the things you are good at and go from there. I have met plenty of people who are really only good at a couple things......it doesnt make them any less inferior to the people who seem to be good at everything they try. It just makes them different.

4. Try to make an effort to get out of the house. Take a shower, put some clean clothes on, and go for a short walk or even sit under a tree. Just do something other than sitting at home and throwing a pity party for yourself.

5. Quit saying you are ugly and stupid!! !! !! ! Beauty is subjective and intelligence is relative.

great post

You also remind me of Kenan Thompson from the 90's show Kenan & Kel, he's engaged to model Christina Evangeline in that photo. He is a liked guy because he has a positive attitude and makes people around him feel positive in themselves.

I think you should start with things that you are more likely able to change, like lifestyle choices and hygiene (believe me I'm in no place to judge, but you even admit they need work). It's at least a start. That's what I think anyways.

Yeah you can spout all this stuff about personality, positive attitude, and whatnot, but there is a line to as to how ugly you can be. You have to look at least halfway normal in order to get a girl to be interested in you in THAT way. Also with making just plain friends.

Just by looking at me people think I'm ret*d and slow. (which I am) Look at League_Girls post. It's hard for people to respect and treat a person like that as equals.

It definitely doesn't help that I lack the other stuff you mentioned; I suck at humor, I lack charisma, I don't have anything interesting to talk about and I"m not an interesting person. I've often been told that I'm annoying and irritating to be around.

No, but you could stand to close your mouth (in the photo) and cut your hair shorter.

I can surf the web, and I can beat video games on decent difficulties.

Thank you for being halfway honest

That's how I smile, at least that's what I was trying to do.

Kenan is funny, charismatic, halfway famous, (on SNL now) and most of all he's not slow, ret*d looking, poor, or a sped drop out like me.


He looks nothing like me and we are nothing alike.

But also, backin the day I had a lot of hygiene issues, wore clothes that were basically rags, barely went outside and I was special needs so I acted like a pyscho/idiot hybrid and was abominably ugly (people assured me of that all the time) mostly because I didn't take care of my appearance. But I was still able to have girlfriends throughout that time period.

So even if your evaluation about yourself is true, I still think you have a chance, no bull****. Just respect yourself more and take care of your appearance. Nowadays I cleaned up my act for the most part and I'm amazed girls were interested in me back then, but really I've known dudes that were freakin hideous (in my opinion) and had qualities that women generally aren't attracted to personality wise and they still had success. Just saying. That's all I have to contribute.

Be yourself and start being comfortable in yourself because you will become more confident and attract girls that are similar to you. You won't meet them sitting in your home, wallowing in self pity and loathing because you're not giving them a chance to judge you or get to know you, you're telling them who you are through your self defeatist attitude, you aren't giving your positive traits and strengths a chance to grow and shine through.

It's not about being an interesting person, it's about self belief, when I was younger, I was teased and bullied for how I was, some people are just plain shallow and arrogant to judge people without getting to truly know them. I used to think there was something extremely wrong with me, I completely understand why you say you feel inadequate or incapable, I went through line after line of school Councillors and psychoanalysts until I was diagnosed at the largest mental institution in the United Kingdom. I took it upon myself to improve my life, It was only when I started believing in myself, becoming more assertive and making a change in my life that people started to see me as a more desirable and confident person, If anything, It gave me more fight and heart to prove people wrong and achieve success. Your goal should be to prove people wrong and show them that you are an achiever and you deserve a fair chance just like anyone else.

Start building confidence in who you are, people will only patronize you and call you names if you let them, people will only treat you wrongly if you let them and don't take any action. If someone doesn't accept you for you, they simply aren't worth your time and if they are the type of person that gets one over on you by feeding on your insecurities, you should just disregard them and move on.

In other words, don't let the arrogance of others define who you are or dictate your sense of worth or enjoyment and experience in life.

I don't think you're ugly.

Wtf, after all that and you're not ugly at all!

No you are not ugly. Not remotely.