Why is cheating on someone in a relationship wrong?

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Honey, you are really confused. Cheating and poligamy are very different things. Poligamy is consensual; cheating is not. Cheating = lying. What hurts more about the cheating is that your partner has been lying to you all along. You need to be able to trust your partner. If you cannot trust your partner THAT is relevant, and having a relationship is just not possible.

WTF, what kind of question is this?

Cheating is wrong because it is a serious breach of trust that will hurt a person whom you supposedly love.

Polyamory, which I don't have moral issues with as long as all parties are fully aware of what is going on and have agreed to it, is not the same as cheating.

Let me rephrase. It's technically cheating because our society-at least in most western countries- doesn't allow polygamous marriages. So legally speaking, we can only be married to one person at a time even though many peoples' actions show them having multiple long term partners. Even though we legally have to be monogamous, I dont think it comes natural nor do I think people follow it. If you want me to get statistics to back it up I will!

Well, I see now that it's a breach of an agreement. But with most people in a relationship if you asked them if you could have sex with someone else they wouldsay no and get very angry. So even if you didn'tbreak that arrangement there would still be that anger.

Cheating is so full of hypocrisy. The cheater wants their main lover to remain faithful while they go get their side dish.

I think if you are wanting to cheat then you should open the relationship. If you can't do that because you would not like the idea of your lover being with someone else then perhaps there is some flaws in your thinking and you should just stay single.

If you don't mind your lover being with someone else well at least you aren't being a hypocrite.

It isn't cheating unless there is an expressed declaration of exclusive commitment from both parties.

Those who have been following my posts on this subject matter will note that my view has softened somewhat from "It isn't cheating unless you're married". This is because I now realize that marriage is not the only form of relational commitment.

Further, if only one person has expressed commitment to the exclusive relationship, then how can the other 'partner' be said to be cheating? It would be like when a celebrity gets married, and each of his or her most devoted fans express their feelings of betrayal for not being "The One".

Check out the article in my blog and give me some advice on it please, I feel like I'm going a bit nuts.

It's only wrong if the other person doesn't consent to it.

It's kind of awkward asking someone you are about to sleep with for their blood test results. Unfortunately, people aren't honest. I'd rather be safe. Some of these things other than AIDS you can catch can really screw you up, or even kill you. It just isn't worth the risk.

No, you are still misunderstanding. Ichinin was NOT responding to Grisha at all which was your original misunderstanding and the point I clarified previously.

aspie48 - the thing is that in most Western culture, monogomy is assumed and expected. I'm not saying that I agree with this standard, just that it exists. As I mentioned previously this is largely as a result of the influence of Christianity. This is not the case in other non-Christian countries.

No one should assume their relationship is monogomous unless they have specifically discussed it and agreed on it. However, many to most people do assume it after the relationship has gone on for a certain amount of time. One who is not monogomous should realize this assumption exists and work to get the relationship clarified right away. This will often result in the partner being offended as a result of their belief that monogomy is "right" and polyamory is "wrong."