Basic instinct: Women take just three minutes to make up the

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... she cannot marry a man who does not ask her to begin with, and she is not the person to decide that. i also suspect that a man's family would be involved in the marriage decisions. i can't see men going off and marrying whoever they want in a society where parents are clearly involved in the decision making.

You're unable to compute this alien stuff that I guess ;p.
She and her family are the ones to decide, it's usually more of a consensus decision, one hand can't clap. So yes, when her parents say 'no' (or the woman) it's usually the end of it, as I observed - or she would just flee with him.

and yes, the man's family would be involved in the decision, depends how mommy boy he is, but usually not as much as the woman's family.

Again Im not going to get involved into an argument based on making fun of the other party because there are too many similar arguments out there and its against the rules. You are more than free to reopen this issue once you aren´t basing all your argument on mocking the opposite party.


As for boo/hyperlexian argument: the same thing is happening here with both sexes. A rich guy married a not so rich woman(even though his mother didnt approve) and his mother is now looking for ways of disowning him because she claims his partner is just interested on his money and the opposite has happened several times as well.

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And scripts are getting flipped - its largely a non-physical work world where gatherer build gets you farther in the performance sense. Not that anything's specifically wrong with that, just that there are only so many rich men and convicts to go around - they might need to start pursuing men and men might need to start dressing more dapper pretty soon.

In answer to your Q Techstepg, I'm guessing it's around the numbers I suggested... simply because my 'ideal partner' has a specific commitment to same meditation practice/community... It's a unique slice of humanity (sort of like Quakers or Amish) - and I don't really expect to meet him when buying veggies at my co-op market, though I have actually gone out on a date with a brave man who asked me out in same produce dept. (I did it out of respect and compassion, not because I had a 3 minute thing, there was actually not even sexual attraction, lol).

Another thing that's true is that the 3 minute thing can be reversed!

Yep. Over time, a no-whistles guy can reveal whistles & bells, and one day - voila! - he's rockin. That is more about primal psychology factors I think...

You aren't in western PA are you? I've got a friend out there who could use some more people to chat with.


That's good to know, and - truthfully - I really doubted that it would be irreversible, if it was that would be a heck of an impediment for either gender to have. My own notice, when someone's really feeling me - if someone's just giggling and cutting up over how adorable they think I am, that usually means nothing, if they get a rather serious but somber look - they locked on and got it. I don't know why it works that way but its been more a result of reading outcomes.

I find this post kind of ironic considering how some guys complain & joke about how their girlfriends/wives are indecisive & can never make a decision & stick to it

Im currently reading a book called EGOGRAMS How i see you and you see me. I this book 30 second and you have been judged on personality. Acording to there study most were corect even after getting to know the person. Im reading it to try to find if one can give a better first impression to others.

Men take 0.5 seconds.

Eloping is the way to go. Saves on all the social drama.

that sounds very interesting. i think i will check it out.

Maybe you're right.

1 second or 3 minutes..... people are quickly judgmental.

thats good, if there is no connection, i'd like to know in minutes and not monthss

Yeah, it's time-saving.

That's why the "American approach" (referring to another thread, which is = direct approach of asking out) is the best. You'd know whether there's a connection or not for a short time without wasting much time.

Actually, this whole thing might be true. I think I immediately knew I was attracted to my (then future) husband and that I wanted to be with him. But I assumed that was initial attraction? I liked his hair and the fact he wore old jeans and bit dirty shoes.