My current situation
I find myself agreeing with both fellows, it's not worth it man. She may seem all nice and innocent in class, but in reality she's probably having sex with at least 2 fellas outside of school, and they both probably give her things to make her feel important. What I'd do if I were you is write her a note, say some things about how lonely you are, you want to get to know her more... when her reaction is "omg no" you'll be satisfied then.
You see when faced with someone elses desires a girl will either 1. accept them 2. ignore them in favor of her own What she does will determine if she'll ever seriously want to be with you.
See those other guys, they're only speaking from experiences they've had, but most of the time you're not in that 10% that has great dealings with the females.
My advice to you is sound, write her a note, tell her what you'd like, if she can't handle that she won't ever be the one you should go after. I took this approach on a girl I liked, she basically led me around and never said anything, even though I told her I was interested in a romance. Once I confronted her in a note however she backed away... girls are weaker then we think, they like guys that will agree with them, if you have some feelings and opinions they become angry or leave.
That's it :Z
You see when faced with someone elses desires a girl will either 1. accept them 2. ignore them in favor of her own What she does will determine if she'll ever seriously want to be with you.
See those other guys, they're only speaking from experiences they've had, but most of the time you're not in that 10% that has great dealings with the females.
My advice to you is sound, write her a note, tell her what you'd like, if she can't handle that she won't ever be the one you should go after. I took this approach on a girl I liked, she basically led me around and never said anything, even though I told her I was interested in a romance. Once I confronted her in a note however she backed away... girls are weaker then we think, they like guys that will agree with them, if you have some feelings and opinions they become angry or leave.
That's it :Z
I won't go into detail, but all I can say is that it's a unique situation. I can understand where you're coming from though.
She seems pretty dedicated, too. She's started talking to my friends, and they say she even went out to lunch with them one day so she could learn more about me. So I think her answer to that note you mentioned would probably be yes.
She can tell that I'm a hard to date sort of person, but still shows extreme interest. She flirts with me non-stop, even if on a few days I've found myself unable to reciprocate.
I'm pretty convinced she's the real deal, enough to give it a shot.
@Veronica: Thank you for the kind words. I plan to do exactly what you said.
@Flagg: What?
Go up to her and tell her you like her. Do that in the hallways, by her locker or something (make sure you are somewhat alone). This has worked for me in the past. I can find out right away if the other person feels the same, "I like you too." I like to wait until I'm almost sure that the other person likes me. This is the only way I can seem to get a boyfriend because I don't seem to understand when a man likes me all the time and they don't make moves on me when I am single.
edit: She's probing other people for information on you. I think you're good to go
girls are weaker then we think, they like guys that will agree with them, if you have some feelings and opinions they become angry or leave.
That's it :Z
Wow. Just. Wow. Girls are weaker than you think, huh? We don't like it if people have feelings and opinions? Yikes. You really are treading on some sh***y waters there. I don't know what kind of morons you've dated, but I can't be with a guy who agrees all the time with me and refuses to show how he feels. I believe the majority of woman are like me when it comes to this. Sexist attitudes get you nowhere with the ladies.
She seems pretty dedicated, too. She's started talking to my friends, and they say she even went out to lunch with them one day so she could learn more about me. So I think her answer to that note you mentioned would probably be yes.
She can tell that I'm a hard to date sort of person, but still shows extreme interest. She flirts with me non-stop, even if on a few days I've found myself unable to reciprocate.
I'm pretty convinced she's the real deal, enough to give it a shot.
@Veronica: Thank you for the kind words. I plan to do exactly what you said.
@Flagg: What?
Sine, that's a good sign! I totally do this when I'm into someone. Please keep us all posted on how this pans out! <3
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To Sine:
How promiscous is this girl? If she is promiscous, then that's a bad thing & it could lead to something really terrible.
Does she stick with one or two friends OR a big congregation of friends?
Do you believe she knows about your Aspergers & is using that to take advantage of you?
How gossipy is she?
Is she pushy for info about you OR asking your friends in a normal manner?
How promiscous is this girl? If she is promiscous, then that's a bad thing & it could lead to something really terrible.
Does she stick with one or two friends OR a big congregation of friends?
Do you believe she knows about your Aspergers & is using that to take advantage of you?
How gossipy is she?
Is she pushy for info about you OR asking your friends in a normal manner?
Hmm.
I think second question is the one I was going to ask. in a different way.
But it brings serious quizzalm.
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1. How promiscous is this girl? If she is promiscous, then that's a bad thing & it could lead to something really terrible.
2. Does she stick with one or two friends OR a big congregation of friends?
3. Do you believe she knows about your Aspergers & is using that to take advantage of you?
4. How gossipy is she?
5. Is she pushy for info about you OR asking your friends in a normal manner?
1. I don't know if she's promiscuous or not, but she doesn't seem it. She's fairly quiet in class, actually. It's still hard to tell I guess.
2. One or two friends. She always walks to her classes with who I have discovered is her childhood buddy.
3. She knows that I'm sort of the nerdy, quiet, and focused/intense type... But I'm not sure if she knows about Asperger's or not.
4. She doesn't seem very gossipy, as I said she's fairly quiet in class.
5. I don't know, but I'll talk to my friends about it.
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1. How promiscous is this girl? If she is promiscous, then that's a bad thing & it could lead to something really terrible.
2. Does she stick with one or two friends OR a big congregation of friends?
3. Do you believe she knows about your Aspergers & is using that to take advantage of you?
4. How gossipy is she?
5. Is she pushy for info about you OR asking your friends in a normal manner?
1. I don't know if she's promiscuous or not, but she doesn't seem it. She's fairly quiet in class, actually. It's still hard to tell I guess.
2. One or two friends. She always walks to her classes with who I have discovered is her childhood buddy.
3. She knows that I'm sort of the nerdy, quiet, and focused/intense type... But I'm not sure if she knows about Asperger's or not.
4. She doesn't seem very gossipy, as I said she's fairly quiet in class.
5. I don't know, but I'll talk to my friends about it.
I don't know Sine. Her quiet thing could be all an act. Try to corner her when she is alone & tell her about Aspergers. If it flys over her head, walk away & leave her be. She may not actually like you.
I can't believe how you people are discouraging this guy. When I was in highschool I was that good looking shy girl that barely said anything in class. No guy would approach me, and since I didn't usually gossip with anyone (no one to gossip with!) I didn't know who liked who and so on. I went dateless and friendless for most of highschool. I wonder if other guys were justifying like that, "Her shyness is just an act" or "I heard she was a slut". I didn't get kissed until I was 18. How very silly! In the end, I had to approach a guy and tell him that I liked him, in the hopes that I could finally go on a date with someone. He ended up having a gf which I did not know, but he dumped her and dated me instead. His ex girlfriend wanted to beat me up, and I was scared because she was larger and stronger than me (and I'm nearly 6'0). Ooops. Anyway, I hope that Sine doesn't listen to the naysaying and just goes for it. But hasn't the time past?
Well... I was going to ask her friday, but she wasn't there (it was snowing so she couldn't take the bus to go from her school to ours). And today she wasn't there either, and it was the last day.
BUT
I found out today that she will be there next semester as well, which was a big relief. On top of that my friends have her phone number anyway (though it would be creepy if I randomly called her). I'll probably be able to track her down and get her screen name by the end of the schoolweek, some way or another.
BUT
I found out today that she will be there next semester as well, which was a big relief. On top of that my friends have her phone number anyway (though it would be creepy if I randomly called her). I'll probably be able to track her down and get her screen name by the end of the schoolweek, some way or another.
Asking for her screen name sounds like a good way to strike up a relationship. Well, good luck. By the way, my one brazen attempt at getting a boyfriend in highschool ended up okay, as these things usually do work out in the end. I had fun and we dated for 3 months. And I didn't get beat up