dating sites and rejection

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does anyone else here find sites like okcupid etc to hold incredibly shallow people?
I know this sounds very negative,but it is what i have experienced,anyone else?

Personally I've found okcupid to be the least shallow, have met the best people off that site. Other sites, however, are extremely useless.

Heck yes. I find websites like that to hold just as many shallow people as real life. Thus why I don't use them.

Honestly what did you expect?

It's true people are shallow, but it's possible to find those who share similar interests and norms and view of the world as you do.

Still, I'm not sure if it's easy to find them on the online dating sites. As much as I like internet communication, I'm not sure about the benefit of the dating sites.

Last edited by deconstruction on 24 Nov 2011, 2:30 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Having tried approximately 14,882 dating sites, I'd have to say that about 97% of the people I've dealt with are definitely shallow and superficial. I've run into a few who had some real depth, real thoughts, real working minds, but they're rare.

I have never run across a compatible person on a dating site (or in real life, either, actually.)

But for me, the biggest problem is that most of them have no idea how to write a proper sentence, let alone an e-mail or an entire profile. Most of the profiles read like an explosion in the Scrabble factory.

Bwah! I *so* want to use this!

I believe online dating has a failure rate of over 80%, so I'm not sure it's even worth it. I mean, what's worse - to get turned down, or to think you'll like someone and find out you want to smack the Hell out of them after investing hours of time and money on dating sites?

I think online dating sites should be used only as a last resort.

Please do! And thank you!

Online dating takes a whole skill set of its own. The problem with online dating is that any woman who is at least slightly attractive is bombarded with over 100 emails per day from desperate, horny losers who ruin things for all the decent guys. The key is to be tactful.

Of course they are shallow. They cannot portray elements of attraction that can actually be large determining factors for some individuals so people are forced to rely on photos, profiles, and questionnaires which inevitably fall short.

Thus, you really can't blame people for being shallow on there.

I had an account on POF for 48 hours.
I got dozens of messages, with "LOL" as the only punctuation, from people too mindless to remember to put on their shirt for their photo.



I deleted it as soon as I possibly could.