Have you NEVER had a girlfriend. If so, why?

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White-Rose-Tree
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05 Aug 2011, 1:06 pm

Wow, that turned out really long and whiney...

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06 Aug 2011, 6:59 am

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I've made progress, by having legitimate female friends over the past year, but they didn't last. And besides, I don't think I was being myself completely. I did act a little 'odd' around them once we associate outside of classes sometimes. I would be around them and one, if not both, would ask, "Why do you do that?" "Do What?" I asked, and I still don't know what it was, because she didn't respond. Perhaps of me stopping talking in conversations and/or looking off into 'space', or some other eccentric behavior of mine. They also tried the "hooking me up with a female" process with one of the girls roommates, and I said I wasn't interested, because I wasn't attracted to her. The girl who offered it up got angry, and she was persistent about this past Valentine's Day. The girls tried to lie to her and said I liked her and I didn't. I'm thinking to myself, "I thought people ended this nonsense in high school! AAGH!" If I truthfully was being myself, a lot of the females wouldn't be attracted to me, because of my eccentric behavior patterns. I guess I'm decent looking enough to be in these situations, but that doesn't make it any better to cope with.

That is so weird. I've had tons of female friends, but never did they try to hook me up with someone.

I've never had anything serious. I blame my environment. Economics is fun and all that, but you're not likely to meet people there who like quirky guys. I'm happy to have found a number of friends who like me. Also, I just don't go out in the wide world where you're supposed to meet all these girls everybody keeps talking about.

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06 Aug 2011, 7:21 am

You don't have to worry about cheating. It is usually always the guy that cheats. So your bound to f**k this relationship up if you ever have one. lol on a side note. I have had a girlfriend it lasted a little over 1.5 years. We aren't together sooo yeah. We got a long great. I think I had the most fun when I was with her. Still do.

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06 Aug 2011, 11:34 pm

- Autism. I think eastern Dutch women are very picky;
- Stigmatization of autism. "Autistics cannot have a relationship. They lack creating an emotional connection, may have sexual issues. What do they offer to women?";
- Shyness;
- Bad at reading body languages;
- Strange behaviour;
- "Autistic" accent, monotonous speech is one of it;
- Age. I am almost 45;
- No romantic successes in the past;
- Having visited a prostitute or having let an escort come;
- Lack of emathy;
- Less social;
- Pickiness of women;
- Having to compete against NT men.

That is what I can think of. People with those traits but having a girlfriend or being married, had some luck on the past.

I know I have positive traits which may attract women, but they are only visible if the woman knows me very well. It may take some efforts for the woman to come that far. I don't know if it is worth the time for her to know me.

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07 Aug 2011, 4:01 pm

Simple. I'm in high school, and I have a very bad social reputation. I've completely changed my appearance, approach, and way of thinking, but people still think I'm the same awkward freak I've always been. The cliques are the main reason I won't have a boyfriend until college.

Every single guy I've ever asked out has rejected me for that reason.

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07 Aug 2011, 4:10 pm

magicbus wrote:

Most guys don't care about your reputation. But, if you act like an awkward freak, then that will tend to scare the attractive guys away. (The attractive guys have better options and they know it. The less attractive guys, meh, who cares about them? lol)

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07 Aug 2011, 4:21 pm

Tequila wrote:

Problem with Internet dating sites is that there are a lot of dim people, a lot of possessive crazies and bloodsuckers, a lot of single mothers and an awful lot of women suffering from trust issues ("looking for an HONEST man" is a favourite). Most times, one will be rejected in any case. I found Internet dating to be far more stress than it was ever worth.

internet dating is a laugh. some of those profiles are just pure gold, you've summed them up quite well, and the guys aren't much more varied either. I have yet to meet any successful couples who had met via one of those sites, although I keep hearing that they exist

urban myth?

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07 Aug 2011, 4:25 pm

anna-banana wrote:

Tequila wrote:

urban myth?

I personally know of five such couples who met online, but they met through social networking and/or an online game instead of a dedicated dating site. There's one exception who's my cousin who met through eharmony.com and he's happily married.

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07 Aug 2011, 5:41 pm

anna-banana wrote:

Tequila wrote:

urban myth?

They exist on the internet.

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07 Aug 2011, 7:56 pm

I lack social skills.

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08 Aug 2011, 11:38 am

I don't have any money and I'm fat and ugly and most good-looking women do not find these qualities attractive.

The beautiful ladies want men with athletic bodies and in good health and physical condition and who can make a lot of money because money means security to them.

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08 Aug 2011, 12:17 pm

rasol wrote:

So... you're fat, ugly and poor, and you've never had a girlfriend because the gorgeous women you obviously deserve won't go out with you? Tough break man :roll:

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08 Aug 2011, 12:26 pm

Obres wrote:

rasol wrote:

So... you're fat, ugly and poor, and you've never had a girlfriend because the gorgeous women you obviously deserve won't go out with you? Tough break man :roll:

If I felt I "deserved" gorgeous women, that would be one thing. But I've pretty much never had any woman, regardless of appearance, make any passes at me. They all want to be my friend, but never anything more than that...

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08 Aug 2011, 12:57 pm

swbluto wrote:

anna-banana wrote:

Tequila wrote:

urban myth?

ok so now I know a person who knows a couple... oh wait, but that's how urban myths work! :lol:

I meant dating sites specifically (although I am prejudiced against them for no reason and not hiding it).

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09 Aug 2011, 11:50 am

Obres wrote:

So... you're fat, ugly and poor, and you've never had a girlfriend because the gorgeous women you obviously deserve won't go out with you? Tough break man :roll:

She doesn't have to be gorgeous but she has to be a bit attractive for me to want to date her.

I don't like those people who say that looks shouldn't matter at all in a relationship because this is not the way human attraction works. It's the whole package that is important: looks and personality.

I think I'd rather kill myself rather than be with someone who I feel no physical attraction to, for the rest of my life.

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30 Nov 2011, 9:43 pm

Obres wrote:

So... you're fat, ugly and poor, and you've never had a girlfriend because the gorgeous women you obviously deserve won't go out with you? Tough break man :roll:

Yes I know I probably should lower my standards but unfortunately you can't change to who you are attracted. Romantic attraction is not a choice, it is a biological instinct mostly beyond our control.

I'm really sorry but I really can't control what kind of women I feel mentally attracted to.

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