Why are you still single ( one reason)

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I am so freaking different

Because I'm an old man trapped in a 19 y/o body.

Short answer: My tics make some people uncomfortable.

s**t happens.

Why are you still single ( one reason)

Choice

I'm really quite happy this way and there are no local women that I would consider dating or something more serious

I could totally go for a friend-with-benefits though

I'm afraid that I will loose my freedom and privacy if I will be in a relationship

why am i single?

because i look at myself in the mirror with one eye closed when i have had too many drinks.

I'm intense. Too intense for the "easygoing" part of dating.

Clueless on how to "make it happen" (as if it needed a guide or something).

Have been a people pleaser most of my life: it was how I "worked" at trying to get and retain friends and significant others - it basically failed though.

Honest in my speech and thought, because I feel it morally wrong to deceive others, even if joking. I can't stand making scapegoats of others, and hate it when it's done to me. Because of my literal mind, I usually miss sarcasm and irony, and end up being disrespected for my honesty.

Need to do things on my terms - this is probably the biggest impediment to a relationship.

Need regular space to withdraw and think.

I will also add that when I was in school and trying to "get" a relationship, I would look around at my classmates in bewilderment and see how for them, things just happened: they fell into place. That would never happen for me, and I didn't know why. Some would tell me that I had to try harder, but I eventually came to the conclusion that I had been trying very hard, but none of it was working, because I couldn't read the expected ways of behavior, so I was trying to do it in the way that made sense...to me. I really do feel "stuck within" myself (as my handle goes). There's a person inside who wants to be able to connect with others, but in practice it doesn't succeed too well.

Many years later, nothing has changed. Still don't know what to say to women. Had one relationship that failed spectacularly, and that put me into a long and deep examination of whether I can ever even function in a relationship. I believe I can, but am very self-critical and have withdrawn myself from the scene because I don't understand anything about this stuff anymore.

It does make me think that Aspergians almost are a different species within a Homo sapiens body. The forum is aptly named

Where do I meet someone who values their intellect and interests? Pubs/Clubs aren't usually choices for such things and Community Services have stuck ups (from experience).

My reason is that I don't go out enought to meet anyone but knowing where to start would certainly help my scenario.

Confidence does come into it I guess but I'd rather have more friends first before getting into a relationship (friendship with females since I can sort of talk to them about anything).

Because I have a hard time understanding what's an acceptable amount of contact in the initial stages of dating or hell even friendships, I tend to either give someone too much space or can be a bit of a cling at times when it's not the most appropriate.

Because no one seems to want to have sex with me.