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26 Jan 2012, 3:37 pm

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Take your own advice.


I'm not going to be single forever. And I plan to, don't worry. :)



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26 Jan 2012, 3:39 pm

What kind of a title is this, Grisha? Deep down, of course you know you're not going to be single forever. :) When you were with Fullofstars, you weren't single. And you had a wife. Both didn't work out, but most relationships don't last anyway.



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26 Jan 2012, 3:40 pm

MHX i do not believe you hijacked this thread. Grisha maybe you could maintain a relationship if you stop whining about things. You have had a relationship that has given you kids, so many of us cannot even make it that far. You are more blessed than you think. Instead of focusing on maintaing or even having a relationship you should be focusing your energy on building a relationship with your children. They are your legacy. As you see relationships come and go but kids are going to be there in the end. Maybe once you build a strong tie with your children you will see that one person may be right in front of you. In regards to going anywhere to meet a woman. Grisha there are women all around you, do you take your kids on trips with you? Have you flown with them somewhere recently to show them different parts of the country or culture.



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26 Jan 2012, 3:44 pm

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I think the question is really "Am I capable of happiness?" And if not, it's not just about hurting the other person, although that is a horrible, horrible thing to choose to continue doing.If you're not capable of happiness, why bother with relationships at all? Except that if you equate being single with celibacy, this suggests that you equate relationships with sex. If there's really nothing more to it than that, for you, than the sugardaddy/baby route seems the best. I know you say you don't like it, but maybe you can grow to accept it. If not, then focus on the good things in your life: your children and your work, and try to put relationships aside, since it doesn't seem like you can manage them... even with someone who genuinely cares for you and is willing to jump through hoops. Good luck with everything.


So you jumped through hoops and he is still single? How come? Did you give him any advise that could help him?



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26 Jan 2012, 3:48 pm

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I think the question is really "Am I capable of happiness?" And if not, it's not just about hurting the other person, although that is a horrible, horrible thing to choose to continue doing.If you're not capable of happiness, why bother with relationships at all? Except that if you equate being single with celibacy, this suggests that you equate relationships with sex. If there's really nothing more to it than that, for you, than the sugardaddy/baby route seems the best. I know you say you don't like it, but maybe you can grow to accept it. If not, then focus on the good things in your life: your children and your work, and try to put relationships aside, since it doesn't seem like you can manage them... even with someone who genuinely cares for you and is willing to jump through hoops. Good luck with everything.


So you jumped through hoops and he is still single? How come? Did you give him any advise that could help him?

They were together and now they arent. Im sure shes said enough to him



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26 Jan 2012, 4:25 pm

Grisha maybe you should not use this website as a dating website.



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26 Jan 2012, 4:26 pm

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Grisha maybe you should not use this website as a dating website.


Keep dating life and WP life separate? What was it about crapping in one's own nest? ;)



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26 Jan 2012, 4:26 pm

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Grisha maybe you should not use this website as a dating website.


Mm-hm.



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26 Jan 2012, 4:53 pm

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Jackolantern wrote:
Grisha maybe you should not use this website as a dating website.


Mm-hm.


At this point, all I can say is "duh" :oops:

It seemed like a good idea at the time... :(



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26 Jan 2012, 4:55 pm

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MHX i do not believe you hijacked this thread. Grisha maybe you could maintain a relationship if you stop whining about things. You have had a relationship that has given you kids, so many of us cannot even make it that far. You are more blessed than you think. Instead of focusing on maintaing or even having a relationship you should be focusing your energy on building a relationship with your children. They are your legacy. As you see relationships come and go but kids are going to be there in the end. Maybe once you build a strong tie with your children you will see that one person may be right in front of you. In regards to going anywhere to meet a woman. Grisha there are women all around you, do you take your kids on trips with you? Have you flown with them somewhere recently to show them different parts of the country or culture.


You sure know a lot about me for someone with four posts. Hmm...



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26 Jan 2012, 4:59 pm

Grisha wrote:
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MHX i do not believe you hijacked this thread. Grisha maybe you could maintain a relationship if you stop whining about things. You have had a relationship that has given you kids, so many of us cannot even make it that far. You are more blessed than you think. Instead of focusing on maintaing or even having a relationship you should be focusing your energy on building a relationship with your children. They are your legacy. As you see relationships come and go but kids are going to be there in the end. Maybe once you build a strong tie with your children you will see that one person may be right in front of you. In regards to going anywhere to meet a woman. Grisha there are women all around you, do you take your kids on trips with you? Have you flown with them somewhere recently to show them different parts of the country or culture.


You sure know a lot about me for someone with four posts. Hmm...


with how much you make things public its not hard to just follow your post history and learn



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26 Jan 2012, 5:02 pm

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MHX i do not believe you hijacked this thread. Grisha maybe you could maintain a relationship if you stop whining about things. You have had a relationship that has given you kids, so many of us cannot even make it that far. You are more blessed than you think. Instead of focusing on maintaing or even having a relationship you should be focusing your energy on building a relationship with your children. They are your legacy. As you see relationships come and go but kids are going to be there in the end. Maybe once you build a strong tie with your children you will see that one person may be right in front of you. In regards to going anywhere to meet a woman. Grisha there are women all around you, do you take your kids on trips with you? Have you flown with them somewhere recently to show them different parts of the country or culture.


You sure know a lot about me for someone with four posts. Hmm...


Grisha you have posted your whole life for everyone to see on here. Read your thread postings. One of the reasons you should not use this as a dating website you make it seem like you are always the victim in some sort of way. Any not so good woman could use that to take advantage of you. I wish I could have experienced even one bit of what you have with your life. I tell you to cherish your kids because I am a woman who can never have kids and so many people neglect their kids. They focus on finding someone to be with then their children right in front of them.



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26 Jan 2012, 5:03 pm

Grisha wrote:
emlion wrote:
Jackolantern wrote:
Grisha maybe you should not use this website as a dating website.


Mm-hm.


At this point, all I can say is "duh" :oops:

It seemed like a good idea at the time... :(
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My mother always told me don't poop where you eat.



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26 Jan 2012, 5:06 pm

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My mother always told me don't poop where you eat.


I said the same thing basically up-thread.



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26 Jan 2012, 5:09 pm

MXH wrote:
Grisha wrote:
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MHX i do not believe you hijacked this thread. Grisha maybe you could maintain a relationship if you stop whining about things. You have had a relationship that has given you kids, so many of us cannot even make it that far. You are more blessed than you think. Instead of focusing on maintaing or even having a relationship you should be focusing your energy on building a relationship with your children. They are your legacy. As you see relationships come and go but kids are going to be there in the end. Maybe once you build a strong tie with your children you will see that one person may be right in front of you. In regards to going anywhere to meet a woman. Grisha there are women all around you, do you take your kids on trips with you? Have you flown with them somewhere recently to show them different parts of the country or culture.


You sure know a lot about me for someone with four posts. Hmm...


with how much you make things public its not hard to just follow your post history and learn


Aye, but a person just joining the site today, just randomly picks this thread out of all the others, and reads all of Grisha's relevant past posts? Without having some sort of ulterior motive/involvement in the situation? Seems a bit unlikely to me.

Having said that, I do agree that spending lots of time with his kids is a good thing, and that they are the most important people in his life. I'm sure Grisha knows that though, and already does spend lots of time with them.



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26 Jan 2012, 5:10 pm

if you ever suspect a sockpuppet, please report them, Henbane. nothing matches in this case - i already checked. :lol:


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