Living together before marriage?

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12 Feb 2012, 6:29 pm

Nothing wrong with living together. Of course, I would eventually get married, but I just don't agree with it being a prerequisite for living together.


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12 Feb 2012, 6:37 pm

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Real men marry their women, they don't treat them like unpaid whores. Quite frankly, I can't imagine why any woman would want to be treated like an unpaid whore.

Just remember, co-habitation doesn't equal a marriage commitment, because it is not an exclusive relationship. Both partners are free to date others while only co-habiting, and neither has a right to freak over that or to expect exclusivity, without them being married.

One more thing. Please, please, both of you use birth control if you co-habit. Kids do better in two parent households, not in temporary shack-ups.


Have you been married? Have you suffered the pain of divorce? I have.



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13 Feb 2012, 12:19 am

I think it's a good idea, congrats. :) I would just inform them casually when the time comes around. I wouldn't really ask their opinion since you already know how they feel about it. :p



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13 Feb 2012, 3:40 am

My husband and I lived together long before we were married. I don't see how it's any different for two people to live together as room mates. Would your parents have a problem with you having a room mate? What if you just have your partner be your room mate?



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13 Feb 2012, 3:58 am

I would NEVER marry someone without living with them prior. Speaking from experience here.

Also, if being treated "like an unpaid whore" means getting laid, then, uh, yes please??



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13 Feb 2012, 5:22 am

Remember, marriage is a dated tradition that wasn't written to take into account legalistic proposals and laws of the 21st century. I don't think marriage is necessary in our modern age and I can see the concept of it being abolished eventually. If you are really loyal and faithful to someone, I don't think you need a piece of paper to prove it.



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13 Feb 2012, 5:33 am

justalouise wrote:
I would NEVER marry someone without living with them prior. Speaking from experience here.


I doubt I'd live with someone unless I had lived with them for 5 years but I suppose in some cases, love at first sight can happen, however having a strong emotional bond or love at first sight doesn't mean that everything will always be smooth or rational.



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13 Feb 2012, 7:49 am

League_Girl wrote:
My husband and I lived together long before we were married. I don't see how it's any different for two people to live together as room mates. Would your parents have a problem with you having a room mate? What if you just have your partner be your room mate?


But he's a MAN. A single lady can't have a heterosexual male as her roommate. That would be SINFUUUL. :lol:



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13 Feb 2012, 7:52 am

justalouise wrote:
I would NEVER marry someone without living with them prior. Speaking from experience here.

Also, if being treated "like an unpaid whore" means getting laid, then, uh, yes please??


:lmao:

Also, it's not being treated "like an unpaid whore" if you both love and respect one another. It's just having fun then. :wink:



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13 Feb 2012, 8:26 am

A note to mods.

Here we have a thread where a religious extremist comes and start spewing a load judgemental crap and it return gets mocked for it.

Why hasn't this thread been locked because of the outrageous treatment and ganging up on Questor?

You bunch of intolerant, sinful whores MUST learn to respect bigoted idiots and pretend you value their input. :wink:



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13 Feb 2012, 8:30 am

DC wrote:
A note to mods.

Here we have a thread where a religious extremist comes and start spewing a load judgemental crap and it return gets mocked for it.

Why hasn't this thread been locked because of the outrageous treatment and ganging up on Questor?

You bunch of intolerant, sinful whores MUST learn to respect bigoted idiots and pretend you value their input. :wink:


...don't give him any ideas. :P



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13 Feb 2012, 9:54 am

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i would want to live with someone before marriage, for sure. i'd need to experience someone with their guard down in regular day-to-day situations to know whether i could marry them.


I used to feel differently, but I think I've gotten to this place, too. Especially with my track record when it comes to failed engagements, I'm not too keen on rushing into anything.



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13 Feb 2012, 10:04 am

Married = paid whore? Might not want to let your wife hear you suggest that. Throwing the word whore around, in the unfun sense, isnt likely to appeal to the ladies in general.



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13 Feb 2012, 10:39 am

simon_says wrote:
Married = paid whore? Might not want to let your wife hear you suggest that. Throwing the word whore around, in the unfun sense, isnt likely to appeal to the ladies in general.


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13 Feb 2012, 10:45 am

Questor, were you referring to the costs of a wedding when you made the "unpaid whore" remark? Not implying that marrying someone makes them a "paid whore", but are you referring to people who think weddings are too expensive?


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