What is your weight range in dating?

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Don't care.

Ten years ago, if you would have asked me, I probably would have come up with some spiel rationalizing how my preferences (anywhere from thin to slightly not-so-thin) weren't superficial.

Today? I don't really care. The ability to put up with me overrides any silly preferences I might have.

Last edited by kestrel on 21 Feb 2012, 8:03 pm, edited 3 times in total.

That, mutually, definitely does come first. Attraction though is pretty much board, whether we (me and her - whoever that is) can satisfyingly put up with each other is pretty much the rest of it. If we actually 'energize' each other off of our personalities and how they interact that's the whole iced cake pretty much.

I'm 5'10" and 155lbs. With that in mind I'd be willing to go as low 110lbs or as high as 190lbs. provided it was proportional to her height. 5'0" and 190lbs would not be.

I think thats a fairly wide range. It's something I'd be comfortable with.

Good point -- and you're right. I may have worded that a bit vaguely, but the inverse is just as important (I get along with her, she gets along with me).

I like many many physical types. My boyfriend is a few inches taller than me, and lanky with a bit of muscle. I think he's just right He has a scar from a recent abdominal surgery that he is pretty self conscious about, but I still think his stomach is excellent (even though I obviously wish there had been no need for the surgery in the first place!).

I like to be fairly active. So I would want to date someone that likes sports or jogging, or something along those lines too. Not saying they have to be skinny or even "average weight" but athletic enough that they are able to do physical activities.

Does not matter to me at all...

I prefer skinny girlish-looking guys. Long hair is nice too. My current boyfriend is very slender and looks very adorable when I dress him up in my clothes and put bows in his long hair. And he used to worry that no one would like him because he was too skinny!

Weight itself wouldn't make a huge difference, it'd be more bodyfat levels if we're speaking technically on what I'd care about. An example would be like, Lydia Valentin, she's an Olympic weightlifter, she's 5'6, not too far away, and pretty great looking really. But she's quite heavy by most girl standards, she competes in 75kg class, so she's probably 160 pounds or so, but she doesn't "look it" at all. With the Lydia Valentin though, she's quite hot, http://www.flickr.com/photos/dreamsplayhere/3602041995/ , http://www.flickr.com/photos/wonderlift ... otostream/ quite well proportioned, but she's "overweight" by about a point according to the BMI. Did I mention she's hot? Anyway, BMI totally fails in cases like that, where people are either by training or genetics just more muscular.

As far as weight goes, it's pretty much only fair to expect a girl who's around my size or so. It'd be hypocritical of me to say I only want a super skinny girl, if I myself have some bodyfat on me. So there's that, can't be a hypocrite, you see this a lot online, like 300 pound guys who'll say a girl who's not really "fat" at all is fat, when they're 300 pounds. Hypocritical to the max. In general, I think it's only fair to expect a girl who's about as good looking as you are, with similar proportions as you (not exact obviously, as we're biologically different and all, but I hope you can get the idea I'm trying to get across.)

As far as personal preference, I don't know, I tend to enjoy women that are curvy, but curvy doesn't mean a whale, or obese either. Probably if we are using BMI, as flawed as it is, 23-25? Maybe 26-27 if the girl pulls it off well, that's the deciding factor, you know? If some stick thin girl liked me, it's not like I'd be like "nope, too skinny, next!" or anything, if she liked me and things worked out and all that, it wouldn't be a deal breaker, but yeah. Too fat would likely be a deal breaker, possibly because, first off, as you marry, girls don't tend to get skinnier, and second off, it shows a lot of problems in lifestyle choices and stuff like that most of the time, and it'd be a clash in values, besides not looking good to me. But if I could just draw a girl out from scratch as my ideal mate or whatever, yeah, those would probably be the numbers. Also, not to do with weight, but tall girls are sexy, too.

Damn, I made this post too detailed and sciency. Oh well, pics of Lidia Valentin then.

Just heavy [and big] boobies.

Doesn't matter.

Weight doesn't bother me at all on a guy. I've dated skinny lanky guys to big round men. However they have to be taller than me otherwise I would not look at them twice 5'7 upwards

I can't blame anyone for having a little extra because there is so much good stuff out there but when weight becomes a major health issue, I don't think it helps a relationship.

but i thought you wanted to marry me, I am just 60 kg!

Put some meat on those bones Mr. Runway!