myth wrote:
I agree with the general consensus on this thread. There is no hard and fast one-size-fits all rule. Some couples are allowed to sleep with other people even. But if your partner knows about it and is ok with it, it's not cheating. On the other hand, if you are doing something that you feel the need to hide from your partner, even if it is just talking to someone, you should really stop and think about why you are doing it and why you have to hide it. If it's something you know your partner will be upset about, it just might be cheating.
I wanted to make a comment about "just talking to someone" - if one's partner gets upset about "just talking" to someone - this might be indicative of a controlling and abusive partner. Get help and, quite possibly, get out of this relationship.
My ex was always bothered when I talk to my parents because he would then worry and want to know what we talked about and what I said to them. So I started to do it when he wouldn't be home. Plus I would go outside to talk to them. I found out this was a form of emotional abuse. Does it still count as abuse if someone is very sensitive and so paranoid about what others think of them it makes them not want you to talk to others on the phone or that they want to know everything you said you feel you have to do it behind their backs?