How do I ask for this woman's address without seeming eager?

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Oh yeah as a side question...if she gave me her number last night and said I can text her anytime...when would be a good time? It is 8:45am here in southern California and I am pretty sure that is too early for a text. I would just say something like "good morning" but would I still seem too anxious contacting her so early? Would 10 or 11 am sound a bit more normal?

Okay, so there seems to be mutual consent at this time, if I'm following this correctly. I still think there should be an initial meeting in a public place- i.e. a cafe- but for your OWN safety as well, to ensure that she is who her profile says she is (this is not a point I would explicitly bring up with her). Not everyone has the best intentions.

In my experience, Japanese people are pretty direct when it comes to sexytimes (having lived over there for a while)- I know that's a generalizing statement. Asking leading questions is hardly timid. If she want you to come over she'll pretty much tell you.

ETA- Ah, webcam- missed that post, my bad. I'd wait till maybe noon or one to text, if you're really intent on texting today- like you're just sending something off on your lunch break. Can't help you with the hotel=whorish? question since I need to build up a lot of trust to get that far. It's probably an unfair assessment that will get you slapped if you bring it up to her though.

Last edited by Midori on 07 Mar 2012, 12:08 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Hmm...maybe my last question was really stupid haha.

ok, so i think this is the part you are not getting. just because she said she wants to have sex with you does NOT give you permission to have sex with her. she may still say no at any time, even if you are already naked in bed. so her address will not help you to have sex with her. it is not a golden ticket. if she gives you her address, will you show up there with no invitation?

No I will not show up at her house without permission. Yeah I understand what you are saying. Like Midori, I lived in Japan for a while and he is totally right about Japanese women being really open about meeting for sex. They are not as shy as everyone thinks they are once you get to know them. I will not treat her inviting me over or saying she wants sex as a golden ticket. I am just saying she sounded pretty convincing and excited about having sex with me.

Fixed that for you.

Oh crap I'm sorry haha.

Well I'm qualified to cast the first stone.....but I won't, although chatting once on a webcam and then hooking up seems kinda creepy to me.

This one's pretty easy, honestly.

"Where would you like me to pick you up"... is non-threatening and gives her the option of somewhere nearby to her home but not actually her home.

If she says "At home", THEN it is totally appropriate to ask for an address or directions.

Its funny that you mention this because I was thinking about just asking like this. You are right. It comes off as totally natural. I will just ask her this way.

Yeah, we both decided to get to know each other a little more before deciding to meet up. I talked to her a few times and she wants to talk with me more later tonight, so that is good at least. I slowed down with trying to meet with her to avoid seeming desperate to her.