Is anyone else besides me gonna feel lonely on Feb 14th?

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I'll be joining most of you for feeling blue on Val's day. Although it's a load of corporate trash, at the same time it does hit home the rather unfortunate reality that everyone seems to be able to have that special someone save you, especially when you're single.

Doesn't help that my 3 year relationship with possibly the most wonderful person in the world ended about this time last year. We're still friends but chances are what's going to make things even worse is she's probably going to have a date with somebody soon, poss on the 13th itself.

And that voice that you can't tell to shut up just won't stop reminding me of that.

But hey, if all else fails at least we've got the lonely heart's club to get pissed in eh?

Yes. While that was funny, it certainly won't help anyone get a date. I bet I wasn't only one who thought that the sex roles seemed totally reversed in that video, from how they typically are.



I have told a bunch of guys about it, and hoped that one could help me find a girl. So far none of them have.

You are soo....lucky.....you are not here.....

Oh, LOL. That shocked me. Just like my friend saying "wow. who wouldn've thought she'd be the violent one." /sigh. I'm going on a fieldtrip on Vday. but other than that and the 8 and 11 year olds I'll be with, I'll be alone.

Valentines day is not a good day in particular for me. Sometimes, you hear people saying things like "I'm going with my bf/gf on Valentines" and doing some other crap.

What is the point of Valentines day? It is for people to spend time together, but they can do that any time. I don't see where or why Valentines Day originated!

i dont really care either way, obviously i'd love to have a girlfriend on valentines day but i probably wouldnt want to be buying things to prove my love for her. its just a retail holiday anyways and if the person your with needs something that day to show that you love them they probably arent worth your affection.

Ya, I'm pretty used to the status quo, and it's become a comfort zone for me. I start feeling vertigo when a woman acts like she likes me. I end up explaining my problem, and that solves her attraction to me. Equilibrium restored.

I think we're all programmed to BELIEVE we're sad if we're alone. I'm not mainly talking about societal programming, but instinct. It's a necessary survival instinct for the human race to at all times wish to find a mate. Think about it: Why are we constantly pumped-up with heavy doses of mind-alterating sexual hormones? Because we require that kind of mind-bending to get us into relationships, and even merely to have sex. Sex ain't pretty, so we need A LOT of incentive.

I'll be the first to admit I feel helplessly in love when pumped up with my natural hormones, so the scheme does indeed work, even when you intellectually understand how. But it leads to a halting ambivalence in me. My hormones keep telling me, "No, really, you want to have sex," like some ace salesman. Why the con? Maybe because that's not what I really want!

Valentines day will be odd for me this year. My parents divorce is finalised on the 14th of this month, which is both great and terrible at the same time. Also, I'm seeing someone but it isn't really a romantic relationship - we just spend a lot of time together, exclusively. I know he won't be doing anything special on the day at all.
Instead I'm going to think about the good things I've got. My cat rocks, I'm going to make her a tuna patty-cake thing and she'll make all sorts of happy noises and sleep in my lap when I use the computer that night. I just moved into a very friendly share house so I'll be making a batch of fantastic biscuits to share. That should keep me distracted from the crappy not-quite-boyfriend and mismatched-parents situations.

EXACTLY MY POINT~!

as for your question...allow me to give a brief profile

Valentine's Day, February 14, is a day consecrated by custom to the celebration of romantic love. The observance dates back to medieval times but, in twentieth-century America, Valentine's Day—like other occasions that are linked to sentiment, such as Mother's Day—has become a ritual appendage of consumer culture. Attempts to link Valentine's Day and its emphasis on worldly love to an early martyr (or pair of martyrs) of the Christian church have been discredited, and historians have come to attribute the connection between romance and February 14 to Geoffrey Chaucer (1340?-1400), the English poet and author of The Canterbury Tales.

In his work The Parliament of Foules, Chaucer wrote: "For this was Seynt Valentyne's Day. When every foul cometh ther to choose his mate." Throughout the late Middle Ages and the early modern period, Valentine's Day was an occasion for declaring one's affections or using divination to determine the identity of one's lover or future spouse. Sleeping on a pillow to which five bay leaves were pinned, for example, would produce a dream in which a lover would be revealed. Observances of the day could be elegant and courtly or a raucous and vulgar charivari (mock serenade, usually of newlyweds). The first Valentine's day cards were hand-made, but by the early nineteenth century in England printed cards were common. When this fashion was exported to the United States in the 1840s a veritable Valentine mania broke out.

Exerpt from bookrags.com

This is some background information on it....tho this may not answer your question it provides a basis...

You know what today or this whole week I've forgotten that Valentines day is on the 14th. Yeah I'll be blue but I'll try my best to find some one. Or either that or continue what I'm doing and let some one come to me.

I loathe Valentine's day. It's just another "commercialised event" for me.

Was this directed at me? Why am I lucky?

Most of the people here are in the same boat as the OP, so I hardly think you're going to get pointless comments like "do something about it".

Probably the most commonly agreed upon method of 'doing something about it' would be to pay someone.

Yeah.



If it makes you feel any better, a lot of NTs are also feeling crappy this time of year.

It was but not as an insult!

I'm simply saying that the boys over here a very perverted, and really obnoxious.....They think sex is everything........

They were actually appauled that I wasnt into sex..........

Valentines Day? Ack! ive only just gotten out of the depression from the last one...

i know there are quite a few aspies who have either accepted it, or arnt interested in love, but it still stings raw in my heart that there has never been anyone interested in me. There are NT's who are in relationships i know who say being in a relationship is overrated... i have to resist the urge not the throttle them...

Do you think we can just forget there is such a think as Valentines day? it'd be less painful...

I think society is on its way to doing just that. People are sick of the implied requirement of being in love on a certain day. Every year, I hear lots of people ask, "What's the point of Valentines anyway?" Hopefully, it will be a thing of the past in a few years. I mean, those already in love have anniversaries to celebrate -- they don't need another special day each year.