the what do you want conversation

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So im never quite sure when to have the conversation reguarding what both myself and the person im with want out of a relationship, so when is best?

don't beat around the bush(though maybe not your opening sentence) if you think it, say it. her reaction will tell you weather you should continue

I'd give it three months.

Usually i like to wait till a couple days after the first time we have sex

why do you wait until after you have sex?

Its the point things officially become serious

i don't think people feel it is universally the point that things become serious. some people decide on the relationship status BEFORE having sex, and others wait for quite a while after they start having sex. so i wondered why you chose that time.

Maybe you could do it gradually instead of having the full conversation like maybe you mention one things you'd like out of a relationship in a casual way when it's related to a conversation bout something else. See how she responds & take it from there. I know this doesn't sound very Aspie