Omg. The Aspie got the girl!

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Bravo, i was talking about models.

My girlfriend looks like a model seriously

Not to mention, there's nothing that says Aspies can't be attractive, if not outright hot.

The fact is, even "unattractive" Aspies rarely need more than new clothes, a better haircut, a possible wax job, a tan, and maybe some nail work to go from 'hopeless' to 'hot'.

There's just as much "reason" for any given girl to go out with an Aspie as there is for the girl to go out with an NT. Just depends on the girl's individual tastes.

Honestly, what's with the negative vibe? No wonder you're all complaining about being single if your attitudes are "well there's no reason a girl would go out with an Aspie anyway." This isn't directed at anyone in particular, but honestly, a lot of the people on WP who complain about being lonely are just digging their own holes and I have no sympathy whatsoever.

i do agree that AS in itself isnt to stop someone. But it sure as f**k will make it harder

I just watched the video for the first time and I don't think he is an Aspie .He is 100 times more socially confident than me ,doesn't have any problem with eye contact. I don't think the female is someone who would be very compatible with someone who has AS.I found her comments actually annoying and not very understanding of someone who may exhibit a few characteristics of AS ,''I need him to step up and show me his feelings''.

Watch the videos of full episodes, not just his interactions with Paige. The dates show him on his best behavior, charged up, and focused on his mission. Watch the parts where he's interacting with the housemates. That's where it really comes out. That is, when you can actually find him. 98% of the time, he blended into the background and hid.

He might be 100 times more social than you, but he's no more social than some Aspies I know. Under tightly-controlled conditions, I can do about as well as him, too. I just can't sustain it. Keep in mind that he's 29. By that age, most Aspies with ADD who take meds for it have learned to convincingly fake sociability for a few hours at a time, especially when we're operating firmly within our comfort zone. Compare his difference in demeanor when he's on-stage or being interviewed (firmly within his comfort zone) right before a concert (other videos on Youtube) to his demeanor when he's interacting with the other guys in the house (feeling threatened and insecure).

Also, Paige says she wants a man who can tell her what he feels, but she sounds more like somebody complaining about the weather than somebody who's disqualifying a potential partner. Personally, I think the thought of being smothered by Bubba and absorbed into his personality scared her. Stereotypes aside, she's a strong, intelligent, multidimensional woman who's not about to obediently spend the rest of her life fulfilling some socially-defined role. Jeremiah makes her feel stronger and more complete. He adds to her strength without diminishing it. He offers protection, without demanding subservience.

Also, if you can find the videos, compare the video of his first date with Paige (when he hadn't yet made contact with her through unauthorized means) to the videos of his later dates with Paige (at which point she was sneaking notes back to HIM, and their on-camera conversations are practically being conducted in private code). On their final date, he looks very unpressured -- he's hanging out with the girl he loves, they're having fun, and he has zero worries about not "being picked".

Now, compare that demeanor to the video at the bar with her friends (who were undoubtedly briefed by Paige about the notes, but couldn't let on to that knowledge and were meeting him in person for the first time). Night and day difference. He wasn't *afraid* of her friends, he just literally had no idea what to talk about with them. They had no obvious common interests he was aware of besides mutual friendship with Paige. And when they tried to question HIM, he became self-conscious of the camera, and got visibly flustered.

Also, being able to get on stage and perform is NOT the same thing as social confidence. Music history is full of artists who give stellar performances that are scripted with clockwork precision from start to finish & totally feed on the crowd while it's going on, but literally fall apart and panic if they're put into a situation where they have to be spontaneous and social with strangers (including interviews and ambushes at nightclubs).