Okcupid tip- if they ignore you deliberately... ;).

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I guess some guys just can't handle the fact that some women don't want to reply to their messages. Sounds like an ego issue to me.

I've deleted those and I don't feel bad for it. If it's clear that they just want sex and nothing else,, they aren't worth our time. Unless that's what one wants of course...

I dont think he has your profile. Its quite a common thing for women to want guys in that range for those things. That it fits yours is a different story.

Explain how in any way that was aimed at you? I was talking in general about women who claim to be looking for friends on dating sites, and them ignoring anyone who sends them a message. Stop being moronic.

Also I have female friends who are on dating sites who have admitted to me themselves that they never reply to any messages they receive so I know that there is some truth in what I am saying.

Are you being serious? This isn't from your profile, you silly. This is from the girl's profile of the main post, these are pre-set okcupid criteria (list) that millions of girls on okcupid would have the same combinations. Sorry to disappoint you but it's not your unique trademark.



Do you get it now?

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 29 Mar 2012, 3:54 pm, edited 3 times in total.

oooo yea, creepy, boo the creepy.

She doesn't deserve your death.

Ok how about this.

I not read all I got up to page 4:- just seen someone reply a bit up:-

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How about you give them the no thanks. I will be blocking you, because of what has happened with other people.

If a person then comes back under another account & starts swearing etc at you, report it to the site.

Seriously when it comes to ignoring this is the problem:-

Not interested.
Don't have enough time & the inbox keeps filling up.
Got annoyed with the get laid joke liners & decide just to delete the hole inbox. (*)
Read it, but did not have enough time to reply.

Seriously you can go on all day. As a shy person, it normally takes 3 attempts.

In the end "You just don't bother", then you can just assume they not interested, & if you do get a reply....

But then the problem is this (*), one.

Edit:-

You explain things in the way you like, sorry smarty, but you're wrong.

First you say:



lol

yea, go ahead, taint the things I said with your ugly projection.



First, this thread is about girls who'v been chatting with guys for a while and started to get to know them, again,.....we are not talking about the initial messages . In my stated case, a sudden ignoring (with no apparent reason) is rude as hell and the guy has the right to question this behavior. I am telling the guys to not be shy to confront them or to ignore them coldly back, only and only in that case.

Let me give you real life examples:

- A stranger guy says hi to a girl in the middle of the street , the girls ignores him ----> that's an understandable ignoring.

- a girl ignoring the hellos of her male coworker suddenly with no reason ----> rude and lack of manners.


Are you starting to get it now?

I think what you fail to realise is sometimes people do have valid reasons to stop talking to someone....now I agree if a girl who typically responded to hellos of her male coworker stops all the sudden that is kinda rude. However there are a number of reasons besides rudeness this could take place. Maybe she has something on her mind and didn't hear you....in which case if it really bothered the co worker they should maybe say 'hey I was kind of offended you ignored me when I said hi'(provided these workers have talked in the past) Then the chick could say 'oh sorry I didn't hear you.' if you where to approach the issue in a more demanding manner like 'why didn't you say hello to me, you know that's rude right.' that's likely to get you reported for harassment.

the point of this is I guess I am trying to say maybe sometimes you come off as a little pushy, which could scare people especially a lot of women away...so it might be better to try not to jump to conclusions and always assume its about people trying to be rude to you...because if you approach people who end up doing that, that way every time it wont help you as sometimes believe it or not people do have valid reasons for not responding. With the internet there are even more reasons such as they're busy, they're having a bad day and don't feel like talking, they have nothing to say so they don't bother talking to you that day. If it so happens it is a reason like that they are probably going to feel offended if you start demanding they respond to you 'right now' and are rude if they don't.

That is not to say you are always in the wrong either, but sometimes trying to be the better person pays of...because then at least you can know 'hey that chick rudely ignored.' but at least I handled it maturely or something to that effect.

btw im still waiting for that story.

Maybe she has other MSN friends besides you and wanted to talk to them?

i am not gonna judge what other people do on dating sites when it comes to messaging, but here is what i did... i replied to every single message.

it didn't matter if the message was creepy or annoying or whatever... because i had the power to block responses. so i would tell them EXACTLY why i didn't want contact anymore, for example:

"in your profile, you said you want athletic women aged 18 to 29. i am fat and 39 so i do not fit your criteria."
"you sent me 4 messages in 20 minutes and i find that really overwhelming"
"your profile is empty"
"you're being too pushy about meeting in person already and it freaks me out"
etc.

and THEN... i would immediately block them so they could not respond.

I would not want to say things that could cause them to want to respond only to block them so they cant because I know how frustrating that sort of thing can be...but that's just me.

at first i left it open for them to respond back, but if they responded back it was NEVER in a friendly way, no matter how nicely i worded the rejection (but most did not respond at all).

Straight to the point, i prefer it that way.

But again, it's not about the initial messages.

i always sent the final message and did not leave anyone hanging. the disadvantage to that was that my response rate showed as green ("always replies"), which apparently makes people think someone is desperate. i remember reading somewhere that it is better not to reply all the time so that you look choosier.

i thought courtesy was important (sort of - if i was truly courteous i wouldn't block anyone).