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NoamEtedgy
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19 Apr 2012, 3:28 am

Hey, can someone tell me what is the best way to ask a girl to be my girlfriend?

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19 Apr 2012, 3:34 am

It's not a contract, you don't really ask and then become boyfriend/girlfriend. You do stuff together and at some point it becomes apparent you are, de facto, boyfriend and girlfriend.

ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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19 Apr 2012, 3:38 am

I find it's best at knifepoint.

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19 Apr 2012, 4:00 am

I liked being asked directly.
Absolute clarity.
The best way....hm, sincerely?

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NoamEtedgy
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19 Apr 2012, 4:26 am

edgewaters wrote:

It's not a contract, you don't really ask and then become boyfriend/girlfriend. You do stuff together and at some point it becomes apparent you are, de facto, boyfriend and girlfriend.

I'm aware it's unnecessary to ask, but I figured I might do it that way as I'm not so good with girls to be honest.

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19 Apr 2012, 6:18 am

NoamEtedgy wrote:

edgewaters wrote:

It's not a contract, you don't really ask and then become boyfriend/girlfriend. You do stuff together and at some point it becomes apparent you are, de facto, boyfriend and girlfriend.

I'm aware it's unnecessary to ask, but I figured I might do it that way as I'm not so good with girls to be honest.

Food is key

Take her to a restaurant/hot dog stand, coffee, whatever she likes. Go on a enjoyable date and ask while at it. "I'd like us to be exclusive, would you like to be my girlfriend?" worked for me in the past.

ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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19 Apr 2012, 6:24 am

Kidnap her family.

shyguy2012
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19 Apr 2012, 7:48 am

The best way is to be her friend.. Then let it build from there and it will happen.

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19 Apr 2012, 7:48 am

When your good enough friends justo to make it official. Worked for me. I basically husk asked her "would you like to be my girlfriend" it was very awkward and I messed up why I was saying but she still said yes

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19 Apr 2012, 8:29 am

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:

Kidnap her family.

No. You kidnap her. (And her family if it gets bad enough)

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19 Apr 2012, 9:43 am

It is absolutely best to ask, preferably in a romantic moment.

I was with an aspie who never asked and I just assumed. When I did ask him what we were, he said we shouldn't label it. Then after a year of spending a lot of time together, time apart and reunions, I found out that all he thought we were was fwb. I don't think I've ever been so hurt in my life.

So yes, ask. She will love you for it and that will help her to trust that she is on the same "plane" with you.

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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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19 Apr 2012, 1:11 pm

Rax wrote:

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:

Kidnap her family.

No. You kidnap her. (And her family if it gets bad enough)

But that means threatening her with violence (BAD), threaten the family instead for max combo (LEVERAGE).

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19 Apr 2012, 2:07 pm

Quote:

I find it's best at knifepoint

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19 Apr 2012, 5:24 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:

I find it's best at knifepoint.

LOL.

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19 Apr 2012, 5:32 pm

shyguy2012 wrote:

The best way is to be her friend.. Then let it build from there and it will happen.

No, don't do that. There's nothing worse than thinking a guy is your friend only to find out he's just acting friendly to get in your pants.
Relationships involve a lot of awkward conversations (especially sexual relationships) so if you want to be in a relationship you're going to have to get used to that.
Use your words, ask her "would you like to be my girlfriend?"
boom easy

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19 Apr 2012, 5:49 pm

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:

shyguy2012 wrote:

The best way is to be her friend.. Then let it build from there and it will happen.

It's not pretending. You can't just dive right into a relationship without building upon friendship first.

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