06 May 2012, 1:10 pm
06 May 2012, 2:16 pm
06 May 2012, 2:29 pm
IlovemyAspie wrote:
All of those things don't make him superior to you. I know for myself (I'm and NT female) none of those things matter. For me it's always been a chemistry thing. Most of the guys I've dated have been people no one would expect I'd be with. I went out with a guy who wasn't what most folks would call attractive but the chemistry was AMAZING. Looks aren't everything. Beauty fades, dumb is forever! Sometimes guys who are very social are too social and it's hard to keep their attention because they are all over the place. I have dated several folks and have been married. All to guys who were NT. I am currently in love with an amazing guy who happens to be an Aspie. He's quiet, socially awkward, has special interests,doesn't know crap about pop culture and shuts down on me sometimes. Guess what? I'm the exact opposite! BUT, he's sweet, caring, intelligent,sincere and much much more. Add some chemistry to that and it's a wonderful mix.
That other guy may have all of those things and still be a jerk. If you are interested in her, go for her. Chess and social skills do not a perfect man make. Oh and by the way NOBODY is perfect
That other guy may have all of those things and still be a jerk. If you are interested in her, go for her. Chess and social skills do not a perfect man make. Oh and by the way NOBODY is perfect
"Beauty fades, dumb is forever!" I almost spit out my coffee when I read that!! Thank you for a much-needed laugh!! As to the rest of your post, I completely agree and am in a very similar boat to yours - NT female hopelessly in love with an Aspie male (and when the "air" is right, we have fantastic chemistry!)
And can we get an "AMEN" to "NOBODY is perfect"?!?!
06 May 2012, 2:37 pm
06 May 2012, 3:13 pm
06 May 2012, 4:01 pm
The_Postmaster wrote:
He asked me, and I'm not exaggerating, if the earth's crust was pizza crust in earth science a few years back. The sad part is he wasn't joking.
Look at the title of your post again. Seriously? Every time you see this guy, for the rest of your life, relive that moment in your head. Those words are out there forever, and can never be stuffed back into his mouth. That ought to reorient you!
Just a quick note from at least the third NT woman on this thread, who is hopelessly in love with an Aspie. One night, my Aspie stole me from my NT boyfriend - a similar suave, smooth-talking, popular, supposedly smart guy - right in front of him. How? (1) Mr. Cool had been arguing with me for two weeks, insisting that the second law of thermodynamics couldn't possibly hold true, with absolutely nothing to back it up. Call it the Pizza Crust factor. (2) Mr. Cool was too absorbed with impressing his fan club to stay close to me, which gave Mr. Aspie the opportunity to buy me a drink and persuade me that Mr. Cool was just another pony-tailed pompous ass douchebag,
They say the early bird gets the worm. Sometimes. Other times, the second mouse gets the cheese. Stay positive!
