room mate confusing the hell out of me

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First off i have aspergers so this is just what i notice and may or may not be everything thats going on here.

So ive known this girl for about 6 years we're both 20,and about 5months ago we moved in together. whenever we're together she demands my full attention, if im not paying attention to her i get poked or tickled, there was the condom incident where she threw an unopened condom on my bed... And she hates it whenever i have girls over. the best way i can describe living with thus girl is that she wants me but doesnt realize it. alot of times when friends see us together they ask me whats going on between us and honestly i have no idea what to tell them, so whats going on here???[b]

Aww...it's so nice to be loved. I'm jealous.

She wants to be much more than friends with you and is dropping quite a lot of hints in hopes of you picking them up. Really, when the next confusing sign starts, I'd talk to her about it. I'm pretty sure this has been said before, but you two have been living together for a while, so you're probably well-past acquainted with each other enough to have a deep conversation like that.

So, maybe the post above is correct and she wants you.

But there are other possibilities.

Some girls, (insecure girls) thrive on male attention. If you don't give that attention automatically, you become a challenge, and the overtly flirtacious behaviour (throwing a condom on your bed) could be the result. If you actualy pursued this girl, she might lose interest because you are no longer triggering her insecurity by being aloof.

Or, sometimes it is easier to express flirtacious behaviour with a guy who is unavailable (e.g. because he is gay, or in a relationship with someone else, or just a friend). If she thinks there is no possibility of sex actually happening, then she could be looking at this behaviour as harmless fun.

Given that you are roomates, this is a complicated situation, and she may not be sure herself what she wants.

What do you want from her?

It does not sound like a good idea to have this kind of roommate. You should consider moving out if she is over pressuring you like this. It's too extreme and unnecessarily awkward for both of you. These "hints" are more like drops of distrust and fear of the unknown.

Probably one of two things: either she likes you and wants to hookup, that or she wants to get you to want her. If you try anything with her make sure you can handle it emotionally, but it sounds like you would have explored this already and decided, no. You should decide what you want to do and let her know, or let her be herself and cope with it.

what going on... she wants ya!
GET OVER HERE!! ! -scorpion