aspergers man tells me to piss off

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I have had intimate contact with a guy who i believe has aspergers . during an email conversation over meeting up, he tells me to leave him alone and shoo. He has swore at me in the past. But we have made up. He doesn't see that telling another human being yo shoo is wrong. He won't speak to me at all now. What can i do?

Idk, not an expert at relationships, but seems that he`s an ass

Just forget about him, I know sometimes its hard when you get an infatuation with someone, but if they show no interest in you or as in your case blatantly tell you to go away then they are clearly not worth the time or heartache. You cant force someone to like you unfortunately.

You can do anything you want.

I guess though that you're meaning, 'what can I do to get through to him and be re-intimate?'

If he's closed the metaphorical door on you, then you'll need a metaphorical fireman's axe, chainsaw, and/or battering ram. That is if you choose not to take the hint.
After that you'll need a metaphorical net launcher or stun-gun to keep him from running out the back door.
After that try some tactics from the movie "A Clockwork Orange" or "The Silence of the Lambs" so he doesn't pull that same rebellious stunt again...

...or find another guy...
God made a bunch of 'em.

I would be very much surprised I you couldn't find someone better. Autistics seem to have a hard time switching from someone to someone else, but nevertheless they can do it, I'm a living example.

Nicely put 1401b

Jerks have no prejudice whether they be NT or aspies the world is full of them.

Why are you wasting any more time or emotional energy on this jerk. He's not a keeper. Go find a decent guy. He's not. Don't you think you are worth someone better? There are over 7 billion people on this wrong planet. About half of them are men. Surely you can find a better match with those odds. Or maybe you are just over whelmed at the thought of wading through about 3 1/2 billion men to find one good one. Good news you can eliminate the male kids and elderly men from your search. If you keep it to within say 5 years below and up to 15 years above your age level, that works out to about only 700,000,000 men you have to check out planet wide. Or if you would like to narrow the search even more, take the approximate total number of people in your country. Divide by half to eliminate those of your gender. Take 20 % of the remaining half and that will cover approximately a 20 year spread from 5 years below to 15 years above your own. This assumes an approximate maximum death age of about 100, of course. At the young end there are likely to be more than at the old end though, but it does balance out. And the fact that some people will make it over 100 doesn't hurt the approx. formula, as the population thins out at the older end, anyway.

So have fun checking out the other men in your country, and don't bother any more with the one you've been trying to land. He's not a good match for anyone.

So he broke up with you... Don't try to force him to stay.

I don't think I'd call him a "jerk" right off the bat. He was awfully blunt, telling you to leave him alone and shoo, and over e-mail too; but he might not have had the social skills to let you down gently. Don't chase him--if he doesn't want to be with you, that's his choice, and there's not much good that can come out of trying to force somebody to stay in a relationship they evidently want to be out of.

Why do you think he has AS? The title of this thread suggests you're sure he has it but your opening sentence isn't as sure. You said you believe it. Does he believe he has AS? I'm only asking because I'm not clear on this. Regardless of what his condition is I wouldn't want someone to force contact with me if I didn't want it. As for the swearing thing... that should be a pretty good indicator that you should not meet him or have anything to do with him. If a person disrespects you like that you need to respect yourself enough to walk away.

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based on your description, the best thing you can do is shake the proverbial dust off and be open to meeting someone new. He doesn't sound like he's worth your time or energy.

Asperger's or your idea of Aspergers? There is a difference, and generally what I find with people who assume that someone they actually don't know very well has Asperger's, it's not that person really, but the ideas and stereotypes the first person is projecting onto the second person.



Move on.

when he said "shoo" did he make the brushing motion with his hands?

to me it seems more like he's asspergers

Maybe you should explain your relationship a little bit more. Going by the little info you've given so far I can only guess that he just wanted a one night stand and after you "had intimate contact" he was done and went on his way and maybe you didn't take the hint that he just wanted a one night stand so then he tried being blunt to get the point across.