Breaking up?

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I think we are breaking up.

I have been in a state of optimism despite glaring incompatibilities in important things, like world view, values & attitudes, expectations, chosen lifestyles...

But I'm changing, kind of growing up or becoming realistic, and also, developing some self-esteem -- so I think it's ok for me to be living a happy, fulfilled life with someone who has similar interests, values, etc., who makes the effort as I do, to be a loving partner. Someone who also seeks to create a beautiful life, to be fully alive, as much as possible.
Life is not easy...so, companionship? Loving trust?

Very sad, as I had so much hope invested here.

Really disappointed.


(I have no question, am merely seeking company on the right planet. Perhaps this should be in The Haven...)

good feelings going your way

Better to be responsible and realize you are incompatible at an earlier stage instead of doing it down the line when kids are involved. It takes a certain amount of maturity and assertive to be able to step away from a relationship, I'm sure you will meet someone that shares similar values if you are assertive about it.

Sorta going through the same thing ... in very slow motion because of circumstances ... past disappointment now. Burning up the frustration to fuel optimism. New days ahead - that's the silver lining.

DogsWithoutHorses -- Thankyou, so very much appreciated.

Wolfheart -- Assertiveness is not my forte, but I am learning. It is so important to be strong about values, etc., and I do believe it will be worth the sacrifices in the end. I feel like I'm growing into myself.

edgewaters -- I began to see a silver lining at the mere idea of breaking up...not a good sign for the relationship. It's so strange to experience optimism at the same time as sadness & disappointment, so confusing.

I'm so glad of this place.

That's good that you feel you are leaving for better things, for better future!