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The girl who I was dating said she no longer wants a dating relationship, but does want a friendship, because of religious differences. Ever since she told me that today, I just feel like lying around.....

Religious differences? Wouldn't this have been discussed from the beginning? Hmm...there's more to than meets the eye.

Forhet her and move on. I know it's gonna be hard now, but a few weeks from now, you'll be glad you did.

Sounds like a silly reason to me, did you care about these differences? if no, did you tell her that you don't care?

Since the breakup wasn't mutual, trying to continue on a platonic friendship level at this time won't work, and will only hurt you. You need to keep your distance until you are over her. Keep looking. There are other people out there. Better to find out that you are not a match now, than after getting more deeply involved.

Learn from this: Always consider important issues before getting too involved. Some of them are:

- Religion
- Politics
- Financial issues, including debts, and spending habits.
- Criminal history
- Employment history. Good worker or freeloading bum. Does not count as bum if one parent stays home to take care of kids and household. But they must actually do that job, or then they are a freeloading bum.
- Medical history
- Mental health issues
- Family/inlaw dynamics. Are they okay, or are they jerks, etc.
- Does either have kids, want kids, how many?
- Child rearing methodology--methods of training and discipline, etc.

There are other issues to consider as well, but this is a good start.

For medical reasons I was different then my GF ..She leaves me for that... Now I live alone and that.s good for me... Now I am looking for friends!! ! In my head things go different... but is that a reason too leave??? Greets from Chris

I totally understand why you're depressed. I would be too! Take some time to let yourself be sad. If you feel like it's dragging on too long then you can set a time limit. Like--OK, I'll be sad for an hour today--or until Tuesday, and then I'm going to go out and make an effort to do something nice that I usually enjoy. And don't forget to practice self care.

Religion doesn't always get in the way, but it definitely can sometimes.

I'm neo-pagan and I dated an atheist, and we never had any religious issues. I dated a Jehovah's Witness though, and I couldn't deal with the whole Hell thing, and the Bible guys--and it was too much of a wedge.

Everyone has different standards. I tend to be very romantic in my ideals for love--that differences can be forgiven and dealt with. I think it's mostly true, but everyone does have some standards and so it's good to figure out what they are and whether they jive with yours.

She obviously cared for you despite her standards, but some Christians really do have it built into their belief system that they can't be with people of other faiths unless they convert them.

I had this girlfriend that dumped me out of the blue cause of religious diffrences. I was crushed to the point of two suicide attempts. But what helped me was just thinking that i may get that girl someday that will love me back. I would focus on that.

Just pretnend to be religious that is what I would do. Even though I really an religious