Why do nt women leave and some don't?

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Yes thanks, I can only hope that we reconcile with the help of a councillor but we shall see.i am just a little bitter that she left me just when I got my diagnosis. I thought we could work thru it together

The problem is people nowadays get married thinking that if later they dont like it, they can always get a divorce. Thats why the divorce rate is so high. People do not really commit. My husband is Aspie and he is faithful. I am NT and I am faithful. My husband found out he had AS when our 8 years-old was diagnosed (after 13 years of marriage). For me that was only a name. Nothing changed. He was the same person, and continued being the same person. Only with a new tag. That explained a lot of things, and helped me understand him a little better and helped me be more patient. But your wife was right sbout something: it aint easy. And the chances of having a kid with AS or Autism are pretty high (thats why I decided not to have any more children). If she cannot take it from you she wont be a good mother for your children. So probably it is for the best. Not for her, for you.

Before my partner even started looking into AS as a posibility, I just viewed him as different, sometimes odd, but all in a good way. I like different. I've always liked him because he was smart, I learn from him, When we first started dating and he had no thought of AS as a possiblity until just recently ( We've been together four years, tho off and on, we met at a young age )

I chose to stay by him because not only is he different from most guys, but he's helped me through so much back when we first started dating, He's really a wonderful man, I never understood ( during our times apart we each dated a little, hey we met at 15 and 16 so we both didnt have a lot of experiance at dating then lol ) how others he had dated could leave him, how they could treat him differently. It hurt me to see that. Because I myself saw something amazing in him that I suppose they didnt.

We've always been there for one another since we've known one another, I don't think I could be this happy with anyone else but him.

My wife has separated from me but left the door open for reconciling down he track. No promises though.

Is it the aspie in me to want to stay in the hope of getting her back? I don't think so but maybe it is? It is the hardest thing I have ever done with no guarantees.

I don't like the wheelchair analogy because when someone's in a wheelchair their partner can usually easily tell & understand some of the limitations that are involved but mental things like Aspergers are not easily understood. Some things to consider are that some Aspies push themselves to their limit by trying to change, hide or deny their Aspie stuff. They cant do it forever thou & when their Aspieness finally does come out; it's a huge shock to their NT partner when she finally realizes that her Aspie is kind of a different person than the one she got in a relationship with. The NT may feel a little betrayed like she was lied to or tricked. Sometimes the NTs just don't fully understand all the Aspie stuff. They may think that the Aspie stuff is situational at 1st or that those are things that can be worked on & changed some but they realize they were wrong after a while.

Because women are hard to figure out due to the fact no 2 women are the same. Some NT women are understanding while some are not and are unable to handle an aspie BF it varies. YES I HAVE FIGURED WOMEN OUT MUAHAHA the secret is....not one of them are the same therefore they can only be figured out as an individual.Truthfully though they are complicated and none of them are all the same therefore they generally cannot be figured out and remain a mystery.I guess just like us aspies to most NTs we cannot be figured out the same way? You can eventually figure a person out by analyzing the nature behavior and patterns however you cannot figure the entire group out hope that makes sense.

I know Aspies are prone to depression but I have never felt that way until know. I feel very poorly and worry about myself, even though I am seeing a counsellor.
My wife has left me pue and simple because of my AS, but to me the killer comment is that I had my chances. Like I knew I had it.
I have died inside but I also feel a lot of resentment.for her inability to support me.
I used to be an outgoing popular person, now I feel like a social leper and people look at e in a different light.
For me life sucks

ABsolutely if things go pear shaped we both lose really. And I mean big time. She just can't handle the fact that I am an aspie. I support her thru all her depression and mental illness and she dumps me because im an aspie. No wonder I'm feelin like a piece of dirt.