What is "creepy"?

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Creepy is a word basically given by a girl to an unwanted unattractive guy who's persecuting her.

i swear to god theres an echo in wp. twice in one day now.

I'm a woman and have been called creepy.
I believe it has to do with crossing "boundaries". Boundaries are limits placed around oneself that I guess NT's seem to have and innate sense of. When you have difficulty understanding the social rules, non verbal cues, and difficulty with communication it just seems like a recipe for disaster.
It makes me think twice about everything that comes out of my mouth and how it may be interpreted. This of course makes for difficult conversation and hence more creepiness.
I can't win.

Creepy means you crossed a line, whatever reason, however unfair/fair it may have been, there was a line and you stepped over it


To guys who feel they are unfairly labeled "creepy because of their looks-

Think of approaching someone as a game of redlight greenlight. With context/body language/and actual language I find that people tend to display a "yes approach me" greenlight or a "no go away" redlight (or yellow, but that gets muddy so not yet). Sometimes it's hard for me to read those lights because of my autism and also because some situations are confusing (so sometimes I do things that seem creepy without meaning to) but more often than not, if I'm being thoughtful and paying attention I get an accurate read.
If you approach when someone is hanging a green light, you're likely to be well received.
If you approach when someone is hanging a red light, you're more likely to be poorly received or even read as creepy because there was a social cue you missed by going forward at a stoplight and that kind of reckless driving can trigger the "something isn't right here" sensor.

Where I think physical attractiveness does come into play, is in whether you get a green or red light. I think attractive people are more likely to get a green light and because of that are less likely to run a red light and get a negative evaluation (a "creep" ticket).
Unattractive people may be more likely to get a red light (which is expressed with body language and social cues) and so have more chances to run a redlight.

The fault that earning the creepy label is not the looks, the fault is in ignoring or not being aware of the red light.
If you want to avoid negative labeling, pay attention and don't run red lights. If you want more green lights, make some changes.

for me its not even that its looks subjective, its that its subjective that gets me. I dont recall ever being called creepy, but its because i work hard to not get that label. But the fact that what can be done has different creepiness levels simply because of who does it is not good for anyone, let alone fair. It shows a degree of selfish behaviors and an underlying tone of mistrust that can be evolved into, or came from hate.