Someone with AS dating someone with AS?

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I'm curious if the idea of two people with AS dating is a good idea or a really, really horrible idea? We're both moderately AS - we can function, but we're obviously a little "odd" to people. We've both had relationships before with NTs and part of the reason they didn't work out was that the NTs meant well but couldn't deal with our need for space, etc.

So it almost seems that people with AS would be better off together if we knew each other's "limits" and could respect them.

What do you think?

Not to put a downer on this thread, but there are quite a few like it already in existence. I think the general consensus was that yes, it could be good.

I have heard that Aspies actually prefer to mate with their own kind rather than the Neurotypicals, AND that they feel more empathy towards each other than the NTs feel towards each other.

Sorry - I probably should have done a search!

I just feel like he "gets it" - I could say, "Yes, I have the evening free. I would rather spend it alone than with you - not because I don't care about you, but because I'll be a better girlfriend (and happier overall) if I can have some time to myself." He would probably reply, "GREAT! I have some stuff I want to do alone too. How about we meet up tomorrow instead?"

Then we would both go do our thing and it would be great, and I wouldn't have to worry about being guilted for needing some down time.