Asian men/White women couplings

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Maybe you can talk to your parents about this possibility and see what there reaction is. The other side to this is the future girl's feelings. She may fall in love with you but not want to enter into a family unit that does not accept her.

One thing to think about is you will obviously date a girl for a while before considering marriage. During that time you and the future girlfriend will be interacting with your family. At that point you all will or will not find acceptance.

I had a Vietnamese friend growing up. Her parents were born in Vietnam so going to her house was like experiencing the culture and customs of Vietnam. It was very interesting, differnent and new. I do not know how much your family holds to Korean customs and rules but these may also be areas that a non asian girl would have to learn and accept to be part of your family?

If everyone involved has an open mind and can be understanding of each other I think it is a doable thing. As you know, you cannot force anyone to have an open mind, that is something each person has to do on their own.

I am in one such relationship right now, and have another Asian male friend who has dated white girls, so I'm all for it.

Like others have said, you may have to go against the wishes of your parents if you fall in love with someone from another culture. But at least they are open to you dating a woman from another culture. From what my boyfriend has told me about his female Vietnamese friends, they are having similar issues with choosing to obey their parents or follow their heart. Their parents not only want them to date someone who is Vietnamese, but also have very specific requirements about the family and career of the person who they date.

Do your parents have other restrictions than culture? Also, why is it they are wanting an Asian daughter-in-law? Do they want her to know about Asian culture, or speak the language? Understanding that could help, because if you find someone who is willing to learn about your culture, it may put their minds at ease.

My boyfriend's parents just didn't want him to date a woman who parties all the time or would break his heart. But they understood that Vietnamese parents can be uptight when it comes to the families that their children choose to be a part of, so they preferred for him to date someone outside his culture.

I am in a mixed race relationship (I am a white female and my fiance is Chinese) so I guess you figure from this that I have absolutely no problem with it. Unfortunately, we have had some racist comments but thankfully, they have been very few and far between. If you can handle this then all the better. For me, it's all about who you fall in love with not what race/height/weight/hair/eye colour etc they are. If you want to date a white woman, I say you go for it since your parents have only 'recommended' you date someone the same race. Just explain to them that, when the time comes, this person makes you happy and you are in love regardless of the person's race.

You said "Asian" at first. What would they think of a Japanese, Chinese, Vietnamese or Filipina daughter-in-law?

Have they started getting relatives and friends in Korea to scout out potential wives for you?

I have seen it happen it is not as often but it is starting to become more common I think its awesome.

A website that might be of interest

http://www.asianmanwhitewoman.com/

I'm a Caucasian girl, and I love Asian guys. There's a Korean exchange student in one of my classes this semester, and he is incredibly handsome.

I don't think it's as rare as people say. I've seen a number of Caucasian female/Asian male relationships on my university campus.

Rare? I see. Ya know what, I came on this planet to be different from this mold........ and NOTHING will stop me. And even though the odds may be kinda against me....... I am just determined. *Fire in his eyes*

You make it sound so evil.

I hang with a few folks in college some are into caucasian girls and dont mind me being into asian girls hehe.

MWA HA HA HA HA HAAAA!

On a serious note, I'm a Mistiso which is half Filipino/half white, and I'm dating a French/Prussian girl. There's been no issues between our families. The couples are out there. You just have to go look for them.

A friend of mine was married to gu from Thailand back in the 80's. They had two kids and they had a good marriage it seemed, even though his parents didnt like her. She's white. Anyway, they went over here for a visit and somehow or other she came back home and he had the kids here and was supposed to join her but didn't. They where there about two years beforehe brought them back. They were little too, and hey had forgotten all their English.

They are divorced now.

In her situation, it was the parents that kept picking at things, not the differences between them. I'm not in any way saying your parents would be like that, but while they were dating she knew they didn't care for her, but after the wedding they hated her.

Married to gu? That does sound like a sticky situation.

In a lot of Asian countries, there is an expectation that the son's wife will take care of his aging parents. Someone from another culture might need to use special effort to ingratiate herself.

If that is true, then how come Asian women don't fall over themselves to get a guy from another ethnic group. Where the parents can look after themselves. Or is that a myth now?

Anywhere in the world, competition between the mother and the wife over a man's affection is inevitable.

In the USA, where independence is the mantra, and where the prevalent social model is for the man to establish his independence from his parents, such that he does not give his parents so much as a penny of support, and neither do the parents expect it: catfights between the mother and the wife are typically limited to holiday get-togethers.

In Asia, independence is not a goal. People give money to their parents, whether the parents need it or not. One's wife may suffer under the critical approbation of one's mother. But, the wife does have one consolation: some day, her mother-in-law will die. Her son will marry, and she will have her own daughter-in-law to boss around and of whom to disapprove. As Disney says, it's the "Circle of Life."

I see. Other things about me:

Many Asian men you know tend to be reserved, reticent, in other words, introverted. That is NOT me by any sense: I am more upbeat, outgoing and enthusiastic like Pinkie Pie is. Maybe that could be a breath of fresh air for anyone?