Do aspie men want advice from aspie women?

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I think ignoring opinions of a particular group of females based on their diagnostic label is a bit invalidating. Despite the DX label we can still give an enlightening female perspective on things. If it's only advice from experienced NT's that's sought maybe guys should be posting their predicaments in the mainly NT dating site forums instead of here.

tam, thanks for the delicately put OP. I too have come to the same conclusion about the writing style and interpretation from other Aspies as far as absolutes go.

About who wants advice:
**Some seek advice from like-minded people (rarely useful).
**Some seek any advice (a lot more sincere, likely to yield better results for the person asking).
**Some seek advice from their fellow peers and from a specific gender.
**Some come here pretending to seek advice but they just want pity, or sometimes they want people that fit their sexual orientation to respond (straight guys hoping straight women respond for example).
**Some come here to vent only regardless of what responses they get, as long as they get responses that do not challenge their ego or thought process.
**Some seek advice from the opposite gender as there are certain things that the OP feels only they can answer on the subject, which is sometimes true.

It's really a mixed bag.

yellowtamarin, yes, I think your advice is both welcome and useful and I hope this thread doesn't discourage you from giving it. Firstly, you seem to have quite a bit of experience in dating. Secondly, as blue_bean said, an aspie woman is still a woman and so would have a much better chance of understanding NT women than an aspie man. In fact, aspie women are probably in the best position to bridge the gap of misunderstanding between the two! So, all in all, I think you're as qualified as anyone to give advice here. Of course, someone may want advice from aspie men only, but they're free to say so in their post.

I believe I'd also have some good advice on how to attract NT women. But I feel like if I give this advice, rather than my own personal advice, then I'm promoting dating NT women instead of me, and so I'm in a way preventing AS men from knowing how to attract me! Sounds ridiculous, I know, but well...I'm single too

AS women are probably more capable of giving advice to AS men about dating (NT) women than NT women are simply due to the fact that their brains work similarly.

Asking directions from someone who speaks the same language is usually preferable over asking directions to someone who doesn't.. even if that someone knows the directions better..
That's my poor analogy anyway.

I believe this forum could benefit from having your diagnosis status displayed underneath your name so anyone that reads your post can immediately know what kind of person is posting it.


Yellowtamarin personally I'd be much more inclined to date an AS woman if I could, and I believe many of the AS men here will agree from what I've read so far.
As stated though, the amount of (diagnosed) AS women is very low.. I'd be thoroughly surprised if I'd come across a female aspie on this site that happens to live in my neighbourhood (hell, my country even) that happens to be single and compatible with me.

Moreover, how many NT women actually peruse these here forums?... I've just been here for one day but from what I've seen the only NT women active are women asking for advice themselves regarding their AS partner/family member.