so what are shy men suppose to do

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Women tend to be attracted to men who are not looking and completly indifferent to them also to men who are with women already.You could always find a wingwoman and go out and youl notice more women hitting on you.

It means he's less dangerous. That's part of what's so great about gay guys: they really don't give a damn about you, so you can just be real friends like normal human beings.

Im very shy, the only opportunities i got with finding someone is if a woman is flirty with me on a bus, or at work, but its hard because i really dont talk unless im spoken to. And i really dont have the social skills to start any kind of flirting or conversating, so at this point ill just go about my life, and it something happens, then great, if it doesnt then i guess i just be alone and play lots of video games and porn.

see, this is the love and dating forum. There is a friends forum elsewhere that all of your advice would work great on.

That's exactly how I feel lol.

I am sure most Aspie men have misinterpreted flirting signals from women and thus given off the impression that they are not interested.It seems to me that the majority of women will give up on trying to flirt with someone who isn't responding appropriately.Men with AS need to get better at recognizing when a woman is interested in them so they can respond appropriately.

and, again, the two are not mutually exclusive; thinking that they are is part of the problem.

They are mutually exclusive, because a lot of these men, including myself, have no issues talking to women they see as friends or acquaintances. Their problem is for ones they see as relationship material.

^^so I suppose men are guilty until proven innocent yet still expected to do the approaching to me seems like a conspiracy to bait for frivelous entrapment.Or a lesser extentt expect him to approach to shoot him down and label him as a pig.

I don't think it's true that all women won't approach men. Those who won't have it drilled into their heads that guys want to be the "hunters" and are turned off by women who approach them.

I am one of those women who does not follow the rules and I absolutely adore shy men. My ex-husband was extremely shy and if I hadn't approached him and done about 90% of the work, we never would have become a couple. I can't stand to be in the same room with him anymore but we do have two great kids from the marriage.

The guy I am currently crushing on (highly likely he's an aspie) is extremely shy and that is one the of major reasons I was drawn to him. Seriously. And I have done all the approaching. I even asked him to go out to dinner. I did not get the response I was hoping for but I don't regret taking the initiative.

Girls who like shy guys ARE out there. They're just rare. And you have to put yourself out there so the rare ones can find you.

And where does that leave the straight guys who pretend to be gay? You'd think with that happening, they'd be scared of gay guys too or wonder what their deal is.

They must evolve to non-shy, men have no other option in this one.

Yep.

pretty much. especially with self entitled men and women who wont do much more than belittle you for being shy.

If you are a shy, introverted guy and find it hard talking to people let alone approaching women you are probably better off just being you and remain alone. Anyway most relationships do not last long and there is like a 50% divorce rate. Asperger males are not missing out much by not being in or ever being in a more than likely dysfunctional relationships. If you are a quiet shy guy do nothing to change you.

yeah but it's not easy for shy men.