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Hi, I am Nic 19 this is my first post here on wrongplanet. I recently found out about aspergers over the summer took an online quiz and found out I pretty much have a textbook case of it. It took me a long time to figure this out I am also in a wheelchair so any mental problems I have were basically ignored until this point, I though people ignored me because I was disabled, but I now know this is due to me being a total social idiot. I just started college this fall and I went to orientation thinking that I could totaly change and be outgoing because I figured out about aspergers. lol yeah right. Anyways towards the end of orientation to my surprise a girl actually approached me and started talking to me, (i think she has some sort of disability because she wears hearing aids) sadly her bf was with her to . Anyways she has continued to talk to me sporadically, she is very assertive so it is easy to maintain a conversation with her, she has other friends that have disabilities also. She is definitely my type but she is in a serious relationship with someone now, I think. How do I become more of a friend to her without making myself look like a total idiot, getting stuck in the friend zone, or getting completely rejected by her? Obviously by some miracle I would like to possibly have her as my gf, but if I could not do that I would still like to be her friend? Also how should I go about telling her that I most likely have aspergers without making her think that means I am ret*d or something.

If she's in a relationship, and happy, it's the highest of dick moves to try to break that relationship up. Not only will it probably fail, you'll loose what could be a good friendship.

I would instead focus on being a friend to her, and getting to know her boyfriend. This in term may need to more social opportunities for you to have fun and meet new people.

It may be difficult at first, but it could lead to good rewards.

I agree, respect that she is in a relationship and back away. You will only cause yourself hurt if you obsess over someone that is in a relationship, if she is happy in her relationship, let her be happy and find someone that truly wants you and not someone else.

I am not trying to steal her from someone else, that would be stupid.( I could see why you would think that by how I wrote my paragraph though). I dont think someone of aspergers is even capable of that honestly. lol Sounds socially exhausting. I just don't want to ruin any chance with her if the opportunity arises in some distant future or parallel universe by being too friendly, or acting in a inappropriate manner.