Telling girls I'm an aspie - reaction?

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"Are you, like, f*****g ret*d or something?"

I probably learned this from another source, but I've found it effective: spend about 1/3 of the time talking about yourself and about 2/3 of the time talking about the other person.

simple rules like that are great.
i have quite a few for online dating, like:
never write more than they do
never reply back faster than they do
the opening message should be 5 sentences or less and reference 1-2 things interesting and unique about their profile that you have in common with them.

i only had a few fish bite, but i lost them the MOMENT i broke a rule.

a woman can use just about any ice-breaker to start a conversation with a man, but for men, they have to be very careful

Pretty much this.

Most would probably say "Huh? You have a fridge full of hamburgers made from donkey meat? What does 'having ass burger's mean?'"

The few who have heard of asperger's may or may not have a complete understanding of it- but whether they do or not- it would not aid and abett what you're trying to accomplish (ie getting a date).

Unless its a dating site for people on the spectrum I dont see any point in mentioning to someone you're just starting to meet on a dating site.

As an NT woman, I would suggest telling her sometime during the course of a first date IF things are going really well, i.e. you are really clicking, and you'd like to see her again.

If you really like her and want to see her again, honesty is important to maintaining a good relationship. And as kjas said, "The ones who are going to leave if you tell them aren't worth it anyway." No point in investing time in a woman if she's not understanding and willing to learn everything she can about AS.

This thread is breaking my heart because the guy I adore is very likely an aspie and I would be quite honored if he trusted me enough to tell me. I have spent countless hours on websites and reading books trying learn everything I can about AS.

*sigh*

it's the way it is but that doesn't mean i have to like it or enjoy it

responses I get are mostly in the lines of,

oh that is interesting
but you are so smart
oh, with their eyes rolling
that is not you in the picture
tell me more, they seem really interested at first and then they disappear

from what I gather here on wrongplanet, if you are high on endorphins, it doesn't what you think, it will come out positive and people feed of it. If you happen to stop, they disappear, because you become a vampire

what I have yet to find is someone that will like me back for being me, never mind the additional bonus you would get from endorphins. I think NTs probably go through the same thing, except they seem to know when somebody actually likes them.

This.