Career or Love?

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Now here's an interesting question: What would you put first? Career over Love or Love over Career?

Last edited by OMGitsKenny on 20 Nov 2012, 9:16 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Both. I can't choose one or the other at this point.

Career.

I did put love first. Once I had my child I decided being a mom was more important than having a career. I do work, but I stopped getting high profile jobs because they just did not allow me to spend much time with my daughter. I am glad I chose that path.

Love. I feel like no matter what path my career takes, it feels empty without having somebody to share it with in my life. The feeling of career success feels very underwhelming when I can't accomplish what most people have done by their mid 20's (a relationship).

What profitith the man, if he livith in a house of gold, for he cryeth at night upon his pillow of silk, for his bed be empty and have haveth no friends.

Love. I'd choose love over anything else. I'd choose love over everything else.

Edit: I'd even stop using italics for emphasis in every single sentence for love (but, thankfully, I don't have to).

Last edited by mds_02 on 21 Nov 2012, 1:20 am, edited 1 time in total.

I chose career because love will come easier once a career is obtained then one can afford to fall in love settle down and have kids.

Older people would say love

Younger people would say career

Go figure.

well, id say career just because i know with career even if lovelife fails theres more things id be able to do

I would do anything to make sure my kids are provided for. At the moment that means career but I do it because I love my kids and don't want them to starve. So.....both

Love.

I expect it to change over time, for me. Right now I'm 25 and completely focused on the career side of things. I guess because I'm still fighting to "make it" comfortably in the world. Once I've gotten that part of life pretty well wrapped up, I expect my interests to change.

I imagine it's a different issue for women because they need to worry more about having kids. The "optimal" age for having kids is ~20-35. Figure you graduate college at around 22. If you figure you'll be in a relationship with someone for several years before you get married and start having kids, that doesn't give you a whole lot of time. I also get the sense that older men have an easier time dating than older women.

Last edited by JBO on 21 Nov 2012, 11:53 am, edited 1 time in total.

I would say this is a female-only question. As a man, you can't have love without a career, so the choice is not present. We must have our sh*t together financially (I'm not saying being rich) for us to be even part of the dating pool.

I'm sure this is true to some extent, but I think it is changing. Being a stay-at-home dad is a lot more socially acceptable these days.

Career, no question. In an ideal world, I had both, but if I had to pick one, I wouldn't hesitate long to choose career.