a good question for the men here who never been laid

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all men here who never had sex. Let say you finaly get a girlfriend and go out with her for one year or less, have sex with her and
then she dumps you or you dump her.
Now let's say after this girlfriend, no other women ever shows any interest in you.
would you be happy and say ''yeah, I got laid once or had a girlfriend once''
or would you be ''Can't get another women to like me'' ''I hate not having another girlfriend''

would you retire from dating and live a celebacy lifestyle
or would you try to get a second date?

(this question is for men who have very hard time getting dates, but all are welcome)

It's not about getting laid that's important to me...but losing that one person I have loved a great deal and losing them.

I think I wouldn't cope personally...and would probably never go out with any other woman again.

I was seeing someone for a couple months and she was the second person I slept with. The first person... well, I won't go there. I felt a little heartbroken, yes, because I never had a chance like that come my way before and I knew it would take me a long time to find a chance again... or so I thought.
A little over a week later, I meet some girl, find an instant attraction to her, as well she did for me. I spent the night with her and got a date/hangout with her coming up later on this week. I don't plan on being celibate, and the opportunity that presented itself grants me the opportunity to not go down that road yet. I've gotten pretty lucky recently.

I would probably be despondent, and never go near women again.

I'd like to know how on earth anyone who's never had sex would know how they would act after they have.

Interesting.

I think I would say "At least I can say I'm not a virgin."

Don't be the guy who cries after sex...unless you don't want more sex.

getting laid once would show me that i's possible to get laid again. to be honest getting a girl to stick her tongue in my mouth will show me that it's possible to get laid. A girl who sticks her tongue in your mouth is attracted enough to have sex with you...eventually.
as a guy who has never had a girl do more than a kiss on the cheek or a random dick grab, I dont know if i have the ability to attract girls.

although in your situation you claim your girlfriend was weird..so i woudnt be that much more confident because
1- i dont like weird girls
2-i would thin most normal girls would still hate me

I'd feel the opposite way. I'd feel MORE attractive because these things happened. But it would kinda be mixed with feelings of "will I ever find someone else?"

in my experience with "inexperienced" guys, they didn't become calmer and more confident after they had their initial dating experiences. it's not like they seemed satisfied after getting there the first time. if they were the type who were obsessive about getting a girlfriend or getting laid before they dated me, they were like that afterward too. if they were the chilled out type who didn't seem bothered either way, that's how they seemed afterward.

somehow, i think people get this idea that experiencing something once cures a craving, but it really doesn't. one exception is asexual people who needed to experience sex to know that they don't really care for it.

It's tempting to kick this up a notch with a thread of "TRUE/FALSE: it's better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all..."

You're just talking about sex which is a step down from love, in my opinion... I'd say it's good for your psyche to know that someone found you desirable enough at least once - so you're not only "worth something" but also that it can happen again.

(No, one's worth is not measured by sex appeal. Don't read it that way!)

On the other hand, sometimes it's nice NOT knowing what you're missing...

I think that the more a person thinks 'That's it. I'm never going to find another partner ever again', the more likely it is to become a reality

Hence you have everything to gain by continuing the search

I had a male acquaintance who would mainly contact me just to moan about how he'd never find another girlfriend and was destined to be alone for the rest of his life as no woman would ever want him again

I got fed up of telling him he was creating a self-fulfilling prophecy

I've had plenty of rejection off men in my time yet it's never made me want to give up the search as logic tells me that if one person has liked me, others will too and this has always proved right. There might be longer gaps between some partners but another person always comes along eventually, probably mainly because I believe they will and I believe I am a worthwhile person.

I always try to bear this Carly Simon song in mind:-

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0A7jAVDPJU

I'm from the school that says "Nope, you can't quit". I've said the same thing, but nope, I have not lost hope. It's better to have loved and lost because that one day will come when it's better to have loved and it will be happily ever after.

hmm intriguing concept to have sex once and then give up for a life of celibacy. In my opinion HEEELLLL NOOOOO!! ! are you crazy? I would just be getting started.