Eligible Odd-Bods! - The Premier Aspergian Singles List

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Too bad she's met me now then!

J/k of course. I think she knows just about all there is to know about me.

i'm Della. london UK. 18 years old, going on...40? (i'm a girl. just in case..)

i read
i write poems that i am not proud of
i take photos that i am proud of
i sing, i shout and i dance
i drink, sometimes
i gave up drugs when i gave up meds
i cry when i am upset
i am sick of the games people try to play with each other
i stim at parties. the heart and soul of the disco, baby.
i can't talk politics, but i can talk literature and bands


i am PDD-NOS, and not many people notice, to be honest. i have had relationships in the past, mainly with self-obsessed idiots. this isn't wonderful for the ol' self-esteem, but i manage.
i have trouble bringing up my AS under any circumstances at all. meeting, or connecting with Aspies has been the most amazing relief.



say hi. i don't bite anymore

*grins* Why Danlo, you sound just marvellous! It is so refreshing to meet someone who isn't evil! *beams* Sorry it took so long to reply: I'm afraid that I didn't get the customary updatey thingo for this thread!

Suuuuuure it is... *shudders*

Hello

Nice to meet you. I am bored to, but i am not made of wood. Then where would my blood vessels go? I keep asking myself who I am, but I never get a response, I think my driver of that particular truck, fell asleep, or misssed the bus to work, one of those. I am keen on other stuff, just pretty blank about myself.

*giggles* You are funny! I am glad you have blood vessels. I think I missed my ship, bus AND motorbike!

I'm 25, from Cleveland OH, and like a lot of people here: single. I"m also a senior in college majoring in accounting and will probably start studying for my CMA starting this fall.

Here's what I'm looking for:

I'm looking for a girl who's sensitive, perceptive, but at the same time well developed and mature rather than being 3 sheets to her emotions. I'd especially like a girl who really gets her emotional kick of on more spiritual and sublime beauty rather than our western mainstream literalist prescribed way of feeling. One angle of that is, as my name probably implies for a lot of people, I like a lot of dark jungle, acid techno, hip-hop, some industrial, but regardless I tap into a deeper current and get the kind of happiness out of a lot of things in this world off of what most people would refer to as the 'darklight' angle (its a much more deep and spiritual happiness but something that a great many NTs and unfortunately just as many if not more aspies don't understand - which makes me feel lonely as hell in it I guess).

As for looks I'm not super particular, just that I've noticed I connect best with girls who have that sort of hallmark card quiet innocent-cute edge (that and I definitely like my women feminine in the outward sense) but at the same time are real squared away and crisp adults - not only do I think that inner/outward paradox extremely attractive but I get the impression even as a guy that's a good way to sum myself up as well (like mixes with like I guess and that sort of look vs. personality usually lends them to being a lot more in-linwe with myself in all the other aspects).

I also look for that certain enlightened-wholesomeness; ie. a girl who's just an incredibly good person but at the same time is a free thinker about what that means, has been a lot of places and a lof of subcultures in her life, may have tried a lot of different drugs, broadened her perspective, and still came right back to center but from doing the math on what's right or wrong herself (ie. big-picture oriented) rather than just unthinkingly and unanalytically adhering to what society says is good or bad, propaghanda and all. That and it would even be more of a plus if she's done all that and is still more of a conservative/republican girl rather than being hippyesque.

As for the relationship itself, I want it to be where we can get along, reason things out like adults, and not have a girl dislike me because I don't give her enough hard highs and lows with all the emotional drama. I'd like her to be stable and levelheaded, want that in a guy, and even more so want a guy who treats her with a lot of autonomy, lets her be independent, and treats her with all the respect that he would someone he slightly looked up to. As for the dynamics of the relationship, I want us to keep our own identities but at the same time mutually energize and strengthen eachother. I definitely prefer that because that kind of feeling makes me happy in ways I can't even explain, corrosion on the other hand feels like it could sweep my foundations right out from under me - tha't why I want a girl who feels the same way on that.

Seriously, if your like that and hold it down IRL like an adult, pride yourself on developing maturity, pride yourself on developing depth, pride yourself on being tough and dedicated to things, and pride yourself on being someone whos calculated and rational about life while still being able to enjoy emotions without letting the emotions controll them - please, hit me up via email, private message or something. Sometimes I worry about whether people may not give me a chance just because my writing style may come off a certain way, at least lets chat eachother up and get to know eachother in that context. Truth be told one of the reasons I'm still single IRL, aside from just looking for something specific, is that I am too quiet, too polite, and don't put my foot in my mouth or piss women off enough (thus they all love me like a friend). If you wonder why I care about looks in reference to personality, lets just say experience has shown me that the combination is the most striking feature of the types of women I do hit it off with IRL, they're rare enough as it is and even harder to find single.

Lol, I know that's a tall and specialized order, I know that's probably almost impossible, but unfortunately I'm one of those people who's very narrowly compatable, with or without NT-level social skills or even an empathy quotient that resides above most female NTs (you probably wonder how I even class as an aspie at that rate, I still have plenty of other more neurological and bottom-line motivational issues but I do everything I can to soldier em). For me though, I need those things though in someone else to even feel whole or feel gratified by a relationship; especially the personality, looks I'm still flexible enough on.

you're are pretty young lady

How does anybody who acts like that have any buisness critisizing your mental health or anybody's else's mental health for that matter?

Age: 24
Gender: Male
Location: Fairfield Ca
Interests: Finding a girl friend around my own age.

Last edited by BeLive on 28 Jun 2005, 1:46 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Hahaha, they aught not! Funny, it's usually the experienced ones that do... like my other ex who has a family history of mental illness, and yet would tell me i should have 'never been let our of the mental assylum'... charming I'm sure!

Hehe, assylum.... ASSylum...

Everyone is crazy besides me.

Everyone including me has one form of delusion or another at one time.

Carl Jung is good reading material.

Only if you think Freud wasn't talking BS a lot of the time..........

I read 8 or so of his books the past few months. Can't say I can take most of it seriously.

So what exactly am I to say to get to talk to a young lady in California thats A.S like me?

Edit: I suppose not a real question however as in asking for a response, simply such things are rather complicated I would like to at least chat to a lady in my age range online that is availible. Nothing expected of course good online contacts are always good things. If any girl is interested P.M me.

Hello there! My name is Brian and I am new here. I am 21 years old, 6'3, slim build with dark brown hair and eyes. I am a student who is currently attending RIT taking game design. I am working over the summer in Ithaca at the CBORD Group. Some of my many hobbies include photography, computers, skiing, jogging, and I especailly enjoy Unicycling. However my interests are certianly not limited to just those those, I love trying new things and finding out what I Like.

My friends say that some of my best qualities are my smile, my jokes, my sensativity, and the fact they can trust in me as a good person to talk with.

My ideal match is a girl who not only cares about my feelings, but is also willing to get out and discover what there is out there to discover! I am tired of just sitting around when there is so much in the world to do. Things are so much more meaningfull when you have someone to share the experince with. I promise I don't bite (Unless you ask nicely)