Does anyone actually look for woman with a personality?

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Uh... Nobody's saying "don't have standards" here. Also, you shouldn't do it because obviously it's made you bitter, and besides that, if you base who you're gonna date on appearance and appearance alone(which is usually the case), you're in for a sh***y relationship.

Also, you shouldn't hold new people you meet accountable for the BS others put you thru in the past. All that does is perpetuate the cycle.

I'm not holding anyone in particular accountable. I just know better than to be a doormat anymore. I've given people the benefit of the doubt for years and all it's done is let others take advantage of me. I'd be stupid to expect anyone to be genuinely nice nowadays.

I care very much about a woman's personality and intelligence. I don't even mind if someone has emotional problems because I know what that is like myself. I just want someone that is intelligent, has real substance to them personality wise and that I can make feel truly loved and accepted and return the same back to me.

So far I've not had much luck with that. but that is what I look for mostly. Looks are nice too and I have a few things that I like in that area. but I can tell you right now most of the women I've really fallen for (or were interested in) were not what most people would consider to be models or anything like that. but they were all deeply interesting people.

I don't care how cute someone is, if they open their mouth and nothing but ignorance and emptiness comes out they might as well be a zombie trying to eat my brains or something. (and no I don't find that a turn on )

Just finding a girl with a pulse who is not repulsed by me or threatens to call the cops for saying hi to her friend (that actually has happened before) would be a start for me. Sadly, I think that that is nothing more than a pipe dream.

No. I don't look for women/girls with personality, because then you could find the perfect partner, who's already taken. This has happened twice before and I won't let it happen again.

No, acceptance over personality. Every time.

For me, looks and personality are on equal ground.

Good looks, but a boring/bad personality?
PASS

Terribad looks, but good personality?
PASS

Good / OK looks, compatible personality with mine?
DING DING DING

'Looks' are a bit complicated subject.
Falling in love surely will reduce the importance of it naturally.

I seriously hope none of you guys and gals go for appearance alone though.
That's just a random dice roll with a very slim chance to "living happily ever after".

I won't lie. . . I'm a very, very, very Vain person. I immediately rate almost every girl I see. . . If I think a girl is a Munter I won't even look twice at her. -However- There's been a fair few girls who've grown on me. You know the time, Their looks are passable but nothing special but once you get talking well, You like them and it's gone from there to "fun" and their looks no longer matter.

But the truth of the matter is most people have you judged within the first few moments meeting you and your looks are a huge part of that. I judge, and I get judged.

I couldn't live with that. I know someone who accepts me for who I am, but I don't like them in that way as I find their personality boring (no offense to this person).

Even if I could get someone who is on and off with me but has a brilliant personality, I would be eternally happy (and sad, lol).

That is a rare breed (good looks AND personality), but I guess it is posisble...it's pretty shallow if you are judged based on looks and a one minute intro alone...I would never give these people the time.

Personality is the most important criterion for me, but I rarely meet women who are compatible with me in that respect.

How does one fake shyness? You mean they go quiet on you on purpose?

You make it sound like it's impossible for someone to fake it.

Faking shyness means pretending to be a generally shy person around a guy you like just because you know a lot of guys prefer shy girls to the louder types. But then once you realize he's taken you for granted, you reveal your true persona.

Yes, strategically acting all quiet on the guy is what I meant.

My ex did that. He acted all shy and portrayed himself that way, and then after a few months, the true colours came out.

they can hang their personality on the hooks provided outside my door before they enter.
i have no interest in "personality". i like very raw consciousnesses without a stylized form of delivery.

shared consciousness is vastly more important to me than the "personality" of who i share consciousness with.

Shared consciousness? Is that what they call a mind f*ck?

MCalavera, I am going to have to agree with you on this one. b9? It sounds like awareness or perception of something by a person, is what constitutes part of their personality? But I could be wrong. After all, I have been head f****d a lot.

what is a "mind f**k" ? anything that can be labelled as a "mind f**k" is simply labelled such because the description stems from a f****d mind who cannot think of words that are descriptive (with accuracy) of what they wish to say.
whatever i am off to bed. bleed on sore world.