some aspie women get dates,other aspie women can't

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Hehehe. I'm the pickiest of all!

Actually, that's not really true. More accurately, I'm just rarely attracted to anyone at all. It's either there, or it's not. When it *is* there, I get a bit obsesso.

So you put a lot of stake into our "society's" gender rules and roles, then, I'm guessing?

Personally, I happen to adore quiet/shy guys. One never knows what's lurking beneath that reserved demeanor...

yah same im pretty picky myself...although not entirely..it's just the girls who have been interested in me im never interested in them based on looks..but if you put me in the middle of a school, library, supermarket, with 1200 women, im sure i could pick 700 out that i'd be sexually attracted to.

I'd rather be done away with gender roles altogether. Getting rid of double standards is one way to do that.

I notice if I girl is more outgoing and talkative and confident, it really helps. I'm not ugly, but if I had all those qualities, I'd get guys asking me out all the time.

Looks help, but it's not everything:/

But everyone is picky, to their own standards. I might think someone is really good looking, whereas some other girl may find that person ugly. Personality wise the same principle applies.

I think goals, and how one would like to be respected, are fundamental, and high on my scales when choosing someone.

Mind you, I have done a lousy job so far

First of all, I like shy guys, and feel there's nothing wrong with being shy. I feel like shy guys tend to put more effort into a handful of close relationships and interests, and develop a deeper commitment to people/things. I know lots of really outgoing guys who have a bunch of friends but aren't really close to or there for any of them. And of course I like shy guys because I'm terribly shy as well and feel they're more likely to understand me. I also feel like shy people tend to think about things more, which is a quality I like.

But regardless, I'm one of those Aspie women who can't get a date to save her life. I'd like there to be an answer beyond "you're not pretty so you're screwed", but I'm not sure if there is

I want someone who can totally understand my issues and where i cam coming from... who is not afraid of me, make me feel comfortable, and will help me as far as getting my s**t together and stuff like that...

just please, someone please come up to, tell me im cute, and want to get to know me, give me a chance, stop being so picky, and actually talk to me... most NT men are douchebags, but girls fall for them anyway

I have seen women my age on OkCupid, POF, and Meetme.com who already have kids, but looking for a father... still picky they are

If a non virgin man decides to pop Catharascotia's cherry then moves on the next woman, then forget him...

I want sex, love, and time with my future gf

Definitely true. You could be super attractive, but unless you're giving out the right signals, it'll be harder.

A supermodel who acts like an angry robot may be pleasant to behold, but a total pain once you get to know her.

Ah, but if the girl is plain, people aren't going to get to know her in the first place.

Definitely true. You could be super attractive, but unless you're giving out the right signals, it'll be harder.

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Wrong gender, but sure works..

This only works for so long. When they continue to be mysterious and refusing to open for a certain amount of time people lose interest in the person.

I have had two occasions where woman either continue to use the "You don't know me that well" and you ask why is that the case (not pushing them), or outright not expand their horizons in opinions that maybe taboo at first but talked about when you have a certain level of trust.

It happens with men too...the mysterious side eventually becomes boring if you don't progress that so you are the trusted one for them to reveal more of themselves.

I don't mind shy/quiet girls but if they remain that around someone they trust (even if other people say that they seem more open towards you), I lose interest as that will be their maximum limit of letting someone in...and I couldn't live with zero excitement....I want to hear something new about them at least at a consistent pace so I go "Wow, I never knew you x!". It breathes new life into a relationship.

I think thats true. I read somewhere that looks can open doors but they don't stay open without the personality. In the case of an attractive aspie female. A guy might approach her, make small talk but if she doesn't reply much and not show much interest, its not really gonna go anywhere. And she might have trouble reading the signals that the guy is interested.

Which is why I think online dating is the future of humanity. "Wanna date?" "Ok. Somewhere public though because you could be a wierdo." Problem solved. Doesn't matter how plain or ugly you think you look, you will find that people's standards can be a mirror reflection of yours. So unless you've got ridiculously high standards, I can't imagine you not getting a date there.

That's of course if you can build up the confidence to do online dating... for me that was the hardest part.