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02 Jan 2013, 6:16 pm

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Not really, been really close to it though, few times.


Feckin' hell, man. I can't imagine that the Lebanese are that sexually repressed by the way you paint them. Get out there and flirt with the wumminz!



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02 Jan 2013, 6:33 pm

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Not really, been really close to it though, few times.


Feckin' hell, man. I can't imagine that the Lebanese are that sexually repressed by the way you paint them. Get out there and flirt with the wumminz!



I didn't paint anyone, I am talking about myself.



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06 Jan 2013, 9:52 am

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I know how you feel about people not believing you when you tell them you're age.

I'm 21 and everyone thinks I'm 14-15 years old. It's annoying but look at it this way - By the time we're in our 40's everyone will think that we're in our 20's!

It sucks now but you'll love it later on in life.

I wouldn't worry about being a virgin or that you haven't had your first kiss. There is no standard age when people should have experienced both of those things by now. Everyone is different.

If you really want to get over the nervousness that you may feel, there are many different ways that you can practice socializing. I used to go to coffee shops and bookstores all the time when I was 16-17 just to work on approaching people I didn't know and talking to them - eventually graduating to cute girls my age and striking up good convos - getting numbers even.

There's always a lot of things that you can do it just depends on how hard you're willing to work to improve yourself and up your odds of meeting someone.


I know everyone keeps saying to me you will be thankful when you are old but as of now it makes it rather difficult in the dating world as well as my lack of "experience". Nervousness and such is not my issue. I've gotten over that pretty much. I go to Church (try new churches), go to new fitness group classes, and similar things by myself...which I think is pretty brave lol. I'm just indifferent from a lot of people.


I don't think lack of experience is a negative, for women. Many guys would cherish someone who was not experienced, and a lot of men wouldn't like a girl who's been around too much, if you know what i mean. I can't speak for everyone, but it certainly wouldn't sit well with me. I'd prefer someone a little closer to my experience level. I can't expect a girl who hasn't had a BF before, they are practically non existent at my age, but a lot of guys will feel uncomfortable if she's had too much experience.

For some reason, being an inexperienced guy is a turn off for a lot of women. I would have thought she'd like to feel special, and I'd have thought being number 1000 conquest wouldn't make you feel very special and wanted.

I think if people here searched for people of a similar experience level, we'd have more success in these matters



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06 Jan 2013, 12:01 pm

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I don't think lack of experience is a negative, for women. Many guys would cherish someone who was not experienced, and a lot of men wouldn't like a girl who's been around too much, if you know what i mean. I can't speak for everyone, but it certainly wouldn't sit well with me. I'd prefer someone a little closer to my experience level. I can't expect a girl who hasn't had a BF before, they are practically non existent at my age, but a lot of guys will feel uncomfortable if she's had too much experience.

For some reason, being an inexperienced guy is a turn off for a lot of women. I would have thought she'd like to feel special, and I'd have thought being number 1000 conquest wouldn't make you feel very special and wanted.

I think if people here searched for people of a similar experience level, we'd have more success in these matters


I would actually really like a bf that has no experience or not much of it. I have yet to meet a nice guy. As a lady, I don't think it's a turn off at all! But rather sweet. Maybe it's because the only guys that are attracted to me and the only ones I can get are people who want a one night relationship :(



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06 Jan 2013, 9:18 pm

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I know everyone keeps saying to me you will be thankful when you are old but as of now it makes it rather difficult in the dating world as well as my lack of "experience"


I feel the same, and no, to be honest.... I am not thankful for that now at this age (30).

You're not old lol. So, you're lacking "experience" too?


2012 was my true first year of experience in that area; to an extent.


so you lost the v-card.


Not really, been really close to it though, few times.


That's sad. I always thought you were funny and nice :(

I know you've been dating girls, so I'm wondering if you've had opportunities that you didn't take? Or have you never had the option of turning down an offer?

Do people in that region believe more in abstinence until marriage?

I lost my virginity when I was 17 to a girl I didn't even like (I was depressed and figured I'd take what I could get), and I kept losing the erection in the middle of the experience. Also I had sex a dozen times or so with a girl I did sincerely like last year.

I thought that was kind of odd because I thought you were more naturally socially gifted than myself.



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06 Jan 2013, 9:22 pm

I am really curious about what the OP looks like. Usually pretty girls can get laid whenever they want (but not necessarily by somebody they like). Also this is a little strange because usually guys are the ones who feel like s**t for being virgins, and somehow it's precious if a woman is a virgin.



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06 Jan 2013, 10:44 pm

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I am really curious about what the OP looks like. Usually pretty girls can get laid whenever they want (but not necessarily by somebody they like). Also this is a little strange because usually guys are the ones who feel like sh** for being virgins, and somehow it's precious if a woman is a virgin.
she's trolling for attention..i asked for her fb twnty times and she ignored me(she was begging guys to add her)


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06 Jan 2013, 10:47 pm

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I don't think lack of experience is a negative, for women. Many guys would cherish someone who was not experienced, and a lot of men wouldn't like a girl who's been around too much, if you know what i mean. I can't speak for everyone, but it certainly wouldn't sit well with me. I'd prefer someone a little closer to my experience level. I can't expect a girl who hasn't had a BF before, they are practically non existent at my age, but a lot of guys will feel uncomfortable if she's had too much experience.

For some reason, being an inexperienced guy is a turn off for a lot of women. I would have thought she'd like to feel special, and I'd have thought being number 1000 conquest wouldn't make you feel very special and wanted.

I think if people here searched for people of a similar experience level, we'd have more success in these matters


I would actually really like a bf that has no experience or not much of it. I have yet to meet a nice guy. As a lady, I don't think it's a turn off at all! But rather sweet. Maybe it's because the only guys that are attracted to me and the only ones I can get are people who want a one night relationship :(
then dont complain about being a ''losr virgin' you are insulting those of us who actually CANT lose our virginity. You are a relationship virgin not an involuntarily never had sex virgin. Go have sex with the many guys who want a one night relationship.


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06 Jan 2013, 11:09 pm

I seriously wonder why you have not been permanently banned from these forums wtfid2. All you do, in each and every thread is toss venom around.



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06 Jan 2013, 11:10 pm

If it's any consolation, you're not at all alone. I am also a female Aspie, of 25, who is a virgin. I don't have any shame about it.

However, I am experienced. I've kissed naked in a bed with someone and done other stuff with them, and other stuff with someone else. But I haven't actually had sex.
It's not a big deal. Sex follows on pretty quickly from kissing and fondling, and kissing and fondling feels nice with someone you like.

Just find someone you like in your own time, don't feel pressured, and explore your own body if it helps as well.

Don't be too hard on yourself about it.


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06 Jan 2013, 11:11 pm

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I seriously wonder why you have not been permanently banned from these forums wtfid2. All you do, in each and every thread is toss venom around.


I completely agree. I think he should be banned. He just spreads vitriol and pushes people's buttons- or tries to. He's not actually that affective, but in his attempts he is most annoying.


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06 Jan 2013, 11:31 pm

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I seriously wonder why you have not been permanently banned from these forums wtfid2. All you do, in each and every thread is toss venom around.
no i dont i support a lot of people on this site..perhaps you are blind to the threads brian runs makes? Im not tossing venom im stating truth
perhaps you are blind to the community hygiene and workout logs i have started to inspire people to better themselves?

i would go to an eye doctor.


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06 Jan 2013, 11:32 pm

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I seriously wonder why you have not been permanently banned from these forums wtfid2. All you do, in each and every thread is toss venom around.


I completely agree. I think he should be banned. He just spreads vitriol and pushes people's buttons- or tries to. He's not actually that affective, but in his attempts he is most annoying.
im not trying to push anyone's buttons im just stating truth


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07 Jan 2013, 12:02 am

wtfid2 wrote:
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I seriously wonder why you have not been permanently banned from these forums wtfid2. All you do, in each and every thread is toss venom around.


I completely agree. I think he should be banned. He just spreads vitriol and pushes people's buttons- or tries to. He's not actually that affective, but in his attempts he is most annoying.
im not trying to push anyone's buttons im just stating truth


He is entitled to his opinion as so are you within logic and reason. Simply because you find someone annoying doesn't mean you have the right to have them banned, you need a good logical reason before making a strong point against someone.



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07 Jan 2013, 7:54 am

to wtfid, you haven't asked me 20 times to be your friend. I'm not looking for attention either. For goodness sakes, if you want to be friends then lets be friends. I don't want hard feelings between anyone.



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I don't think lack of experience is a negative, for women. Many guys would cherish someone who was not experienced, and a lot of men wouldn't like a girl who's been around too much, if you know what i mean. I can't speak for everyone, but it certainly wouldn't sit well with me. I'd prefer someone a little closer to my experience level. I can't expect a girl who hasn't had a BF before, they are practically non existent at my age, but a lot of guys will feel uncomfortable if she's had too much experience.

For some reason, being an inexperienced guy is a turn off for a lot of women. I would have thought she'd like to feel special, and I'd have thought being number 1000 conquest wouldn't make you feel very special and wanted.

I think if people here searched for people of a similar experience level, we'd have more success in these matters


I would actually really like a bf that has no experience or not much of it. I have yet to meet a nice guy. As a lady, I don't think it's a turn off at all! But rather sweet. Maybe it's because the only guys that are attracted to me and the only ones I can get are people who want a one night relationship :(


Yeah :( I think we should be looking for people with similar wants and values to ourselves. This can be hard to find. Many aspies can be a bit old fashioned. So, I am unlikely to meet someone I'm compatible with in some sleazy bar, for example. Question is, where DO you find them these days? There's always online dating, but I don't trust that. I've heard a lot of horror stories about it from people.