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Yeah it just seems like putting on a mask to me, pretty much guaranteed to fall off during the first date. Also maybe those particular women are scammers; well at least not showing any consistency in personality and interests across all of their profiles raises my suspicions.

I'm on several sites myself, but I pretty much copy most of the essay from site to site. Maybe add or update things over time, but I keep it honest! That can come in handy too. I get more flirts on zoosk but you got to pay to reply on there. I often find the same women on free sites like POF.

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Hmmm ladies will hate that.

Lol

Boo, please don't link to posts on other forums. thank you.

OkC's gender ratio accordinf to quantcast:


http://www.quantcast.com/okcupid.com#!d ... nel-GENDER


That defies all the stats I saw previously? But again, these numbers make more sense to my exp on okc (Males were always much more).

It would have been nice, if the report could give male/female ratio per age group too. Unless of course I missed it somewhere.

EDIT: I see at the top of the age chart there is a selection for male or female, but it comes down to 1.34 male vs 0.8 female for my age group

Haven't used mine much of late......

I have one but have barely set it up or anything, mostly because I know what will happen.

OkCupid worked well for me. I was clear about who I am and what I wanted, and I posted videos I made at a story-telling party. You have to find the right balance of attracting what you want and filtering out what you don't want. I think a short video clip can save everybody time: it is like a first meeting on a first date: if a prospect likes your video, it is much more likely that s/he will like you.

Here is a story I posted. My current partner (now wearing my engagement ring) responded to my initial message by saying "You clearly know what you are doing. That is not a deterrence."

http://vimeo.com/41473060

check out my Aspie love philosophy essays at bobyamtich.com

I have only had bad experiences with OKC and other sites. Send out lots of messages for little or no response. What a total waste of time. The content of your profile does not matter and you are judged solely upon your profile picture.

OKC is a good option for women, not a good option for guys. Guys should try POF. I created a profile on POF last summer and got 3 unsolicited messages from nice women within a day, including one model I actually made it through two dates with (of course, it wasn't going to happen ... but at least the possibility was there).

I don't know if the gender ratio on OKC just sucks or what, but I hardly ever get messages on there (maybe 3 in 1 year), and my response rate--when I used it--was only about 1/7 vs. about 1/2 for POF. I think the jacked up match % on OKC might affect who communicates with you even if they would otherwise be a good match. The match questions on POF seem more targeted.

Here's just one example: If you asked me, I'd say I would never date a political conservative--something that would likely show up in either my or my prospective match's questions. However, if I happened to meet the right woman who happened to be conservative, I would probably make an exception. OKC's match questions throw up barriers that likely prevent this sort of thing from even happening while POF's simpler, more targeted matching system allows one to be more flexible on things like that.


That, and maybe the gender ratio on POF is just better.

^^^ Good for gay women but not for straight guys? Because if you mean good for straight women but not straight guys, that doesn't make sense. They have to find each other somehow. It must be good for the guys who meet the women who it is good for

hes refering to the old belief that men have a disproportionate ammount of "luck" in dating. Where 20% of men go out with the 80% of women. Leaving 80% of men to fight over 20% of women. And like most things it does have some truth to it. Just exagerated.

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OKC has too many dudes. So while OKC might be good for a few guys (I've gotten some dates off of there), or good for most guys willing to put in a lot of work, it's needlessly competitive. That doesn't mean every dating site is this way. I reopened my POF account two days ago, got 5 unsolicited messages from women on POF, and only responded to one. Yep Yep, that sounds a lot like what women do on OKC. That would never happen to me on OKC.

OKC is geared towards casual hookups, which is maybe why straight men like it in theory. POF allows members to filter messages from members who have messaged other members for casual sex and has other features that favor members looking for an actual relationship. Eharmony is all about relationships. So it makes sense that both of these sites (eharmony in particular) would have more women than OKC, which is basically a casual sex site.

yes yes YES! exactly!! ! eharmony has more women than men on it, as does chemistry.com (match.com is close to equal).