what type of dateless man are you?

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I guess I should have added
number 4: the short guy/ugly guy/geeky guy: guy who can't get date. based on the way he looks.

of course think someone here has made the ugly guy number 6, I think.

I can talk to women no problem. I just can't get any of them to fall in love with me. s**t i can't even get a 24 hour girlfriend,either.
Not that I really want one.

The additional options so far seem to be:
4) Married guy
5) Not-so-handsome guy
6) Guy who's excessively cautious, or has given up on dating

a combination of all 3, depending on time of day, current situation, how well i know her........
i cannot appoach someone i do not know yet, either becouse she will have her friends around her (scary), or becouse she is standing alone with a 'just stay away' air around her, which i will respect
with some alcohol or heavy peer pressure, i might be able to turn the situation on #1 into a #2, but then i wil be so awkward that it is failed from the start, i will feel like i am wasting her time with a useless aproach sentence, and even if i do get to converse, the only way i know to get a bit further is just blurting out something like "you date me?" (yeah, drunk :S)
with girls i already know, i'm the posterboy for #3, not wanting to risk the few friends i have, i will not make a move, even if pressured by perope around me, even if the girl in questions best friend tells me to go for it, i wont. i would need a direct invitation of the girl in question; evne then i'd hesitate...

then there is also #4 that i identify with; the clueless one.
there have been situations where woman heve thrown themselves at me, and i just completely misse dor misread the situation, thinking the "kiss me now" bodylanguage ment "get the hell away from me"...

you missed one, which i see sometimes on the board:

7 - a man who is extremely picky, with very specific or high standards

hyperlexian has a point. There are some guys here who have had women throwing themselves at them, yet they don't wanna give any of them a chance. Unless they have the terrible luck of just getting hit on by women they don't want to be with for good reasons (such as a personality clash)

Let's say a guy who's a 7 gets hit on by 3s and 4s, would giving them a chance and "settling" give him a nice relationship?

i don't tend to trust rating systems as they are quite juvenile, but logically.... if a person is being hit on by 3s and 4s... then wouldn't that person probably be around the same rating? isn't that the ultimate test of how hot a person is?

Depends on his social status, his confidence and so on. A lot of unconfident men and women date less attractive people from the opposite sex simply because it's "the safe option". Many unattractive men and women also hit on people who are more attractive than them if they can sense the said person's lack of confidence, lack of friends and so on. Furthermore, many ugly people (regardless of gender), are unaware of their own ugliness; just like many stupid people are happily oblivious to their own intellectual shortcomings.

I've been hit on by women from all over the scale (and I'm not a perfect 10, nor am I a 1). Getting someone's attention, getting a date or even getting a one night stand is not that big of a deal, even for an aspie. However, the more attractive ones lose interest very quickly if you're socially awkward.

just like you said (the bolded part) a person who thinks they are a 7 might not be. they may in fact be a 3 or 4, and a good indicator could be the type of people who are hitting on them. if it happened once in a while that they get hit on by people they consider unattractive it would seem to be an anomaly, but if it happened frequently then it should be a fairly reliable indicator of a person's own attractiveness.

and about the rest - if you are going to add other factors to attractiveness besides looks alone, such as social status and confidence, then surely you are judging women's attractiveness using similar traits and not simply physical factors. it would not make sense to add non-physical factor into men's levels of attractiveness but not women's. so perhaps a woman who you might think is a 3 or a 4 is actually much higher once you take those other factors into account.

Harold Lloyd's performance in Girl Shy.

that kind of guy I am.

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8 Asexual and simply uninterested in dating. I have never been on a date in my life and never wanted to. I have no problem talking to girls though I usually don't recognize flirting as I'm not looking for it.

Since I get pushed into the dirt by all types, this means that I am a confirmed "1".

noooooooo, but maybe low self-esteem makes you look like a lower number . your day will come

im a 6/7/8. lol

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