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12 Feb 2013, 10:02 am

I've been in this state for almost a year. I thought to myself "Do I really want to keep looking for a girlfriend?" and decided that I just don't care anymore. I'm content with my relationships and the search just kept depressing me.

Have you been alone so long that you just don't care anymore?


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12 Feb 2013, 10:51 am

Jerricko wrote:
Have you been alone so long that you just don't care anymore?


It used to bother me but the idea of a long term relationship bothered me more.

Now it doesn't bother me at all.



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12 Feb 2013, 11:28 am

it bothers me a lot, but im on the verge of not caring aswell it just seems there's not a girl for me lol.


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12 Feb 2013, 11:47 am

I have to say yes. While I wouldn't mind being with a girl I've come to understand that even if I could get the best for me I'd not be content in my life. This has lead me to believe that I shouldn't bother with women at all.



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12 Feb 2013, 12:08 pm

From what I have read it is not uncommon for aspies to give up on the opposite sex. The same could be said for anyone that struggles to maintain a relationship, with whatever syndrome or physical condition. Life does go on.

i suppose it is better to not completely give up but to just stop being proactive. If the opportunuity arises you should nevertheless go after it in my opinion, and not avoid it which can be the danger if you feel you have "given up".



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12 Feb 2013, 12:10 pm

Relationships are sand upon the winds of loneliness, so as long as you set sail you're bound to come across a few granules during your journey.



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12 Feb 2013, 12:13 pm

Decorequiem wrote:
Relationships are sand upon the winds of loneliness, so as long as you set sail you're bound to come across a few granules during your journey.


That's depressingly beautiful and uplifting all at once.



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12 Feb 2013, 12:29 pm

Jerricko wrote:
I've been in this state for almost a year. I thought to myself "Do I really want to keep looking for a girlfriend?" and decided that I just don't care anymore. I'm content with my relationships and the search just kept depressing me.

Have you been alone so long that you just don't care anymore?


:roll:
Well, I've been in this state for my whole entire life. It really can't be that bad.



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12 Feb 2013, 12:50 pm

For me it was a seemingly endless succession of abusive relationships. I called it the parade of scumbags. and being female, I got scared and was sick of living like that. As time goes by and I'm still single, I seem to maintain the same level of not caring either way.


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12 Feb 2013, 12:50 pm

Jerricko wrote:
I've been in this state for almost a year. I thought to myself "Do I really want to keep looking for a girlfriend?" and decided that I just don't care anymore. I'm content with my relationships and the search just kept depressing me.

Have you been alone so long that you just don't care anymore?


lol, A year isn't very long at all for this subject despite your statement to the contrary.



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12 Feb 2013, 1:19 pm

Once you give up on this, it will come to you more easily. People like those who are unavailable and confident. If you learn to act like a confident NT, you can get a lot more interest. The trouble is, you will also recognize that most NTs are just awful, and most Aspies are too unique. I personally would not give up but I would take it easy and not try to hard. Go to college if you are not already and you will increase the available people you are around. AG



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12 Feb 2013, 1:20 pm

Venger wrote:
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I've been in this state for almost a year. I thought to myself "Do I really want to keep looking for a girlfriend?" and decided that I just don't care anymore. I'm content with my relationships and the search just kept depressing me.

Have you been alone so long that you just don't care anymore?


lol, A year isn't very long at all for this subject despite your statement to the contrary.


I think we're misunderstanding each other. I haven't been looking for a year, I gave up nearly a year ago; at least, that what I think you mean. I was trying to get a girlfriend for at least 7 years.


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12 Feb 2013, 1:47 pm

I learned very young that its best not to care. Caring means you end up confused or hurt in some way. I really don't think the vast majority of people care either.



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12 Feb 2013, 2:11 pm

I want to build a big house and just blast loud music in surround system. Or buy one. As for people, women. I do not care to even think about it.



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12 Feb 2013, 2:14 pm

Jerricko wrote:
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Jerricko wrote:
I've been in this state for almost a year. I thought to myself "Do I really want to keep looking for a girlfriend?" and decided that I just don't care anymore. I'm content with my relationships and the search just kept depressing me.

Have you been alone so long that you just don't care anymore?


lol, A year isn't very long at all for this subject despite your statement to the contrary.


I think we're misunderstanding each other. I haven't been looking for a year, I gave up nearly a year ago; at least, that what I think you mean. I was trying to get a girlfriend for at least 7 years.
7 yrs is a lot but most people here go 20-30 :p


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12 Feb 2013, 2:41 pm

i don't really care what males think of me anymore because i know they won't look at me as a human being because of my face so i don't consider them human beings anymore either. about to give up on lesbians too. god knows it's been a long time coming. i'll never so much as kiss anyone ever.