Girl wants to "get to know me better"

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Shortly after I got to school, the first bell rang, and I started walking to my first period class. Then, a girl from my advisory/homeroom walked next to me and started talking to me. She then said, "You go hiking a lot, right?" (Not the exact words.) I said yes, as I frequent the mountains and trails and told her that during that class. She then asked me if she could be my "hiking buddy" and said that she wanted to "get to know me better." She also asked me when I'm going hiking this week (2/10-2/16.) This tells me that she's interested in me, but I could be overthinking it. There are a few things I'm concerned about, though, that I'm hoping you could help me with: I don't know if I like her back, although I wouldn't mind just going out on a "date," so to speak, to see if this will work out (assuming that this is for real). I've never had a girlfriend, and I'm too shy to ask someone out myself, so I may not get an opportunity like this until I break out of my shell (hopefully), but I don't want to cause any false hope/feelings. Secondly, where I live, there is two feet of snow on the ground, and I'm worried that if we go out in these conditions, I might scare her off. Thirdly, it could be a joke.

Thank you for any help!

Well... there seems to be a common interest so find the time to take a short hike and ask her if she wants to go along regardless of the snow. Secondly, don't try and treat this like a date if you really don't want to and if you are interested in having someone tag along to talk to and hang out, then this can be beneficial for the both of you. Just remember not to acknowledge any negative thoughts you have and just go with the flow and listen to the positive thoughts.
However though, I gotta ask how it is that you truly feel when you are in the presence of this person. What do your feelings tell you?

She practically asked you out herself! I'd say invite her to go hiking with you next time you go, if nothing else you'll both have fun! I'd say keep it simple, maybe go out for a picnic then go for a short/relatively easy hike, like an hour or two. If it works, then you can start doing it more often and go on longer ones.

Assuming it's not a joke...

You don't have to know whether you like her back yet, and shouldn't assume too much about her feelings yet either. I doubt that she's made up her mind yet, and she probably doesn't expect that you have either. It's a chance for her to get to know you better, like she said -- and also a chance for you to get to know her better. Once you know each other better, then you can each figure out whether you're interested. It's too early to worry about false hopes just yet, unless they're your own (meaning that you shouldn't read too much into it yet, just see how thing go at first).

She said that she hasn't been hiking in a while, so she has been hiking before. I have gear if she needs it, so that's not a problem. As far as my feelings when I'm around her, I am comfortable talking with her-we talk a lot when we have free time in class, and my feelings tell me that I should give it a try. If we don't end up taking it any further, we can still be friends. By the way, when she asked me if she could tag along with me, I said yes; we didn't agree to a time and date yet, though. You guys are definitely right; I should ease into this and treat this as a chance to get to know each other.

My opinion is a bit like the others, Go hiking with her keep it cassual and friendly after if you like her and wish to have something more, -ASK HER OUT- the following day or so. If you don't feel for her in that kinda way just keep it friendly last thing you want is to miss any of her advances, not ask her out, become her friend, develop feelings and get stuck being just a friend. Gotta take a gamble if you dig her.

She wants you to bang her.

Get to it.

Go for it. Go Hiking, See where things go. Pack a few extra supplies, Even better if you have Thermos and theres snow on the ground.. pack that f****r and fill it with Hot Cocoa.. then when you guys start getting cold.. you can be all crazy prepared with the hot cocoa..

It don't get any more obvious than this. Quit overthinking, ask her to go hiking and GO!! !! !! !! !!

She's interested in you, and knowing that you're into hiking, she's trying to enter into your world by making that the activity. Don't over think it... it's easier to end a relationship than to start one. Take her hiking, don't move too fast with her, but definitely let her know that you're interested (unless you're totally turned off by her).

Also, bring condoms just in case.

As far as the whole banging thing, she's not exactly someone I'd have sex with. If sex is what she wants, then there's a problem.

Don't you think you should tell her that before you go away into the wilderness together?

why not?