They always say you should let a man approach a woman....

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Maigheo
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13 Feb 2013, 4:22 pm

... But what if none of them actually finds her worth the effort?

I'm struggling with this at the moment. I'm never approached by guys and if I do like a guy and tell him, he always rejects me. What can I do about this?

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13 Feb 2013, 4:50 pm

Im constantly approached by women.

I'm in no position to advise you as I'm male - but I would say sometimes I HATE being approached if approach means sexual assault.

Do you mean in bars and clubs or normal life?

If in a club - get dancing!!

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13 Feb 2013, 4:59 pm

Keep trying. Many guys would prefer it if the woman shows initiative.

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13 Feb 2013, 5:01 pm

Maybe they're afraid of the Celtic woman's wrath.

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13 Feb 2013, 5:18 pm

Lots of men seem to like girls to make the first move.
I'm really lousy at it because of childhood upbringing.Never call a man,let him chase you,don't be aggressive or you will considered "forward".
Blah,blah,blah.Wish I could get over it.

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13 Feb 2013, 5:25 pm

^^^ I like being chased!

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13 Feb 2013, 5:50 pm

^^^^^^I have short legs,you will have to want to be caught. :lol:

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13 Feb 2013, 7:28 pm

"They" are idiots.

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13 Feb 2013, 8:05 pm

I personally find it flattering when women approach me. Now, I'm looking for some very specific things in a mate, so it's unlikely that I will reciprocate her interest. But if she is someone I could have a long-term relationship with, or if I wasn't so strict on who I will date, I would certainly want to reciprocate her interest. Of course, whether or not I have the social skills to recognize she's trying to approach me and then figure out how to respond is an entirely different issue :-P

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14 Feb 2013, 5:47 am

Oh I do dress up very feminine. When I go out I mostly wear skirts or dresses and high heels, makeup (including the blood red lipstick) but nothing to revealing. And yes I do like chivalry and men approaching me, fighting for me and showing as much effort as possible..

However they never do it so yes I have no choice but approaching them every now and then, do I? But I never approach guys I'm not attracted to and mostly I am attracted to very strong confidence and charms. Men who are charming and confident are more prone to reject me because mostly I'm everything but confident. I only approach men when I'm slightly tipsy so that might be a turnoff. Furthermore they don't approach me because I mostly have friends around me.. However if I do not have friends around me I'm alone and feel awkward which is not attractive either. In short.. I must be hopeless?

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14 Feb 2013, 7:39 am

I'm mega confused - your profile says you are male.

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14 Feb 2013, 7:45 am

That is scary... I think I'd better give it a sex change to avoid further confusion :-P . Since in real life I'm pretty convinced of being a woman ;-)